Couch 176: The happy cake couch

okay Tigger-love-bites are getting painful, now, redirecting her onto a toy

I liked the Radclyffe Hall I read in college.

Sneaks some chocolate into the couch thread as a peace offering (yes i know that's pizza but there's no chocolate smilie)

How about chocolate pizza as well?

Ooh pass me a bit! Yum

*passes Artie a slice on a plate* here you go Artie

I should be going to bed but don't want to go to bed, someone please tell me to go to bed NOW

Why do I feel like crap after a nap? The solution usually is going back to sleep, but not if I plan to sleep tonight. Happy Thursday couch.

I forgot to take my meds this morning because I went for a walk first thing instead of eating breakfast and I forgot when I ate later. So I spent the morning being dizzy, then ran home to get the meds, took them, now am on some kind of emotional hamster wheel and want to lie down but have a dentist appointment in 20 minutes, so can’t.

Of course Art, here you go.

Great, a totally new dental hygienist. I liked my old one. (I need a specialist because of a salivary gland condition.)

Boy I’m whiny today.

You didn't find her plot lines/stories themselves depressing?
I like the writing as well and it is a great deal better writing than Alther - but to me about a thousand times more depressing than Lisa Alther.

My therapist was telling me about a book he read recently. I failed to get the title and I'm curious and google isn't helping. I think he said it was a memoir written by a lesbian who had been adopted by an Evangelical mother. She had trouble with her hearing as a child and the mother said it was a sign from god or something like that, but it turned out she had a tumor. Does anyone know what book this is?

I don't remember thinking of it that way. Hmm. It was a long time ago, I may have to read it again.

Mmmm thank you! And zero calories right?

Jeanette Winterson is my educated guess -I have read her and my person taught her books and worked with her some- Oranges are not the Only Fruit, Written on the Body, Sexing the Cherry, and Passion. I don't remember the part about the hearing but the other parts fit.
And the memoir is Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal

Of course!

OF course, knowing what we know about how you and I almost never react the same way - it could be that we simply do not read for the same things and don't find the same things depressing or not depressing.
Wuthering Heights, for example, made me depressed and nearly homicidal towards the (luckily for her) already long deceased author because of the characters' dreary, whiny, relentless stupidity and the witless, dull, interminable writing style of the author.
As I recall - you see that book very differently.

That is quite true, about WH. Good point!

It is perfectly ok to say something like, "I don't mind if you all talk about that, but I just would rather not share about my private life." Kindly, with a smile, so that they know you are not judging them for their comfort level in discussing their personal lives. This is a way to tell the truth and to setg a kind respectful boundary. It's a hard skill to develop, and it took me years to of practice to really feel comfortable with this kind of boundary setting.

And capt, sweet, you are not a loser. This is an important issue to me so I say these very words on occasion to people around me, often now the teens who visit or hang out with my kids, but really to people of all ages when this kind of life evaluation or self-judgment through comparison comes up when we are in conversation about life: No one of any age or life stage is a loser because of their relationship status, kinds of experiences they have, or whether or not they are comfortable speaking about those experiences with others. Your life is yours, whatever it is, and even if it's not exactly what you wish it would be, or not the same as the people around you, that does not make you a loser. Your kind heart and sweet spirit shine through your posts here. Those are definitely NOT "loser" qualities.

Art, you're inspiring me.

I just sent an inquiry email to the year-long grad program I'd like to attend.

I'm not sure it's doable financially, but the "not sure" is what's holding me back so it seems like I should at least find out, right?

Yeah! Good for you. It's a good thing to find out options! Finding out options doesn't mean you have to take them, it just means you know what your options are!

Yum, chocolate!

Yay!! It's good to find out the scoop!