Questions for a new psychodynamic/psychoanalytic T

susannahsays · Jan 03, 2019, 01:02 AM

I don't really think compromise comes into it. The therapist isn't recommending twice weekly for his own benefit. Compromise requires both parties to have something they want to gain. I don't really see this treatment recommendation as the therapist expressing a personal investment in the outcome - so why should he compromise?

Lrad123 · Jan 03, 2019, 07:55 AM

He is one who believes that “the therapy is the relationship” and in relationships people compromise. Of course he has the right to do whatever is right for him, but I’m really hoping he’ll compromise.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 03, 2019, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Lrad123

Since we’ve determined that we basically have the same T (seriously, do we?) what do you think he’ll say if I propose going every Wednesday as currently scheduled AND all but one Thursday/month for the second weekly session? He said no when I said I’d have to skip 2 Thursdays/month, but I think I can make it to all but one/month. Is that enough containment (assuming that’s the issue)? I’m really trying here. Isn’t there something to be said for compromise on the T’s part as well? It’s actually sort of funny that I’m basically begging for a second session because I have a history of having a very hard time making it to my weekly sessions. I always made it, but felt like there was a magnet pulling me away from his office as I was driving there. Now I’m basically pleading with him to let me come a second time per week.

I think it's worth a shot to ask him.

TeaVicar? · Jan 06, 2019, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Lrad123

Yeah, now it sort of seems like he was name-dropping which didn’t actually work since I had no idea who Bion was. Although my T knew darned well i was going to go home and look him up. Strange piece of info for him to disclose.

He was. He doesn't do self disclosure, right?! I wonder how telling you that benefited your therapy? Double standards.

Lrad123 · Jan 09, 2019, 04:31 PM

I’m not sure where to post this but it looks like I might be seeing my current therapist twice/week. I’m still working out the details, but I think it might work. I’d miss once/month for the second weekly appointment and he expressed concern about that (containment maybe?), but is willing to give it a try. I feel sort of giddy about the possibility as it was looking like it might not work out.

I did also meet with a new potential therapist earlier this week and she was good, I think, but ultimately it made me want to stay with my current therapist because it’s just taken so long for me to feel comfortable with him and I feel like I’m finally getting there. Phew.

Jan 09, 2019, 08:08 PM

I hope it works for the best lrad123. Maybe down the road you can go back to once a week, after working through certain things. So glad he's willing to work with you to do the 2nd session.

You really do have a good mindset for this kind of therapy. If you didn't, i wouldn't have been responding to so many of your posts over the past few months.

Realized I forgot to say-no, we don't have the same T. Mine is older.

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