[nottrustin]

Yesterday afternoon I texted EMDR T because I have been really struggling and asked if she had a couple of minutes to talk. I never got a response so it triggered many of my issues.

This morning she did respond with an apology for not seeing my message yesterday and asked if I still needed to talk or will I be okay until we meet tonight. I just reponded I am fine. She sent a sweet reaponse about seeing me tonight.

Part of me wants to repspond without the attitude of my initial reaponse because I feel like a jerk and just say thank you for checking in. Part of me is still upset and wants to say nothing.

As much as I have wanted to "punish" I wanted to change. So I'd respond.

I've been in this situation.

[Elio]

I think I might wait until session since one is coming this afternoon/evening and then talk about what happened and what came up for you, how you responded, and if it has dissipated, how long it took to rebound.

[SlumberKitty]

I'm with Elio on this. I'd wait until the session and then discuss it. HUGS Kit

[Rive.]

If you're meeting tonight, I would not respond but wait until session to say thank you.

Seeing she forgot, I also wouldn't hold it against her. Mistakes happen. She fessed up and sent a "sweet reply" so I wouldn't even be angry at her.

[kaleidoscopeheart]

Originally Posted by The mouse

As much as I have wanted to "punish" I wanted to change. So I'd respond.

I've been in this situation.

^ This ^

[ArtleyWilkins]

Texts can easily get overlooked if a person is receiving them from quite a few people at the same time. I agree with mouse. She got back to you as soon as she saw the text, and she even apologized for not having seen it.

[maybeblue]

I'll be totally honest, I don't think she'll care one way or another if you respond or not. Either way she'll be OK. Our self-esteem is all caught up in the does she care or does she not care and interpreting their response or lack of response. Theirs isn't. She might get hurt if you responded rudely. But just ignoring her won't get your message across.

I'd say something in session though if you are still hurt then...although I would try to say not mean...just "I was hurt when you didn't respond. I thought that you didn't care."

[stopdog]

No I wouldn't text again after someone said see you tonight unless they actually needed my confirmation that I would be there- but not to do or convey any meaning to the therapist - I just don't see it as necessary in this situation. If there was to be a response, it would just be "okay" or "see you tonight"

[nottrustin]

I didn't respond nor did I discuss the topic with her. She apologized when I got to her office and I changed the subject. I had so many mixed emotions and thoughts in my head I wasn't up to talking about it. Eventually I mentioned something really triggering that happened but told her I wasn't up to d igging into it. She asked if that was what was happening when I texted her and I shook my head. We never discussed it again.

[coolibrarian]

But was that entirely true? Are you still upset? Maybe you need to "go there" with her. Otherwise, you may become very angry. What's the worst that could happen? Gentle hugs.

[nottrustin]

I am a little upset still but mostly with myself and I know she didn't intend to hurt me.