[seeker33]

So I had to pause my therapy for a few months due to changed circumstances in my life (negative change). I told my T I would be back after the holidays but now it seems I won't be able to return by the end of February /March.
My therapy is online including live chat 2x a week plus messaging on the website almost daily. As you can imagine, I miss this a lot! Once my T shared some photos with me on Google and I saved her private mail address. I wished her merry Christmas during the holidays - no reply.
Yesterday I messaged her on fb (we aren't friends there). I wrote her to tell her I won't be back as we agreed (in January) and explained why. I also wrote a brief summary of what happened in December. I tried to make it neutral and I didn't ask any questions, didn't make it sound like I'm in crisis.
I only wrote to her because as a private teacher, If my student promised to be back after the holidays and they didn't come I would wonder what happened? And I would think about them. So I only wanted to let her know to be polite and "professional".
I think I made a mistake by sending her photos of my mother's wounds on her hands. Then I thought it was too much so I also sent her a photo of my cat to compensate and show that I'm OK, she doesn't need to worry.
Now I think I screwed up massively and I'm very embarrassed for doing this. She hasn't replied yet. When I messaged her on the website she always replied in a couple of hours max.
Now it looks like I'm a needy and clingy stalker! I'm so pathetic!

[piggy momma]

Hey seeker, do you still have access to the website? Could you send her a message there apologizing for reaching out on fb and explain that you just had a “moment” and did not mean to intrude personally?

[seeker33]

No, if I want to message on the website I have to pay the full subscription for a month which I can't afford :-(

[LonesomeTonight]

The thing with Facebook is, if you aren't friends with the person, then messages show up in the "message requests" folder (or whatever it's called), and if she isn't looking at that, she might not even realize she had a message. I suppose you could send something to her email address that you have and apologize for the FB message if it would make you feel better.

[DP_2017]

My T outright said "You could send me a FB message but I'd never read or reply to it"

I think alot of them have a similar thought. If it's bothering you, just own up to it and apologize, and promise not to go there again. Should be just fine

[ArtleyWilkins]

She probably won't see it because you aren't FB friends. It will sit in some obscure folder that unless she deliberately looks for, she probably won't notice.

[seeker33]

Thank you all. She replied! It was brief but kind and encouraging. I thanked her and said goodbye until I subscribe. What a relief!

[LonesomeTonight]

So glad she replied!

[piggy momma]

Originally Posted by seeker33

Thank you all. She replied! It was brief but kind and encouraging. I thanked her and said goodbye until I subscribe. What a relief!

That’s fantastic!! I’ve never messaged my T on Facebook because I have email and text but I do go on and like his posts (his page is t locked down). He hasn’t said anything yet, so I figure I may as well push the boundaries lol. Facebook is a slippery slope for sure - but glad it turned out ok for you.

I'm so glad she replied!

[seeker33]

It indeed is a slippery sloe, that's why I won't message her there anymore. I only used it to explain why I didn't return to our sessions as planned. I wouldn't want to use it to get free therapy.
Although to be honest... I'd love to be her friend there if I could!

[SlumberKitty]

I'm so glad everything turned out okay and she replied! HUGS Kit

[SalingerEsme]

Great that she replied

Glad to hear she replied!

When I read your op, I was feeling like reassuring you that it wasn't such a big deal. Taking risks as opposed to being constricted and in fear can be an ok thing.