[MRT6211]

Today I heard a great piece of wisdom from my T: “People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” I had never heard that quote before today, but it really resonated with me, in light of some reason life events. I have happened to cut a lot of people out of my life over the past year, and I was worried that this was a borderline symptom. T said that she doesn’t see it as a symptom at all, but rather that I am getting rid of people from my life that were toxic, holding me back, not necessary, etc..

So my question to all of you is, what’s one really good piece of wisdom/quote that your T has given to you?

[ScarletPimpernel]

Two things that my T has told me is "Everything is going to be okay" and "It's only temporary". I made "It's only temporary" into a sign I keep on my dresser. A new one she said just recently is "I know it's tough, but so are you".

I love the quote about a reason, a season, a lifetime. It helps when I think about all the people I've lost. But it also reminds me that they were there at the exact time I needed them. I'm hoping T will be a lifetime, same with H. So far so good.

[Cantfindthewords]

“This too shall pass”
I like it so much I want it tattooed on me!
I always think it when I’m low, or when I’m stressed or panicking. I always know that however **** I’m feeling at that moment in time, it will pass. It’s almost like being stuck in a moment, I’m there but it will be fine....usually!

[MoxieDoxie]

That wisdom has been my wisdom for decades. People come in and out of our lives for a reason.

I cut people out of my life all the time. I to thought it was a borderline symptom as I once someone pisses me off or I feel jaded by them I cut them off.

Also: "Things are never as bad as I think they are going to be."

[piggy momma]

I don't have anything from my T but about 18 years ago I was seeing my priest for counselling. I will never ever forget when he said to me "Something is always better than nothing".

Also, when my dog was dying, I had a really long chat with my vet about what I should do with the options the oncologist gave me. He said to me "Just because we can, doesn't mean we should."

I will never, ever forget those two pieces of advice. I refer back to them very frequently.

One thing my last T said when we were talking about worrying was that, just like there is learned helplessness (one of the underlying causes of depression, often acquired as an effect of traumas), there can also be learned optimism. And we can teach ourselves.

[ttrim]

My T told me.... “When someone shows you who you are.... believe them.” Helped me choose who I wanted to be friends with and who I didn’t.

[nottrustin]

"You are stringer than you give yourself credit for"
"You are an amazing mom" one time I disagreed with her and she said "we can agree to disagree but you kids will agree with me"
It is better to love somebody and have wonderful memories and feel the pain of their loss than to not have the good memories.

[growlycat]

T likes to say when people say cruel things or act in cruel ways it says more about them than me.

[MRT6211]

Originally Posted by growlycat

T likes to say when people say cruel things or act in cruel ways it says more about them than me.

I really like that one. I really need to remind myself of that. It does speak to their character if they are purposefully trying to hurt you. I have thought a lot of mean things about people when they upset me, but I very rarely say them, and if I do out of anger, I always apologize. This was good food for thought, thank you!

[Rive1976]

Learn to be vulnerable. I dont like it but in some cases its necessary.

[MessyD]

"It's normal to be weird"