Couch 186: Pink Lemonade

susannahsays · Jan 03, 2019, 10:32 PM

God, my upstairs neighbors are always fighting. It's really bad right now. I'm actually considering calling the cops.

stopdog · Jan 03, 2019, 10:33 PM

I adored mine. She was a fantastic dog.

Polibeth · Jan 03, 2019, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I have a free bottle of hot sauce—Sweet Baby Ray’s—and no real idea what to do with it yet. I’m not super fond of hot sauce and it’s not the sort of thing food drives solicit.

I wish we could get free hot sauce - hubby and son LOVE that stuff

stopdog · Jan 03, 2019, 10:35 PM

Sweet Baby Ray's bbq sauce is too sweet for me - I did not realize they made a hot sauce.

susannahsays · Jan 03, 2019, 10:36 PM

I think the girlfriend might actually lose her voice, she's screaming so loud. Started with the boyfriend being jealous that someone else was texting her, I think. Then she flipped her lid because "how the **** does he know" about that anyway.

Polibeth · Jan 03, 2019, 10:38 PM

I posted about how horrible NYE was at the hotel I work at (in security). Well several negative online reviews have come in:

"Did not like security guard walking the halls and being nosey"
"Security was snotty and asked us to turn down the volume on our music by 50%"
"Security guard kicked us out because we had a party with 20 people in the room at 3:30am. There shouldn't be any rules on New Year's Eve."

I laughed so hard- each is actually a compliment that I was actually doing my job.

susannahsays · Jan 03, 2019, 10:38 PM

Also, and this is petty, but the boyfriend urinates extremely loudly. And I can always hear their bedsprings when they have sex.

atisketatasket · Jan 03, 2019, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

I laughed so hard- each is actually a compliment that I was actually doing my job.

That’s a really good way of looking at it.

unaluna · 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Also, and this is petty, but the boyfriend urinates extremely loudly.

They do that on purpose #crankyoldlady

SheHulk07 · Jan 03, 2019, 11:23 PM

I don't want to deal with anything tonight. H keeps asking for sex, and it's making my skin crawl. I just want to go hide away for the night or longer.

susannahsays · Jan 03, 2019, 11:27 PM

I mean, I know they don't do it on purpose, but I'm sure they wouldn't care about my sensibilities regardless. They are constantly screeching expletives at each other so loudly that I can't believe they have any shame. That's what really bothers me. I grew up with a father who had an explosive temper, and such deafening verbal altercations make me uneasy and have an even worse effect on C.

StressedMess · Jan 04, 2019, 01:03 AM

I can't sleep, I have pain in my back and knees that is keeping me from getting comfortable. Have dosed myself up with ibuprofen, sadly it has not worked. At least tomorrow is Friday!

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 01:52 AM

Stupid drama with the flatmate again kicked off again.

My sisters are staying in my room, which I've paid for as you have to sign all guests with the woman at the desk. She left me another note, to which I replied just now "If you don't like it, you can always leave".

She knocked on my door yesterday, but I didn't answer it because I don't have to. I got so angry instead and I began to cry,but mainly just because I wanted R.

I have to get our boarding passes printed, and I have a final surgery class which I'm not looking forward to.

Our flight is on saturday. Then I have to stay sunday and leave again on Monday. Exam on thursday.

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

I can't sleep, I have pain in my back and knees that is keeping me from getting comfortable. Have dosed myself up with ibuprofen, sadly it has not worked. At least tomorrow is Friday!

How long have you had this pain for? Have you seen a dr?

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

I feel so rejected right now

We're here if you want to talk.

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

4 weeks ago about right now I was getting home from my last therapy session with L. Weird.

H and I are talking again. We just finished putting together the 3rd bookcase after I got off work. The library-room is coming together now. We talked a little bit more about his blowup the other morning.

