[MRT6211]

So I’m in this situation where I’m trying to go back to school and the school is trying to make all of these excuses that I’m not stable enough, which they have no evidence to back up, and my T and entire treatment team says the exact opposite, that I’m very, very ready to go back and more stable than I ever have been before.
So after I left a meeting with the school psychiatrist in tears because he personally attacked me and basically there is no recovery from BPD and that I’ll always be like this, I called T while crying hysterically. T talked to me for a little bit to make sure I was alright, but then was like “I’ll call you back soon, I have to make some phone calls.”
So long story short, she called both the school psychiatrist and my case worker at the treatment monitoring agency the school made me enroll in, and apparently she went OFF on my case worker because of his false assertions (he literally doesn’t know me at all, really). She was really trying to advocate for me and he was being a jerk, apparently, so she gave it to him straight and raised her voice to him out of frustration. He told her she was being “unprofessional” and then later on the phone to me, told me that he wanted me to find a new T. Then I raised my voice to him and said “NO. She has SAVED. MY. LIFE.” At least he backed down after that.
It was quite the day and I’m still in the battle to go back to school...which is another story in its entirety. But, I just made this post to say that I felt so honored that T would stick up for me like that and that she cares that much and is passionate enough to react that way for me. She told me she went into “mama bear mode.” She always says her therapy clients are like her children. It makes me feel nice and cared about, even if she wasn’t technically “professional” in her actions. I would argue the opposite. Her being so passionate about me and what’s right for me only makes her a better and more effective T and therefore, to me, a better professional. I just have this warm feeling of care and connection with T in my heart right now. Despite all of the awful stuff that’s happening in life right now, I’m getting through it because of her.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm so glad your T stood up for you and you're stable enough to fight to go back to school.

Thanks for sharing that heartwarming story. I'm glad you're stable enough to go back to school and hope it works out in your favor soon!

[growlycat]

Any chance you can go to a different school? Sounds like you have the right t, wrong school. You are right that it is false that one can’t recover from bpd. That is crap many people get better especially with treatment while you are young.

I was happy to read this. As to this comment, "...even if she wasn’t technically “professional” in her actions," I don't believe she was. Just because jerko says she was unprofessional does not make it so. If he can't deal with a discussion where another professional disagrees with him (I suspect it's because he's an M.D., aka god) he then feels disrespected. You've got a very good therapist on your side.

If I was in your shoes, I would keep up the fight to be reinstated because it :might" haunt you 20 plus years from now if you walk away. I would also look for another school to start fresh. My opinion only.

Good luck.

[Anne2.0]

I have had at least one person tell me I was "unprofessional" when I called her out for her jerkish (and unprofessional) behavior. So sometimes people just use that word as a code for saying they don't want to acknowledge their own ****** professionalism.

I think it was great that your T was able to do something practical to assist you. I agree with AB that you should continue fighting but unless it is not possible, I think you'd benefit from going to a school where you don't have to deal with these jerks who think you don't have any potential.

[MRT6211]

Thanks guys for your replies. Unfortunately, I’m in medical school, and if I were to leave this school, no other school in the US would accept me. So I have to stick with them, even though they are jerks, and I agree that there is certainly recovery from BPD, and I think these last few months have shown that I’m living proof of it. It’s a crappy situation, unfortunately, but I’m trying to push through and make the best of it....with T by my side!

It's great to have someone stick up for you, isn't it? I had a T do that before, and it felt good. Not too keen about a T who gets too enmeshed, but I never had parents look out for me growing up and it's helpful to have the limited experience. So glad she is by your side and you are not alone in the fight.

I was just going to ask you what you major was... Don't let them discourage you. Keep your head high.

I love reading happy news like this. Thank you for sharing it. I too really like it when my therapist sticks up for me and protects me. I am glad youre therapist is there for you.