[Islander]

Over the past few weeks I have been feeling a stronger bond with my T. Almost feeling like when I am there she talks to me like I was more like family to her. I have been with her for 5 years, and sometimes our bond together is that like a mother / daughter relationship. There have been times where I have even said back to her "yes mom", but you know something it feels really good to have someone on my side like she is. Inside I know she is not my mother! Its not that, its just that we have talked about it, and she has told me that our relationship is fine, that I have not crossed any boundaries nor has she. I guess my question is does anyone else have the same feeling / experience with their T.

Islander

[sunrise]

Islander, no, I don't feel that way with my T, but he is male, so it isn't as easy to place him in the "mom" role. It sounds like you have a very close and therapeutic relationship with your T. If I had to assign a blood relationship to my T, I guess maybe I would pick a very close brother, without the sibling rivalry.

[dalila]

<font color="green">Oh yeah, my T is my surrogate mom for the time being. She treats me like I am a valuable child growing into adulthood. I have to do a lot of the work but she is there for me in a way that my mother never was or could be there for me. She has never said that she loves me but she has shown that she cares about me. when I tremblingly admitted to her that I had come to love her, she said that she considered it a great honor and treasure to be handled with great care. She pushes me when I need to be pushed but she is there to catch me if/when I fall. She has said that she likes me.

I hope some day when I am done with therapy we will be friends - she has not said that will happen but I think it will.</font>

[Islander]

Yeah thats it Dalila -

That is how she treats me. She is like the mother I didn't have that is helping me to "grow-up" into adulthood. I guess it scares me at times, just wondering if it is healthy. Like I said before she said our relationship was fine, and the boundaries are in place. I also guess I feel it more since my owe mother died. Like I said wanted to know if it was OK or not. Yeah looking for validation.

Islander