Trying to trust

How do you get to a place of trust with T to let them in, as she wants inside my head, then to have to turn around and stuff back in what you finally let out after only an hour?? I feel like wanting someone to trust you so much that they let you in so deeply, and then expecting them to stuff back in til next session is such a ridiculous ****ing one sided concept. T said she is worried about me. She said her feelings and thoughts don't turn off after I leave and after she leaves her office, but I don't know how much I can believe that because she is a T and is trained to do so. Yet, T is the closest person to me. So I guess she is getting in to me somehow.

It takes time. I just about trust mine after 10 months. It takes as long as it takes, but yeah, it is hard. Try and stick with it and take a session at a time and the trust should come.

I struggled with the same thing. I told her I was worried about it spilling into my real life and we worked on how to keep contained after tough sessions. And she’d often check in and see how I was and what I needed.

It's hard and for someone like me with massive trust issues, I test them ALOT. I felt bad for my T after a while because I was doing it to him every single session for many months. He needed to reassure me that it was ok and he was trust worthy. I'm in over a year now and I still have trouble with it in some areas. Heck, I've known my best friend for 6 years and I still don't fully trust her.

It's been about a year, I can say I trust her though that has only happened in the last month or two. Before I didn't know what it meant to trust her because I wasn't holding anything back. Since then she's found reading my journals helpful because I'll write more than I'll talk, but idk why. But yeah I guess it's just time, I trust her but I tell her of any suspicions or anything that comes up that could mean I don't trust her.

As others have said, it takes time. I find it also fluctuates over time, i.e. sometimes I trust my T a lot, then again not for a few weeks.

It has always helped me to talk about the fact that I have difficulty trusting. For example just last session, in the beginning I told T that I felt like I couldn't trust him. We talked about that, and halfway into the session we got to a topic which I'd say requires lots of trust on my part. Just happened naturally.

maybe just isn't necessary. I wouldn't worry about with the therapist once. Trust them as much as you think they have proven worthy.

I think it takes a while to trust a T. And it's hard to talk about stuff in session and then have to pack it away so that real life can commence and then drag it back out next session. Have you tried journaling? That can give the "stuff" somewhere to go in between sessions.