Couch 183: Stroopwafel salted caramel.

I'm actually doing okay. My mother is dealing with lung cancer that has spread to the brain, and I'm caring for her right now, so in a way I can see that it's not so bad. I haven't processed it yet I don't think.

MP—I am so sorry life is so rough right now. You’re handling it inspiringly well.

(((MP)))

((MP)) and ((atat))

Hugs to all the couch folks going through a rough time. I’m sad for you.

I have to take a shower and finish up Christmas Shopping before heading to work. My mom gave me some money. I told her I am almost 40 and feel ashamed she’s offering me
money...but she told me it doesn’t matter if your 40, 50, 60... she’s still my mom. I either resolved my past or she changed..not sure. But she wasn’t supportive when I was a kid. Anyway..she gave me enough to get through buying the rest of my Christmas presents..so I need to finish shopping. Kohl’s is still having a big sale. I hope to find something decent for everyone today.

I haven't done any Christmas shopping yet.

You’ve been working crazy hours. Amazon will be your friend while doing all this overtime.

My dog has to go to vet too. Her skin is all raised and thick and she’s losing her hair.
I think
It’s because of the diabetes, possible cushings, and her enlarged liver. The dog is 13.
I am fighting an uphill battle with her. She’s tired. It might be time.

Yep! Amazon is pretty much always my friend (except when stuff takes longer than expected to get here or is randomly shipped back to the warehouse because it got "damaged in transit").

Umm you're a brat for sending cards out?! Everyone has their stupid moments but friend would end up as an "ex-friend" for me. You're allowed to not want to go on rides or do anything you don't want to.

I’m in NJ and sometimes my packages leave the warehouse in NJ and for some reason Amazon likes to reroute my packages to PA before they get shipped to me in NJ. So at times-things to get delayed because of that-even with Prime.

I'm so sorry for your loss @@.

I'm so sorry to hear this MP.

I'm sorry both of you, @@ and MP. I hope you both can get through these things somehow.

I know this is minor in the grand scheme of things, but I'm really not getting on with my new flatmate at all.She moved in September and I tried to give her a chance and be nice but I'm done trying. This is after an argument last thursday. So this is day 2 of me deliberately trying to drive her out. We have our own separate cooking areas and the only thing we share is the bathroom. I agreed to us alternating cleaning the bathroom once a week, but she wants me to clean twice a week like her. She's created a chart which also has allowed cleaning products with space for what each of us did. I refuse to clean the bathroom anymore or sign her stupid chart because I know it will bug her.

My music is playing much louder at 70% , more than I normally would play it, and I'm going to leave the toilet seat up from tomorrow just like her boyfriend does whenever he stays over and I'm all out of ideas other than cooking something smelly like fish. I used to try to be quiet in the mornings if I had an early class but now I don't care about that either.

Anyone want to place bets on whether I will see R today or not?

I've never had a problem with Amazon packages and I don't have prime. As I've recently learnt the US is much larger than ye old England.

to all couchies who want. I would appreciate some hugs too, attempting to find additional support such as a day program, group, or art therapist but I just keep getting referred to the same few people and places that won't accept me.

Is it an option to just tell the roommate that you don’t feel like it’s working out? I don’t know a proper way to handle a roommate that is not working out because I never had one. (I Moved out of my parents and right in with my husband (who was my boyfriend back then)
But what about just telling her it’s not working?

Yes I believe that you are right! We'll likely be working these ridiculous hours through the end of January... It's kinda nuts.

Sending out hugs, good thoughts, positive energy and dignified head nods all around this morning.

Is is possible to move a bit further out and increase your search radius? Would you consider something like a church support group?

An art class instead of art therapy?

Would consider something like meetup.com or maybe start your own group?

I may have to increase my search radius. I had a traumatic experience at a church so I don't think that would be good for me.

I guess I could look into an art class.

I am on meetups but haven't been on in a while, will have to recheck to see if there are any new groups. I don't think I'm stable enough to run a group.

Thank you.

That would be the mature thing to do! But she has as much right to stay as I do. My building is huge with 9 floors and 344 standard uniform rooms so there would be space for her somewhere as my building is never full as a lot of students actually move out a lot into their own flats.All the others who started with me left within the first year, I stayed because the rent is relatively cheap and I didn't have to buy any furniture.

I got lucky with the previous two girls who lived here before her. I didn't even meet the other one just heard her. xD

((((Butterfly)))