Has your T ever hugged you?

The first time was because I asked, the last session before she moved away. Then when she visited here a few months before she moved back and I went to see her at the resort she was staying at, it just seemed kinda natural to hug hello cuz it had been a couple years since I'd last seen her, then we hugged again before I left. After she moved back, she said a couple different times "I feel like I want to give you a hug" or something or I'd ask for one and now at some point awhile back we just started hugging at the door before I leave every session. It's a healing thing for me too, because of the stuff we talk about, especially here lately, it lets me know I'm still accepted there and not judged and stuff. Besides the fact that I'm just naturally a hugger anyway (always lots of hugs to be given/had when I hang out with my drumming peeps).

Yes. All t's except current t have offered me hugs.

I am so lucky that t hugs me every session if I want it. Most t’s wont do it or will do so infrequently

I don’t know if what my T does is technically a hug. We’ve never done a hug standing up. But she sits next to me when I’m struggling and puts her arm around me. Is that a hug? Is that holding me? I don’t know, but it’s so comforting, and I’m very appreciative.

Oh gross, if my T ever tells me to hug myself, I will very forcefully roll my eyes at her and tell her never to say that to me again.

I put "other," because she has mentioned she will hug clients if they ask (and apparently many ask), but I would find hugging her weird. Like hugging my doctor at the end of doctor appointments--though i really like my doctor. She is also quite tall and i am very short...so that would be awkward too.

yes, both at the end of the sessions and in difficult times. felt comforting.

Yes, all the time. T is very huggy and we also hold hands while we sit next to each other and talk.

I've hugged two previous therapists at termination. Both times they were the ones who initiated, and it seemed like a fine way to close things so I took them up on it. I can't imagine hugging my current therapist, and I doubt he'd ever suggest it.

No and I was redirected when I asked for it. Many months later (after moved to private practice) I thought she might offer, but she didn't. I told her after that I was glad she didn't offer then because I would have felt like I manipulated the situation to get the hug and that I'd rather hug (or at least a first hug) to be when things are more on an even playing field.

Most the time now, I don't want a hug but I do want to be held.

I voted yes, but I didn't ask. My T hugs me at the end of every session.

Yes, first time after about a year and a half and several times since then, after a difficult session. He's the one that offers but I think he knows when I need it. It's comforting when things are difficult but I wouldn't want it after each session.

I said 'other'. She has never hugged me, but (for me) I neither want one nor would it make me uncomfortable. On the other hand, for her it would be difficult to hug and maintain a professional distance so I'm glad she has that boundary because the relationship is important to me and I wouldn't want her to do anything that might jeopardize it.

She would if I asked. But it's far to terrifying for me.

No. I'm not sure whether I'd ever want him to, but he has already stated that he'd never hug a client, so I don't bother thinking about it too much.

I hugged once when I terminated with exT. It wasn't nearly as satisfying as I'd hoped it would be. I'd never ask, nor do I have the desire to hug my current T.

Oh good lord mine always wants me to hug my child part. They seem to think all my troubles will go away if I love, hug and talk nice to my child parts.

Yes, thank God

I grew up feeling awkward about hugging people so when my T told me, maybe in our 2nd session, that she hugs clients, I was afraid and didn't know if I wanted to or not. I wasn't sure where I was supposed to touch her! However, it's 8 years later and we have hugged after every session for the entire time! I learned to spontaneously hug others in my life from my T. She doesn't always follow rules. She goes by her gut feeling. That's why she held my hand for many sessions in the past, and allowed it last session after about 4 years of no handholding.

Similar story for me. Only it's only been a year and I haven't hugged others yet

Nope and I like it that way.

I would like to give and get a hug when we finish our work together, though.

I don't know how I would feel about any T giving me a hug.

We've only hugged three times. And only the last time felt real.

Mine has never hugged me and never offered, and that's probably a good thing. It would feel a little too personal, and I already struggle with feeling attracted to him at times. The physical distance probably helps to keep that issue under control. If he were to offer at our last session, whenever that happens, I would accept it. But only then.

I think it would be weird if we hugged every session. (I'm speaking only for us and our relationship, I don't think it's weird in general for therapists and clients to hug.)

That said, I will have to stop seeing her in 1.5 years when I graduate because she works at my university's clinic, and a goodbye hug would feel appropriate, and I would like that. But I would never ask.

No, I don't like to be touched and t knows that so she doesn't touch me. I only like air hugs and virtual hugs like the kind here on PC.