[granite1]

my T has been out supposedly sick with strep throat for 2 months i am once again suppose to call her tomorrow to see if she will be well enough to be in the office thursday. you would think she could call me to let me know if she will be out . anyway i cant do this anymore . i was going to go in and tell her to here face that i am done but if she says she isnt going to be in again thursday i am going to just tell her on the phone that i am no longer going to see her . i cant handle the not knowing if she is going to be there for me or not . it hurts and i think it would be best for me to pull off the band aid so to speak .no more of this ill be there and oh im going to be out for the next month ,oh that was drastic call wed to see if ill be in the office ,i think ill be ok . etc....on and on for 2 months . i dont have any connection or trust anymore . im not sure ill even be able to talk to her anymore anyway . i cared about her.

(((granite))) I'm sorry. That must be so hard, the loss of connection, uncertainty, etc.

[growlycat]

She cares about you granite from everything you have written. She may not be sure yet if she is well enough to come in yet. Maybe give her a chance to get back on track?

[susannahsays]

I've never heard of strep lasting that long. That's weird. Maybe there were complications.

[Raging Quiet]

I agree with Susannah on this.

Sorry you are dealing with this x

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by growlycat

She cares about you granite from everything you have written. She may not be sure yet if she is well enough to come in yet. Maybe give her a chance to get back on track?

[Anne2.0]

My T became unexpectedly sick, I could see him going downhill as his skin became very pale, almost grey, and he seemed to be losing weight quickly. This was a few years ago when I was in the middle of a big grief, he began canceling sessions and then he said he'd be out for 3 months recovering from surgery. At some point pretty late in the game, he said they had thought he had cancer but it turned out not to be.

Sometimes the medical stuff is complicated for T's, in terms of communication. Sometimes what they are suffering with is ambiguous (i.e. doctors don't know what it is or they don't know how to treat it) and so they don't have much to communicate. And then I think they are careful to be honest but also to protect clients from unnecessary TMI and then they have a right to medical privacy as well.

I can understand your distress at what is happening, but I guess I would say from experience that I found I could get back on track once my T was back in the office, and the years I had (and you have with yours?) were able to quickly bring us together for my benefit. I wish that you could feel you don't have to give up because I think you've made a lot of progress, but whatever is right for you is right for you.

[SlumberKitty]

That is a tough situation. It's hard when T's are sick and we clients probably aren't given all the information. My second T got sick starting back in February. Looking back, it really started the fall before when she started moving appointments up and seeming more tired than normal. Then from February on it got really sketchy about when she could come in and eventually she was diagnosed with a chronic condition that is severely limiting her life. Thus I have to find a new T. It stinks. That's all there is to it. I wish it didn't happen. I hope your T has something that is curable. So that your T can be back to helping you soon. It's hard being in that time of waiting and not having all the information and not having T available. It really just stinks. I'm sorry you are going through that. Hugs if you want them.

[granite1]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

I've never heard of strep lasting that long. That's weird. Maybe there were complications.

me either

[granite1]

no therapy again . she is now saying she is taking the month of august off. that she will be back in the office sept . i believe the first week in sept has a holiday so im betting she will not be in the office for that . i just dont like the way she has handled all this with me . i am going in to see her when ever she gets back in the office . she even called and left a message saying she doesnt remember the time i see her and could i call and leave a message telling her the time so she can write me in . i have been seeing her for years on the same day and time .all she needed to do was look in her book . im just so hurt and angry

[unaluna]

Granite, maybe she has Alzheimers? My former chiropractor had it, and i had no idea. He still did excellent work, but i did think he had been a little goofy a few times. He had a younger guy working with him, and that guys wife as receptionist, so i guess they were handling him. Sometimes my appointment would be switched to the younger guy without them really saying why. And i wasnt going very regularly, so this was over several years, until he finally did retire.

[Anne2.0]

Originally Posted by granite1

no therapy again . she is now saying she is taking the month of august off. that she will be back in the office sept . i believe the first week in sept has a holiday so im betting she will not be in the office for that . i just dont like the way she has handled all this with me . i am going in to see her when ever she gets back in the office . she even called and left a message saying she doesnt remember the time i see her and could i call and leave a message telling her the time so she can write me in . i have been seeing her for years on the same day and time .all she needed to do was look in her book . im just so hurt and angry

It's okay for you not to like how she's handled it; I'm not criticizing your criticism of her. But the other side of this is it's about her and whatever probably pretty difficult medical stuff she's facing. It's not about you per se being dismissed or overlooked or treated unfairly. When there's medical stuff you have to deal with, it can be so overwhelming that nobody can do the scheduling and taking care of business right sometimes. She is not trying to be hurtful or provoke anger, at least I'd bet not.

But I'd still encourage you to go back and experiment with whether it will work for you. Just try to get back on track and make your decision about what is right for you then. JMO.

[AnnaBegins]

Don't mean to hijack the thread, but if a T has a medical issue suddenly come up, aren't they required to notify their clients? Or are they allowed to no show for sessions and tell their clients that they will let them know when they (T) can see and talk to them again?

[rainbow8]

Maybe not Alzheimers but some kind of memory loss. It definitely sounds like she's dealing with something more than strep throat! I'm sorry, Granite. It sucks when our Ts get sick, but that's when we realize they're just regular people.

I also wonder if Ts have to notify their clients when there is a serious medical problem and they will be gone for a while. Maybe your T isn't ready to divulge what's going on, because it's personal and private, but I think they should tell long term clients, at least the basic information.

The important fact is, granite, that this isn't about you. Your T has always shown that she cares a great deal about you. It seems like she's hoping she'll recover and get on with your therapy. You also could be blunt and ask her what's going on, but I know you wouldn't do that.

You have made much progress with your T! Remember when you couldn't talk at all? Maybe this is a good time to check out another T, while you're waiting for yours to come back. But please don't blame yourself for T's problems.