Couch 174: Good Lord, Those People

Ihave tried tofu twice once in soup and once cooked by a friend. I liked it much better in the soup

My thread is so getting shut down... Are we not allowed to ask people to be civil on threads we started?

I think you can, but maybe word it differently.

Well, I didn't word it that way, but apparently the way I worded it, in trying to be playful, was worse. I thought personal attacks weren't allowed on this forum anyway. I'm not talking about people attacking me so much, but each other. I just don't like having something I started leading to so much vitriol.

How are you doing tonight, Scarlet?

Also when people feel the need to defend themselves against each other it takes away from the topic and people make the thread about them instead of sticking to the original topic.

Yes, exactly. I feel like people should be able to share their opinions without attacking. I want to be like 'Stick to the topic!" but that probably sounds like I'm talking to a child as well. Maybe this comes from parenting a 7-year-old...

Good actually. Thank you! H didn't go to hospital last night. He promises to get help. I'm happy I might have found a group. I'm a little sensitive because while I was at the hospital they didn't give me any of my meds until right before I left, so I basically just restarted my meds today. I've had a pretty good day too: cooked dinner for my H and dad, cleaned up, did dishes, took out trash, and I got to spend time on my phone playing games. Just trying to get back to normal life.

I'm sorry about your thread. I did see you use the word "play". Some people are so picky about words that they focus on that word instead of your meaning. It's unfortunate. I think if you used the word "civil" like you did here, it might have been better? Idk.

Hello friends! Judging by the previous few posts, it seems that I missed a lot

I am still at the wellness place. My discharge originally was for Friday (that is 2 weeks), but since this weekend is the anniversary of the rally in Charlottesville, they are letting me stay through the weekend, and hopefully a few days after.

Do I get some sort of badge for first thread shut down for admin review? (Or maybe I've had another, I'm not sure.)

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from me too.

Also, I'm trying to get a replacement Kindle Fire for my D, since she got a big crack in hers. There's supposedly a 2-year warranty for accidental damage. But her exact model with the pink case isn't in stock. Had to get approval to get yellow one (like duh I can just put the old case on the new one). But then they said they had to refund me and I'd just buy it. Except they want to refund me on original payment method, which is an Amazon Visa card that they canceled 6 months ago due to suspicious activity and reissued me a card with a different number. I was like, "Can't you just put it on new Amazon Visa number?" Apparently no. Guy on chat is now seeing if they can issue me a gift card instead.

Normally, Amazon is amazing with customer service but this is just...what? OK, gift card just got approved.

Some times even places with great customer service are a pain in the *****

I'm sorry about your thread, LT. I don't think your comment was treating people like children, but if it had been, that would have been appropriate since people were in the thread acting like children. Sometimes people don't know when it's a good time to take a step back from a thread, and we saw that happen with several people in your thread. You reacted with more grace than I would have. I personally didn't feel like I could handle commenting because I got pissed off by the stuff I was reading. I'm a bit of a hothead who can't let things go once they start, so I would have been one of the posters who contributed to the not playing nice lol. That's why I PM'd you instead... even I have limits to how inflammatory I am willing to be on the open forum. Anyway, I hope they reopen your thread. Maybe the mods will just advise those people being aggressive/nasty/not contributing to leave the thread alone.

I bet they'd be willing to give you an Amazon gift card and if you'd be buying a new Kindle anyway you'd have a use for it.

Thanks, Susannah, I appreciate it. I'm not even sure what happened with that thread. I was trying to stay out of it in the hopes it would work itself out, then felt I had to say something. (And I will reply to your PM soon!)

Yep, that's what they're doing, giving me gift card worth the price of Kindle. And it actually will get processed more quickly than credit card refund, so we can get her new one before our upcoming trip.

My H and I said about 6 words all day to each other.

Our anniversary is tomorrow. 12 years married, but we’ve been together a total of 18 years. We didn’t even talk about doing anything. I just said to him “Guess you either forgot it’s our anniversary or you thought I forgot its our anniversary” he just looked at me and sighed and said “Oh, God” and just rolled his eyes. I’m like well, you didn’t mention it and made no plans-so yeah..there’s that. Then I just came to bed.
Whatever.

It was probably a bad sign when both 2ex and I forgot our second wedding anniversary.

That sucks. Does the husband always have to make the plans, though? Why can't the wife?

I always make our plans. I guesss I was just hoping he would have taken initiative for once.

I’m sorry. You deserve to have someone love you and show you that love.

That’s alright. I just stay in bed tomorrow and watch Netflix.

His response was not good, but he probably didn't realize you were hoping he would take the lead if you didn't tell him. But it's not too late. If you tell him now, he can still make some reservations. It might not be what you were hoping for, and it would obviously be nice to not have to spell it out, but husbands aren't mind readers. I mean, I don't have a husband (thank God), but my father sure wasn't good at anticipating what my mother wanted!