Couch 199: The Unennennium Couch

What would a therapist say in such a letter?

If I were the therapist, I’d be encouraging, remind the client of how far they’ve come, tell them I believe in them, remind them I’d be back soon, stuff like that.

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Well, in his last letter he acknowledged how vulnerable I had been left feeling after our last few sessions; acknowledged that missing sessions is hard for me; that he appreciated the things I had been sharing and that it made our connection deeper; that he would be thinking of me, wouldn't forget about me (because I once told him I felt forgotten while he was away) and was looking forward to the next time we would see each other; that if I hit a rough spot while he was gone to try and remember that he has a lot of hope for my future.

I would really like a letter like that from L. May have to ask her to write me one at the end of the summer.

He's done this several times for me now. He's also left me a longish (~2 min) voice mail before he left for vacation. (Once he said he'd do that before he left and then forgot. Uhh. Hello?) He asked me on Monday what he could do that would be helpful and suggested VM or letter or something else I could think of. I told him I still had his last VM but that I like letters and find them helpful. He admitted that the VM thing is difficult for him because he feels like he needs to be in a certain frame of mind to do it successfully. I get that completely. The letters really mean a lot to me. They're tangible.

I think if you'd find a letter meaningful to you, then talk to her about it.

Man that sounds like something my T would do! I’m not sure I would be able to read it though.

Yep, that tangible thing is why I would want it...

No. 1 retiring is really bothering me. I just broke off with her in a snit and never went back.

I'm sorry, @@. I hope you can find some resolution that is helpful to you.

I wanted my T to either write something (on paper) or leave me a voicemail before his vacation this week, but I was too nervous to ask when I saw him Friday. He ended up sending a supportive email Saturday when I emailed him Friday evening kinda freaking out. It would be nice to have something on paper again, partly because he has lovely handwriting. He did write me a sentence or two when I was interviewing for the PhD program, but that note was specific to what I was doing (it was something like, "Be yourself and you can't go wrong" maybe?)

But then I had asked for that at the last minute, along with the original stone, and he said later that he felt put on the spot and like he had to do it without having time to think about it. So maybe he'd have felt that way if I'd asked him Friday, too. Maybe when he gets back, I'll ask if he'd feel comfortable doing anything like that before his next trip (which is either the end of this month or start of next month) and/or before the one at the end of August (which may or may not overlap a bit with my vacation). Even if it was a very simple voice mail, it would be good to have something with his voice. We do all scheduling changes and things by text, so I don't even have any sort of generic "Hey can you come an hour later Thursday?" voice mails.

There was one I had from ex-MC that I listened to often--it was in response to a text I sent him when I was in crisis, but he just sounded so genuinely caring in the message that it helped to hear it when I was feeling bad (though also had negative of reminding me of that time).I guess I used it like a transitional object because his voice and words were calming to me. I mean, I can't even call T's phone just to hear his outgoing VM for comfort because it's also his personal phone and I'd worry he'd pick up or else think I'm trying to bother him (I suppose I could block my # but that seems weird. Burner phone for calling T?).


Or...maybe he'd be willing to record saying something in session on my phone if he didn't want to call? Not like a video, just a voice memo or whatever.

I think I'm also worried he'd say no, and then I'd feel awkward, but I'd feel much less worse if I asked him early on, not right when he's going away. I do have lots of caring emails from him, but would be nice to have something handwritten or audio.

I'm sorry, @@. I hope you can find some resolution that is helpful to you.

Another duplicate courtesy of tapatalk lol

If I got a burner phone for calling L she'd probably still know it was me haha

Does tapatalk not let you just delete the duplicate?

Not that I can figure out.

The course I teach in the summer is a service course, roots of medical terminology (because Greek and Latin).

A student is insisting that it’s too many words to learn. And she wants to be a doctor.

Did she never watch ER? Shes in biiiiig trouble!

Yeah, I figure same with my T!

I thought that was for kids. Children and exhankster are fascinated by bodily functions.

I tried tapatalk a while back to see what hoopla about it was and I hated it. I would really hate not being able to delete. It did give me an option under edit to sign in on the web browser and delete like that.

I'm torn on wanting to see T in an hour. I want to go but I hate that it's our last session for the week already. I left yesterday feeling frustrated with him for mentioning the hospital and worry he'll push the subject again today.

This is the same student who in the spring wanted me to send her a list of all the words in a 210-page textbook before she would decide to take the course.

As a mathematician, my domain literally was functions.

She wanted you to buy her textbook for her?