Couch 185: The Labyrinth

DP_2017 · Dec 30, 2018, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I think one of my dogs has PTSD

Seriously. She's having nightmares, wakes up in a panic, and goes running and barking as if to attack someone or something. This is happening 5-6 times a night and only at night. It started around the time my dad's dog bit her. My H can't stand it anymore. I contacted a vet hospital and they said to get a physical done, then maybe see a neurologist. If everything is fine, then she'll need a behavioralist. We don't have the kind of money or patience (for training). We're probably going to try a thunder shirt or maybe some dogs treats that are supposed to help with anxiety. Poor baby...

Thunder shirts are very good for most dogs. Maybe you could try laying with her one night.

Also does she get daily walks? That can help with anxiety.

JaneTennison1 · Dec 30, 2018, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Also does she get daily walks? That can help with anxiety.

Does it work with humans too?? lol

DP_2017 · Dec 30, 2018, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

Does it work with humans too?? lol

Honestly yes, it's why my T and I walked before every session, it dropped my anxiety very much each time and it's why I walk daily, regardless of weather, with my dog, it helps both of us

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 30, 2018, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Thunder shirts are very good for most dogs. Maybe you could try laying with her one night.

Also does she get daily walks? That can help with anxiety.

I sometimes put her in bed with me, but she always jumps down. I don't take my dogs on daily walks. They do get tons of exercise playing in the house. I'm not even sure my one dog knows how to walk on a leash. She was given to us by the breeder after we lost one of our dogs to heart cancer. We have always thought she was abused because she doesn't like most people. The only people she's warmed up to is me, sometimes H, and my friend's 7 year old. Otherwise, she just puts up with people or goes to one of the dog beds in the corner. She doesn't know how to play with toys, but she does play with our other dog and sometimes chews a bully stick. I feel bad for her. I don't want to give her back. She's been through enough whatever it's been. She loves me and 2 of our shelties. I don't want her to go to a fourth home.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

How do you manage dealing with regret? I'm driving myself insane over things I wish I said/asked T and now i can't. I can't stop being angry about it and wishing I had spoken up so I had answers to things.

Who has no regrets,
never made a decision.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Serious question, does anyone know how hard it is to write a book? Even self publish... not for me but my disabled sibling loves to write and he is talking about wanting to write a book about the struggles he has in life... so I want to try and help him out

Write first.
Publish afterwards.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Apparently there is because any time I talk about what I'm feeling here, I'm met with rude comments telling me to "meet new people" as if that's the cure for everything in life.

I get this. I don't need a large number of low quality relationships. I need a few high quality ones.

DP_2017 · Dec 30, 2018, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I sometimes put her in bed with me, but she always jumps down. I don't take my dogs on daily walks. They do get tons of exercise playing in the house. I'm not even sure my one dog knows how to walk on a leash. She was given to us by the breeder after we lost one of our dogs to heart cancer. We have always thought she was abused because she doesn't like most people. The only people she's warmed up to is me, sometimes H, and my friend's 7 year old. Otherwise, she just puts up with people or goes to one of the dog beds in the corner. She doesn't know how to play with toys, but she does play with our other dog and sometimes chews a bully stick. I feel bad for her. I don't want to give her back. She's been through enough whatever it's been. She loves me and 2 of our shelties. I don't want her to go to a fourth home.

If you can find the time, I would try doing walks, it could make a huge difference. Playing in the house is different than walks, as far as mental energy goes and that's what she would need to get rid of for the anxiety. I completely understand not wanting to give her up again, and I respect you for that.

DP_2017 · Dec 30, 2018, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

I get this. I don't need a large number of low quality relationships. I need a few high quality ones.

Honestly true.... and I relate better to dogs than people so I prefer to be around dogs anyway.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Do it again!

The lady said no.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Gonna go on a journey with my chocolate

Bon voyage!

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 08:02 PM

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IPA .... huh?

India pale ale - Wikipedia

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by whispershadow

they are going to take tigger and willow away

((Whisper))

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

Does one need to 'confess' to others of they have done something not harmful but that they know people wont approve of???

Confessing to your therapist is sometimes enough.

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I have decided that the true test of a marriage is building furniture kits together. H and I have put together 2 of the 3 bookshelves so far this weekend and we are still speaking to each other. I am not sure we should push our luck with the 3rd one.

Try teaching a spouse to drive!

CantExplain · Dec 30, 2018, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

Does it work with humans too?? lol

It certainly works for me. For a quick, cheap, safe mood booster it can't be beat.

stopdog · 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

Does it work with humans too?? lol

Exercise of any sort helps me. But I do take my dogs on daily 3-4 mile walks in all but ice or pouring rain (and that is partially because my dogs despise getting rained on).
Thunder shirts did not help my one really stressed out dog over fireworks and weighted blankets freak me out. Nature or nurture?

My dogs will wake up barking, growling and acting like lunatics in the middle of the night if they hear a possum or a raccoon outside.

stopdog · Dec 30, 2018, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

I get this. I don't need a large number of low quality relationships. I need a few high quality ones.

Sometimes you have to endure or go through some low quality relationships to get to the high quality ones. If you reject the notion to at least try something different, it is hard to see how any thing will change.

I have not seen anyone here suggest to anyone else here to go get a lot of "low quality" relationships.

DP_2017 · Dec 30, 2018, 09:16 PM

Why does anything need to change? Maybe I'm content with my life.... I don't NEED more people, I just miss my T.

I would rather spend my time with my dog, heck, even with a had a ton of local friends, I cancelled plans often because I just wanted to stay home with my dogs. It's just what I like best... being around people makes me uncomfortable.... rarely do I ever actually LIKE being around someone.

stopdog · Dec 30, 2018, 09:28 PM

No one can make you. Don't change if you are happy.

velcro003 · Dec 30, 2018, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Hi couch.. just wondering who posted the link for pod casts that were therapy sessions earlier in the week?? I can’t find it.

i posted about esther perel's "where should we begin" which is a couple's therapist podcast. i really enjoyed it despite not being in a couple.

SheHulk07 · Dec 30, 2018, 10:25 PM

I wanted to thank you guys for the advice on the dog situation. We went out today and bought a mailbox to go near the sidewalk instead of on our house, which was one of the options given on the letter. We also got some chain link fencing that we should be able to keep her inside the yard.

Dec 31, 2018, 05:30 AM

The thing i have been dresding since my eldest moved away, she rang and asked for her dog back. I have been looking after him the last 3 years as they couldnt have him at the ex's place.

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 31, 2018, 05:59 AM

OK, so here's a puzzle. I don't enjoy being physically ill...far from it, but I feel better having an objective reason to feel like crap. Anybody else?