Has your T ever hugged you?

T1, yes. She asked if I wanted a hug. It's not after every session. And sometimes I don't want it.

T2, no. She never offered. I have expressed that I wanted a hug from her. But no. She's cold. I don't understand how you can not give someone a hug after a hard session in which a client had to cry a lot. It seems so cold.

I have a child part that wants a hug but the adult part feels ashamed.

I have felt the same. Its confusing as hell.

I think reading this has hit home to me, I think that's exactly how I feel about it, i want it, yet at the same time I feel ashamed at myself for wanting it. I also feel though I'm gonna disgust her if I did ever ask, which I think is my own thinking because she has never given me any indication of these feelings, so I suppose it's just me being disgusted with myself ultimately!
Although when I read on here about the many Ts that do offer hugs etc, I kinda then get the feelings 'oh t must be me then'

I felt exactly that and we had a huge rupture when i first tapped into that feeling. It took us months to work through it and finally tell T what i wanted and we discussed that disgusting feeling. I was afraid i would contaminate her goodness with my wrongness. Those were hard sessions but worth it in the end.

No, my T never give hugs .....She seems like a warm loving hugger though.It just wouldnt be with her clients .She makes me feel held in other ways though , shes very good at that

I just wanted to update on this thread and say that, I managed to overcome certain shame based things regarding not feeling good enough to hug etc, and we have hugged since.
It definitely had a comfort feeling I was longing for and took away a lot of the shame I had about being not touch worthy!
I think to those that were in similar boats, I hope u can get the courage to speak about this subject!

My former T would hug me, but only by asking first. I'm not someone who likes to be touched given my history (it's gotten better though). I did appreciate her gesture though. It was nice to have someone to lean on when things were tough.

My current T, we don't hug. I've been working with her for the past 6 months. I don't feel the need to be hugged by her. Of course, I'm open to it, further down the road.

sometimes I really wish they would.

I think it would be nice- and when they don't I kind of feel like I've done something wrong

I attempted to leave my session the other day without a hug. But I couldn't do it haha and turned around before I stepped out the door and said "I need my hug" and she laughed and we hugged as she said "You're so funny." I know, t. I know.

Yes a lot actually but most of my t’s in the past were cautious about it. In some ways it’s nice that it doesn’t feel like a big deal anymore but I do value it

T2 said she does hugs so I asked her to, just to see if it did anything but it didn't.

My T has never offered to hug me. I feel very torn about if I want one. Sometimes I want a hug so badly and she seems like a person who a hug could feel good from. On the other hand, a while back I asked my pdoc (who does some therapy also with me, and who I see weekly) for a hug when I thought I was leaving the country for good. It didn't feel right though, when she did hug me.

I'd really like a hug or to be held. I think I would accept if T offered. I need reassurance that I'm okay. I worry, like others have mentioned, about my wrongness contaminating her though.

When I was at an inpatient facility recently, my T hugged me after she visited me. I thought it was sweet. I had a session with her yesterday after I got out, and at the end of the session she was like "We've hugged, so we must now continue!" and hugged me.

I don't hate it, I don't love it...more confused than anything else.

My T and I now hug after every session. I saw him for over a year before this happened. It's really, really nice.

It’s amazing you managed to do that, I hope you know you’re worthy! I get occasional hugs though we’ve never talked about it so I think that’s really brave.

Thanks, it's been really nice to know that she thinks that and is not disgusted to come a little closer at times, it's kind of given me an extra bit of confidence!
Who would have thought a simple hug is all it takes to make someone feel better about themselves sometimes!

Where I live, people usually greet each other with either a hug or a kiss on the cheek (or both cheeks). I had to vote “other” because she gives me a hug - a quick one - every week when the session ends.

My t and I hug hello and goodbye.

My former T declined to touch me at all throughout our year of therapy, even though it was something I felt like I really wanted. She said she didn't think it would be good for me, though if she ever explained why she never did it in a way that made sense to me. (There wasn't a whole bunch of transference going on or anything, so it wasn't about wanting to avoid exacerbating some intense maternal or erotic thing.)

However, when we terminated a few weeks ago she did hug me. We'd run out of time and I was sitting dejectedly in my chair, trying to gather the wherewithal to get up and leave. She said, "how would you feel about a hug?" And I was so stunned that I remember saying haltingly, "I think... that would be... nice." We stood up and hugged, and I pressed my cheek against her shoulder. She said, "take care of yourself," to which I replied "you take care of yourself too" which made her smile. As we pulled away she touched my cheek, sweetly, as if I were very young or she were very old. I told her I'd see her around (which is probably true since we work for the same hospital system), and then I left.

It was nice, I think--helped that last session feel final and reasonably okay instead of just sad and frustrating and anticlimactic.

I've never felt too close to a therapist.

I marked other. My T hugs me after every session unless I make it clear I do not want to (which is seldom). It is very healing and helps my relationship with her grow.

My old T used to hug me all the time. I miss her hugs.

My T hugged me after every session, twice a week for four years, if I wanted it. She just stopped the use of hugs, finding them unhelpful for my therapy. Whatever. I'm quitting her anyway. Actually, she's quitting me....

Even if I was a huggy sort, which I am decidedly not, I just don't see either of the two I hired as being huggable in any way. They were not warm fuzzy sorts. I can't picture either of them hugging anyone.