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I really admire the way you can talk to your therapist about this stuff.

Even reading about you doing it I blush, cant even imagine imaginng myself talking about it. I find it really difficult to admit im needy, let alone that I might have sexual feelings towards therpapist.

At the moment I am cringing inside soo much. Why? because in my last session I was talking about how Id realised recently that books were actually written by 'real people' there was actually a living being behind them rather than them just being a kind of objective neutral disinterested things that wrote them. And then I went on to say how id used to read my great grandparents love letters.

He obviously noticed me say this cos he asked when hteyd been written so i counted back and said as it was great grandparents it would have been around the early 1920's

But now im sure that he has noted that ive made this 'positive' comment and is seeing it as an unconscious expression of feeling towards him

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[Izzyparker]

Our sexuality is an important part of who we are. Yes, it is hard to talk about with our therapists. I struggle with this myself. But when I have found the courage to talk about sex, it's often not half as painful as I imagined it to be. I can tell my t is very comfortable with the subject matter, and that in turn, makes me comfortable sharing more. Try baby steps. Or ask an open ended question and let you therapist help you, for instance, "I have a hard time talking about sex, but I feel it's important to discuss, can you help me?" Good Luck. You'll never regret sharing something wiht your therapist.

Well it took me two years and one month to finally say it to him. However, all the while he knew a lot of it. It comes out in many ways and it does feel completely embarrassing, but it is so normal. If you have any questions about it, let me know.