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I had a T once from the college I went to. That was a mess. I spent my time trying to break her boundaries while she spent her time defending herself. When I finally ended with her, she was confused as to why I ended and said she would miss me?
I don't think I was consciously trying to break boundaries, the incense was important because it made me angry and aggressive so he tried not to light it on my days but sometimes he used to mask smells from his fridge. I think I just wanted to know I had an effect on him.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 02:58 AM
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How do cats sleep like this? He has his face pressed into the doona hard
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 03:07 AM
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The drama with my H continues. I really need to do something. I can't do this for the rest of my life. He's so controlling. Today he's telling me I have to play final fantasy with him. Or for dinner, he had to be the one that got to choose what we ate. I think I'm done. My dad thinks I should go back to school to work with kids. Sounds good to me except my stupid fears. But I really need to start finding a way to get out of this. And if I did have a job then I could afford my own therapy. I just want to do my own thing. If I want to eat burgers and he wants pizza, we should compromise or take turns. I'm frustrated. I got myself into this mess. I need to get out of it.


You don't HAVE to play final fantasy if you don't want to.
You should be allowed to eat whatever you want.

I've grown up watching my parents argue and fight daily but they're still together. Change is hard. But you honestly deserve to be treated so much better than this. I'm sure you have had good moments, but why settle for this? As an outsider looking in it doesn't seem healthy and in this moment doesn't include other things you've mentioned like his anger and throwing food all over the floor . One day you will thank yourself for having the courage to leave.

In the UK we have charities like women's aid that do offer free support. But just be careful sadly some women are killed leaving their abusive partners. I'm glad your father lives with you.

Maybe also see a lawyer too for advice about the house.

Leaving an abusive relationship | womenshealth.gov
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 03:08 AM
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How do cats sleep like this? He has his face pressed into the doona hard
His spider sense was tingling and he knew you were taking photos!
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 03:12 AM
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I don't think I was consciously trying to break boundaries, the incense was important because it made me angry and aggressive so he tried not to light it on my days but sometimes he used to mask smells from his fridge. I think I just wanted to know I had an effect on him.


Incense. Fridge smells.

That might be too much for me.

he might not show it but I think you did make an impact on him.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 05:21 AM
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How do cats sleep like this? He has his face pressed into the doona hard
Isnt that the "not-see" doona? He's either really smart or really dumb!
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 05:47 AM
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I remember using words like battle, struggle and under fire with exT
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 06:04 AM
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Also I was in a war with my exT I would sometimes go into sessions and pick a fight about the where the furniture was, the incense, I would prod until I got a reaction then I would spend the next month getting him to admit that he felt annoyed, angry, judgemental. More importantly I substituted him for my ex.
Did you feel better when you dumped your anger on T?
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 06:06 AM
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I had a T once from the college I went to. That was a mess. I spent my time trying to break her boundaries while she spent her time defending herself. When I finally ended with her, she was confused as to why I ended and said she would miss me?
Ts can be pretty boneheaded sometimes.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 06:09 AM
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 06:12 AM
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I don't think I was consciously trying to break boundaries, the incense was important because it made me angry and aggressive so he tried not to light it on my days but sometimes he used to mask smells from his fridge.
Many in the 60s used incense to mask the smell of dope.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 07:09 AM
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@Lemoncake, I watched that Lumineers video, and I can't really understand the words much so I googled the lyrics, while it's not my style of song, in a couple of the places the lyrics do speak to me, so now that I've read them, I'm going to go watch it again, it's good to stretch and branch out! Thanks!
I'm glad you understood it.

Hehe "Damn your wife I'll be your mistress. " speaks to me
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 07:12 AM
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woah una you sure know how to pick 'em. He definately gets my seal of approval but
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I'm picturing you in a red baywatch suit!
haha!! never had one like that i wore more modest Speedos that had patterns one summer i had one that was mostly brown but had these light-colored rectangles in the design, and by the end of that summer I had suntan rectangles on my torso everywhere the suit covered haha! that was so funny.
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I am off to meet my local coworkers (much of our team is located in other states) for a Social Responsibility day, we are going to be unloading from pallets/sorting/delivering backpacks filled with school supplies. That's one of the things I like about the company I work for they are big on Social Responsibility and allow us to do things like this on the clock. Last year we built a playground here where I live, in California our team members spent a day working in a soup kitchen place, another day cleaning up a local park, here locally we also do that Christmas in July thing for a foster kids charity org etc. It's nice that our boss is so willing to let us do them too when our workload permits it. It's kind of a team building thing too, I guess. So I probably won't be checking back in until I get home later this afternoon. Hugs/headnods all around as a appropriate.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 08:23 AM
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My clean sheets bed is so comfy and so beautiful i cant wait to get out and make it up again. I let things devolve to where they are not even recognizable, like my hair gets all shaggy, the house gets all messy. Even my health. Always living on the edge, just backing away from the edge. What's wrong with me.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 09:08 AM
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Feeling very blessed and happy which scares me. Scared that I have something to lose. I'm not used to the universe being so kind to me.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 10:29 AM
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"We accept the love we think we deserve."

Just putting that out there.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 10:36 AM
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My clean sheets bed is so comfy and so beautiful i cant wait to get out and make it up again. I let things devolve to where they are not even recognizable, like my hair gets all shaggy, the house gets all messy. Even my health. Always living on the edge, just backing away from the edge. What's wrong with me.

Nothing wrong with you original Una. It's hard to handle everything when you're not well. Just do what you can nothing more. nothing less. If you need some help there's no shame in hiring someone to help you clean.

The back and forth just reminds me of someone just trying to find a middle ground, safety perhaps.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 10:37 AM
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Feeling very blessed and happy which scares me. Scared that I have something to lose. I'm not used to the universe being so kind to me.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 10:42 AM
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The back and forth just reminds me of someone just trying to find a middle ground, safety perhaps.
Your so smart! It IS back and forth, like one of those perpetual motion swinging balls thingies. And it IS about safety, in a very big way.
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 11:02 AM
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Old Jul 15, 2019, 11:51 AM
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Your so smart! It IS back and forth, like one of those perpetual motion swinging balls thingies. And it IS about safety, in a very big way.
Thank you, but I think i could see it because I do the same thing. with R it's run away. Come back. Run away and repeat.
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