[MRT6211]

I know I struggle with maternal transference with my T. And by that, I mean that sometimes I see her like my mom/a maternal figure. Probably because she is giving me the support and really parenting that I needed at a young age and never got.

I’d love to hear other peoples’ experiences with parental transference.

[MoxieDoxie]

Yes my former T, whether he realized it or not, re-parented me and it healed many dysfunctional aspects of me.

[nottrustin]

Yes with my current T, sort of. I have never seen T as a mother figure but more as an aunt. Growing up I had two great aunts who were an important part of my life. They gave me a lot of unconditional support and guidance. That is how I see T.

[stopdog]

No - my parents were not as crazy or inconsistent as I find therapists to be

[GeekyOne]

Yes, with current T. It's driving me crazy. One part of me really wants her to mother me. Another part of me says that's ridiculous and I should flee. Yet another part is very intellectual about it all and says transference is good (haven't had it with previous Ts) and bodes well for the therapy as long as T maintains appropriate boundaries (which she seems to be).

[healinginprogress]

Yes. Although I think she sparked the idea originally. I think she started experiencing some counter-transference before I had maternal transference. It does seem a little odd to me because she's not that much older than me, but that doesn't really matter from what I've read.

[DP_2017]

Nope. No parental type feelings at all with mine

[MRT6211]

Originally Posted by GeekyOne

Yes, with current T. It's driving me crazy. One part of me really wants her to mother me. Another part of me says that's ridiculous and I should flee. Yet another part is very intellectual about it all and says transference is good (haven't had it with previous Ts) and bodes well for the therapy as long as T maintains appropriate boundaries (which she seems to be).

Yes, exactly, I am right with you there. I want her to take care of me like I’m her child and to be there for support, but I’m also terrified of this feeling. It feels wrong to have it and I’m scared I’m going to get overly dependent on her and then she’s going to leave me. It feels almost like transference is wrong, because I’m supposed to be learning how to be independent and regulate my emotions on my own, but I want to be dependent on her and for her to protect me all of the time.

She’s taking a long weekend right now, had Friday off and has Monday off. Somehow this has been really hard for me. It scares me that it’s that hard for me.

[annielovesbacon]

No, because both my former and current therapists are only about 10 years older than me, I have I guess a "friendship" or "mentor" type transference. I've had maternal transference with teachers in the past, so I'm willing to bet that a therapist closer in age to my parents would evoke parental transference in me considering problems I've had with my parents (especially my mom).

[junkDNA]

yes, intensely. we discuss it though

[Echos Myron redux]

Yes. Mostly maternal even though they were both male Ts.

[weaverbeaver]

Yes, I have very strong maternal transference for my t. At first I thought it was a crush, more like erotic transference but then I realised its more maternal.
T and I have never discussed thiS about her but we did discuss it about another t I had whom I had a very strong erotic transference for.
Sometimes I think my t feels safer when it’s about other people and if I told her about my really strong desires she would freak out.
I have talked about my attachment to her a lot and how sometimes when I ring her, there is no one else I can ring and she doesn’t mind, she is always glad I reached out to her.
I imagine what it would be like if t was my mom and we could go shopping together and for lunch and on holidays- all the things I never did with my own mom and sometimes it breaks my heart because I know that I will never have a mom like that.

[CantExplain]

Yes and we talked about it.

[Merope]

I have intense paternal transference for my current T and I feel he is actively but subtly reparenting me. It took me months to muster up the courage to tell him and he took it really well. It’s a very healing experience but I feel like I’m becoming a little dependent on him. I hope this will subside in time.

Not parental.... i do have sisterly feelings for her. I would love if she were my sister.

[fille_folle]

Yes, and now I'm crying because I want my Ts and it's not fair. I feel like a child winding up for a tantrum. Attachment issues suck.

[winterblues17]

I don't know what it is... I think I do, but it kind of changes all the time. Right now I'd say big time feeling it cos I feel like a child right at this moment who is missing their mummy, and it sucks because it's all new to me! Suppose I still find it all very confusing and worrying.

[toomanycats]

I had stroooong maternal transference for exT

I have strong paternal transference for current T

[Lemoncake]

I feel like I have both maternal and paternal feelings directed towards my male T.

I was starved of good enough mothering.
My desire to be loved, heard, nurtured still twisted itself toward the sun to get that shadow into the spirit.
T said she didn't think whrn we first started that I would ever attach to her. I did. I know fake, dysfunctional people. I didn't until T. She's different to anything I've ever had in my life.
What she's given me is, priceless.
So in answer to your question. Yes, my wounds grew toward T. She met them and some.

[88Butterfly88]

No, probably because I didn't have any issues with my parents. I did have issues in childhood that I talk about but they took place at preschool without my parent's knowledge.