[Rive1976]

Before you were comfortable with your therapist? This is the first time I have been in therapy specifically for trauma. I'm 9 months in and still very embarassed in front of T but she looks at me when I dont say anything and sometimes asks what I am thinking. It just makes me more nervous.

[SlumberKitty]

A long time. I don't remember exactly but it was a process over a couple of years. And depending on what we were talking about sometimes I still wasn't completely comfortable even after several years had passed. Some things are just difficult to talk about. But the longer I saw former T the more comfortable with her I became. Kit.

[DP_2017]

Depends what you mean exactly by comfort? My comfort level has grown over time but I was comfortable with being with him and laughing/talking in the first few sessions because of his personality.

For the sharing of deeper things, that took a long time, I still wont talk about a lot of it

[Taylor27]

I have been with my therapist for 5 years and im just finally comfortable with him, it's taken a very long time this time around.

[piggy momma]

I think I've been fortunate. I've never not felt comfortable with a T...with my current T, we were friends for a few years before we switched to therapist/client, then I left him for about nine years, and went back a year ago. I feel like I can tell him anything, just not always to his face. Sometimes it takes a text or an email.

Have you considered talking with your T about your feelings? There is significant research that supports the outcome of therapy being based on the client/therapist relationship. It's worth bringing up.

[Rive1976]

Originally Posted by piggy momma

I think I've been fortunate. I've never not felt comfortable with a T...with my current T, we were friends for a few years before we switched to therapist/client, then I left him for about nine years, and went back a year ago. I feel like I can tell him anything, just not always to his face. Sometimes it takes a text or an email.

Have you considered talking with your T about your feelings? There is significant research that supports the outcome of therapy being based on the client/therapist relationship. It's worth bringing up.

No I haven't thought of that. I like her it's just she is just working on things that make me feel gross inside. I dont look at her often. Mainly I just stare at a picture on the wall and think about how much I dont want to be talking about that. Then last session when we were talking and I was looking at her I dissociated and looked like an idiot. I still have no memory of what we were talking about when I dissociated. It's not her its me. She does look at me alot and that bothers me but its normal. It's not her its me.

[piggy momma]

Originally Posted by Dnester

No I haven't thought of that. I like her it's just she is just working on things that make me feel gross inside. I dont look at her often. Mainly I just stare at a picture on the wall and think about how much I dont want to be talking about that. Then last session when we were talking and I was looking at her I dissociated and looked like an idiot. I still have no memory of what we were talking about when I dissociated. It's not her its me. She does look at me alot and that bothers me but its normal. It's not her its me.

So that right there is fodder for conversation. Eye contact is hard, but I made a conscientious effort today to make eye contact. It made a difference. If you don't want to talk about something, tell her. She might ask you why, but it's still your right to say "I'm not ready to go there."

[Rive1976]

Originally Posted by piggy momma

So that right there is fodder for conversation. Eye contact is hard, but I made a conscientious effort today to make eye contact. It made a difference. If you don't want to talk about something, tell her. She might ask you why, but it's still your right to say "I'm not ready to go there."

Yeah that's my problem is I am ready to go there but my mind and body arent I guess.

[piggy momma]

Originally Posted by Dnester

Yeah that's my problem is I am ready to go there but my mind and body arent I guess.

You will when you’re ready.