[weaverbeaver]

T opened up a Pandora’s box then finished the session by saying she is going on holidays!
Therapy doesn’t feel safe anymore! There is no containment!

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

T opened up a Pandora’s box then finished the session by saying she is going on holidays!
Therapy doesn’t feel safe anymore! There is no containment!

Why the bleep do they do that?? I'm so sorry.

[Deejay14]

When she gets back make containment #1 on the list and make sure you tell her why. I am also a big fan of learning distress tolerance skills before you start talking about tougher issues.

[weaverbeaver]

Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Why the bleep do they do that?? I'm so sorry.

I know right? It’s like a punch in the face or a slap on the cheek

[weaverbeaver]

Originally Posted by Deejay14

When she gets back make containment #1 on the list and make sure you tell her why. I am also a big fan of learning distress tolerance skills before you start talking about tougher issues.

I was wondering about this and how many ts actually consider this when they open stuff up and then swan off on their holidays.
Thank you. I will certainly have a talk about making this a priority if we continue to work together!
I was thinking of trying DBT to learn some tolerance skills.

[SalingerEsme]

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

T opened up a Pandora’s box then finished the session by saying she is going on holidays!
Therapy doesn’t feel safe anymore! There is no containment!

I am so sorry! It must feel like she snuck up on you bc she told you at the end of the session. They know that is "doorknob " commentary when it comes from a client.

This happened to me in the second week of January. I am afraid to even look back at my posts bc I was beside myself. I told him he had see-ya-wouldnt -want-to-be-ya written all over his face. He coaxed me into relating a trauma detail I was very leery of talking about , and then his parting words to my tear-streaked face were" Oh I will be out next week". Recently I have felt sentimental about how much he is there for every session, on time focused and really listens, and appreciating that more. That is the flip side.

I’m so sorry! that is one of the hardest things to go through!!

[weaverbeaver]

Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I am so sorry! It must feel like she snuck up on you bc she told you at the end of the session. They know that is "doorknob " commentary when it comes from a client.



This happened to me in the second week of January. I am afraid to even look back at my posts bc I was beside myself. I told him he had see-ya-wouldnt -want-to-be-ya written all over his face. He coaxed me into relating a trauma detail I was very leery of talking about , and then his parting words to my tear-streaked face were" Oh I will be out next week". Recently I have felt sentimental about how much he is there for every session, on time focused and really listens, and appreciating that more. That is the flip side.

That’s pretty awful, no duty of care to clients. I felt my t coaxed me too!
I would appreciate a notice from t of her vacation at the start of session so then I could of decided to proceed to talk about this horrible trauma.

It’s very hard to see that see ya- wouldn’t want to be ya face when there is so much pain. I thought my t had a smug face too but then I thought that I had probably distorted it in my head.

Did it take long for you to trust your t again?