Couch 185: The Labyrinth

No he doesn't. That has been hugely on my mind since he went back to bed pouting.

This out of nowhere? Like there wasn’t tension building over a couple days? He just blew up? You mentioned how you didn’t want to change Sons room yet, but he did so maybe having different opinions on that started this whole thing? He was probably letting stuff fester for awhile and just lost it. He can’t just quit his job and start flipping houses. It’s not that simple. You need investment money, and a safety fund for anything that goes wrong. So unless he has a very large sum of money he’s sitting on-it’s just not that simple to just quit a job and start flipping houses. You need to build yourself up for that first. It’s not like how it is on TV. Does he know that?

And there's nothing "wrong" with that breakfast--but it isn't particularly low carb.


I hear you on the toast withdrawal! Avoiding bread was the biggest challenge for me. Sure, whole grain can be healthy, but again, it's very high carb. And low carb breads--I'd rather just skip it.


Low/non fat plain Greek yogurt has a higher protein/lower carb balance. Adding some crushed berries will give it some sweetness for very few carbs and great antioxidants. I also like cinnamon, though that may be unusual.

I found I missed the crunch in the morning, and found that Romaine lettuce leaves satisfied it--with some hummus or a little peanut butter (natural, no added oil or sugar). Remember "walking salads?" Maybe you're too young!

And SM is so right: don't overwhelm yourself! Just get used to eliminating the empty carbs and finding new tastes you like, rather than count calories or beat yourself up. A short walk after meals (even five quick minutes) will change insulin response and boost metabolism!

Wow, Art. Easy for him to "risk" when you are holding down the fort.

I just have no tolerance for emotionally fragile men who resent growing up. I don't know how you stand it!

Thanks. I’m not going to beat myself up about the calories this morning. I haven’t wanted anything since breakfast and the menu tonight is burritos without the burrito. I’m just going to lay the ground chicken breast on a bed of spinach, not use sour cream, very small amount of cheese and go from there. It is very windy today. I took the puppy for a walk around the block. I know that didn’t burn anything but I’m going to go with what SM suggested too.

Your not-burrito sounds really delicious, Jersey! I'm coming to yours for dinner.

Ooo. I want to read your story.

the money that he perceives he is 'sitting on' is the equity in our current home. he wants to start by using a home equity line of credit to buy a condo, fix it up and sell it. because condos here are really cheap.

He said it had been building up for awhile. He's calmed down now and just told me that. That it mostly was because of not getting very much work the last month or so. He's really frustrated with management where he works. This is the longest he's ever stayed at one job so apparently it's time for a change I don't know. He said he doesn't want a divorce or the other thing after I told him if I had to choose it would be divorce as I don't want him to do the other thing.

Life has been **** lately but this year began with a really exciting email, that could be the start of something huge in my life. We will see what happens...

That's pretty risky though, as I'm sure you realize.

Signs we probably need to clean more often:
H, texting from Target: "Do we have a mop?"
Me: "Uh, I'm not sure?"

So I ended up emailing T this morning about seeing his wife's post in my Facebook group. He wrote back a few hours later thanking me for my honesty and for my restraint in not looking at her Facebook profile (which I didn't and mentioned in the email) or looking at any of her other posts in the group (which...I did and didn't mention in the email, but won't tell him about). And he did confirm it was her.

And I think she's now left the group, or at least deleted her most recent post. At first, I was afraid she'd blocked me (so I couldn't see her posts), which would have meant T would have had to disclose my identity to her, which I think would have been a breach of confidentiality? But I tried searching her and in the search results list it still gave the "add friend" option next to her name, which I don't think would be there if I were blocked. Actually, I don't think she would have shown up in the search results at all for me, right? (Otherwise, uh, what's the point of blocking?) Note: I still never clicked on her actual profile.

Anyway, I feel good about the response from T (surprised he wrote back on New Year's Day, but he probably knew I'd be stressed about it), but will be nervous to see him Thursday.

LT

Honestly that's not a huge deal... SOOOOOOOOOO many people look up their T's family and such online. I think they expect it. I looked up my T's ex.... I read all her old posts/interactions with him on his FB page that were public. He knew all about it. He wasn't phased. He said "Well it's public"

No she didn't block you if you can see add friend. They basically "vanish" from Facebook on your end all together if you are blocked

No biggie reading her messages on a group, you are in a like group, it's not any different than reading anyone else's posts.

Take a deep breath, you did nothing wrong. This is the world now with social media access. This stuff is very common... and honestly most T's wont care as long as you are not outside their home stalking them or something

*I* do. He doesn't.

LT - im sure you made my brother very happy! ha, you guys think *i'm* freudian! Seriously, its better than dwelling on it. And i think we dwell on it because we did not have strong connections in childhood. So when we SEE connections, we are drawn to the connections. Thats how it worked for me anyway, in retrospect.

Speaking of diet and healthy lifestyle, this morning I stepped on the scale for the first time since November. Weighing myself every Monday and seeing 0 results was really making me mad and down on myself. I first started this in September and so slow! But I am proud that most of the time I make healthy choices, and when I allow myself to have a treat, it doesn't derail me like it always has in the past.

Even i do, and im an idiot about such things.

He's all "I'm a business man. I have to keep progressing. We're not progressing. You're content. I can't be content."

Like being content is bad or something? Why am I wrong because I don't want to risk our home?

I'm also not sure I'm content by any means.
Just not in the way he thinks.

I think you all are speaking two different languages about the same event.

I so wish the best for you!!

I don't know either.

I am glad that I held onto myself during his tirade and didn't take it all on myself.

He's out there sleeping again.

Och aye! Steak pie for mi New Year's tea! Get it up ye! Braw.

I'm attempting a break from PC but thought the couch might appreciate this *scuttles off again*

Look hen, it's good but it's not tablet so get tae fook.