[GeekyOne]

I think I must’ve used her up. I had called three times within the last week but then she no-showed for our remote video session on Wednesday. She's sick of me. I’m just too much.

I saw pdoc on Friday. She doesn’t know why T stood me up. It’s happening though, I know it. I’m too much and T is pulling away. Everybody does eventually. I understand. I’m sorry.

I'm anxious about seeing her in the office tomorrow. What if she brings it up? Or, worse, doesn't say anything about it at all?

How am I supposed to get past this? She's supposed to be the predictable one. She knows I have trouble with abandonment and being forgotten about. Or I thought she did.

something probably came up, and i doubt its personal. that said, your t better also have a really good reason for not showng up (like an emergency). Or perhaps she forgot. more han likely, something unexpected came up. i hope you get some answers tomorrow.

[maybeblue]

This is NOT your fault. She is the professional. Even if she had a problem with you, which I doubt she does, professionals don't just not show and not return calls. They talk to you.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by GeekyOne

I think I must’ve used her up. I had called three times within the last week but then she no-showed for our remote video session on Wednesday. She's sick of me. I’m just too much.

She could be sick of something else. Flu, for instance.

[Fuzzybear]

She could be sick - physically sick I mean This would worry me too though

[SlumberKitty]

If you T doesn't bring it up, I would. At least you would know why she was a no-show. It's not very professional, but sometimes things happen, like a missed booking, or something. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[GeekyOne]

I did see T on Monday. She invited me in from the waiting room with her sad-smile. Then right away said she owed me a huge apology. She took full responsibility for missing our meeting last week. She said she's been really busy because she's taken on probably too much in her evening hours. She just forgot. She said she felt horrible about it and wanted to know how I felt.

I cried (of course, *sigh*). I couldn't make eye contact for most of the session, worrying at my hands and stuff.

I said she was supposed to be the reliable and consistent person in my life. I asked if she only remembered because pdoc might've said something. She said no, that she didn't remember until Sunday afternoon when she went for a walk and had the opportunity to decompress. She said she'd talked to a colleague about it that day because it upset her so much or something.

T said she's not mad at me. She's not pulling away and I'm not too much.

It still really hurts that she just... forgot me. Will I be able to trust her again? Now I feel like a huge burden or something.

[susannahsays]

Not to be rude, but I don't think she can simultaneously forget you and also feel burdened by you. That just doesn't make sense.

[CantExplain]

What is she going to do to make it up to you?

[GeekyOne]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

Not to be rude, but I don't think she can simultaneously forget you and also feel burdened by you. That just doesn't make sense.

She specifically said she has too much on her plate. She's stressed and stress can cause you to forget things. I am one of the things on her plate and I am one of the things she forgot.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

What is she going to do to make it up to you?

She didn't say anything about that. Should she have? What do you mean?

[CantExplain]

An apology is more convincing with compensation.

[GeekyOne]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

An apology is more convincing with compensation.

I guess I am not sure what else she could do?