Couch 191: The Lazy Caterer Couch

I'm sure he's not the first to forget. In the city where I lived at one point, they had to call tons of people each time to make sure the minimum amount showed up because so many were no-shows. So I doubt it's a big deal, if you were able to reschedule him. I do understand worrying about it though--I would, too!

Easy tiger, you sound a bit defensive. I wasn't passing judgement about what helps you connect. It doesn't sound inappropriate at all. I suppose I was reflecting on my sessions and thinking how I disregard these playful or relaxed interactions. They don't make me feel connected, it's interesting that they play that role for you.

Typically I am the same but with baby T, I literally care 0. I don't want any jokes or sharing from him etc. Nothing. I just want to work and focus on the issue at hand. This time around I am reminding myself I am just a job and it's quite helpful. I'm 100% ok with that.

I agree, I didn't see that at all either. Kids use the term butt. It just seems normal or silly idk.

Who are you attempting to convince?

No one. Was just explaining the difference with this T and my regular T.

Oh, gotcha. I just know you're fairly new around here, so maybe didn't know I'd been seeing this T for some time. And this is just kind of how our relationship can be. I think I just debated posting it because didn't know if someone would think it inappropriate, so I think that was what I'd assumed you meant.


It's interesting that you don't really find such interactions to help with connection. I think I just need some sort of...I don't know, human thing there. Like I wouldn't do well with a completely blank-slate T. Out of curiosity, is there something that does make you feel connected in therapy?

I had a flashback to Queen Gertrude, do excuse me.

You are a curious creature! Gotcha. It's cute actually.

Just finished my discussion posts for current module that's due tonight. Whew. I think I'm going to take a nap for about an hour and then go check the mail. I need to rest my eyes. I've almost hit my 3 mile goal for today, I'm at 2.84 miles right now. Walking to the mailbox and back later will take care of the rest of it!

I’m only at 5 miles for the day myself, I should head out and get a few more in.

It will be awhile before I get to 5 a day.

I don't do well with a blank-state practitioner either. The question of connection is difficult for me to answer. I suppose the kind of chit-chat interaction which you describe makes me suspicious. I feel most connected when my therapist tells me how they feel about me and I am in a place where I can hear that.

What’s stopping you? Just curious. Time? Pain?

I... don't know. Nothing probably. Now I want to do more than 3.

I don't wanna be a slacker and stuff.

What's wrong with being a slacker?

They say to increase slowly? Like no more than 10 pct increase a week?

3 miles is 5k. Have you all looked at C25K programs online? Or whatever they call couch to 5k training programs. Once you get a good base, you want to start to vary your workouts. They say.

In this instance, it's bad for both my mental and physical health both of which I have worked hard at improving.

I was trying to be encouraging, una. Pardon my French.

(And I wasn’t saying you were a slacker, art. I just wondered since walking helps you sort your head whether it might not help with therapy withdrawal. Even replace therapy a bit.)

Plus there's a 5 mile hike near where I live that I want to be able to do soon!!

Give it a rest, Bunty. We are all slackers and thank god for the times that we fail at life-shite.

You were encouraging! I said it. I hadn't put myself down yet this afternoon so I was due. Ha ha.

As i sit here on my ever expanding butt. Are you sure we are allowed to be "encouraging"? Isnt that tipping the scales(sic) on "supportive"? Sorry!

Ignore my bad mood. I have been reviewing all the causes of elevated liver enzymes in the bloodstream.

Anyone want to quiz me?