Possible trigger:

I told him how that one pretty awful thing he had said was a serious and rather damaging thing to threaten to somebody who had been a hair's breadth away from actually attempting as I had been at one point in my darkest hours of depression in 2009.

He said "I wasn't serious. But it got the desired result, I found out how you felt." I told him that was so not okay. He just said "Don't worry about it. I'm over it." I sorta folded into myself at that point and couldn't talk about it anymore. So we changed the subject.

I'm still finding my way through this. I'm thinking I might call L for a one-off session about all of this after I've worked through it some more inside myself. I don't know yet.

I don't like the I wasn't serious comment and he could have just simply asked how you felt without all the drama. I don't buy his I'm over it either.

Please contact L, I'm sure she honestly wouldn't mind and I think you need all the support you can get.

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 02:10 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Today's session was so hard. I shared something that was hard to share. He reassured me that everything was okay with us and what I shared was totally understandable. He asked if I believed him and I said "For now. Give it a few hours." I do this. I share then later I freak out, sometimes less than 10 minutes after leaving his office. He said if that happens to remember the words he had said to me. Right now I'm wishing I had asked him to send me a reassurance email sometime tonight, but I didn't. I can remember his words, but I want him to email me for some stupid reason.

Maybe you guys could look at grounding techniques to help you cope a bit better. I would email if you needed to.

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I don't want to deal with anything tonight. H keeps asking for sex, and it's making my skin crawl. I just want to go hide away for the night or longer.

Possible trigger:

You have a right to say no, but his previous recent behavior shows he doesn't respect you at all. If you refuse will you be safe tonight?

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 02:31 AM

I'm not feeling well.

I have surgery class at 11.10am and I'm considering emailing R the following:

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Hi 😊

From S

I still have 4 days, 8 hours, 28 mins and 34 seconds to go, or should I just bear with it.

SheHulk07 · Jan 04, 2019, 02:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Possible trigger:

You have a right to say no, but his previous recent behavior shows he doesn't respect you at all. If you refuse will you be safe tonight?

Possible trigger:

I have dismissed his passes multiple times tonight. He has tried to bribe me with cleaning the house for the next 2 days, making breakfast, etc. I have still said no. Currently he is up playing video games so I'm hoping he got the hint and will leave me alone.

CantExplain · Jan 04, 2019, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

I wish we could get free hot sauce - hubby and son LOVE that stuff

Rule One of Fight Club is, never give away anything that people will pay for.

CantExplain · Jan 04, 2019, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

I think the girlfriend might actually lose her voice, she's screaming so loud. Started with the boyfriend being jealous that someone else was texting her, I think. Then she flipped her lid because "how the **** does he know" about that anyway.

Sadly, this sounds pretty standard.

CantExplain · Jan 04, 2019, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I just want to go hide away for the night or longer.

That might be a really good idea.

Lemoncake · Jan 04, 2019, 04:36 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

Possible trigger:

I have dismissed his passes multiple times tonight. He has tried to bribe me with cleaning the house for the next 2 days, making breakfast, etc. I have still said no. Currently he is up playing video games so I'm hoping he got the hint and will leave me alone.

Possible trigger:

"Dating someone, being in a relationship, or being married never means that you owe your partner intimacy of any kind."

I read your dear T post, and I think this is an emotional trigger you don't need and I'm so sorry you've been SH'ing more to cope with it all. I'm honestly sorry if I'm being a pain, but all of this is not normal in a healthy relationship and his behavior would come under the category of sexual abuse and sexual coercion.

Abuse Defined | The National Domestic Violence Hotline

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Jan 04, 2019, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Also, and this is petty, but the boyfriend urinates extremely loudly. And I can always hear their bedsprings when they have sex.

I had neighbors like that once in an apartment where I could hear ev-ry-thing and when I'd hear them having sex at night I'd lay in bed and clap my hands for them loudly. Unfortunately they fought too, but nothing I'd call the cops for thankfully they were just loud yellers.

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