[precaryous]

I think it’s time to re-examine the purpose of my going to therapy anymore.

It’s not that T failed.

I feel my situation and issues are too difficult to solve.

[Out There]

Do you think you are blaming yourself ? What you experienced wasn't your fault.

[~Christina]

Maybe you and your T need to try a different approach , look from another angle?

Go back to basics and in my case at times I need to revisit what is some of the core issues, refocus.

I hope you find what your looking for

Originally Posted by precaryous

I think it’s time to re-examine the purpose of my going to therapy anymore.

It’s not that T failed.

I feel my situation and issues are too difficult to solve.

All issues boil down to the human condition.
With a confident/skilled T, Everything is possible.

Sometimes it's just that we're back in that place. It feels hopeless, but the simple fact that we're back in that place does mean its not impossible or hopeless.

Been there, felt that many times.
Its just healing the soul at end of the day.

[Lonelyinmyheart]

I found that it was the relationship that saved me. I still have issues - we all do - and obviously some issues are much more horrendous than others - but the therapy relationship gives me something I had never experienced as a child which is a safe space in which I can be understood and accepted for who I am.

Initially, as a teenager, I didn't consciously choose therapy; I was drawn to it due to a massive gap in my life. Over time, I understood that it was the relationship that was healing me.

Obviously, there have been big problems and ruptures as therapists are only human too. And coming to terms with that has been part of my process, alongside coming t terms with my parents being only human with flaws and failings. Knowing I have a choice who I see and that any therapist can only be 'good enough' is also part of my healing process and it IS work in progress.

It sounds like you have not experienced that with a good T which is really hard and I'm sorry you haven't. I hope you can trust there are good ts out there who you can trust.

[Xynesthesia2]

You don't mention the specific "situation and issues" but perhaps could try other things, if you feel therapy is not helpful right now?

[here today]

I feel the same way basically.

I've learned some things about myself in the 55+ years since I first started therapy. Probably would have done that anyway, in different ways.

I still do not want to live, much. I do not know how to participate and/or contribute in human society very well and have no clue how to get a better clue. Therapists don't either is my conclusion -- they don't have the knowledge, skills, or methods to reliably help someone with issues like mine. Perhaps I could have found a needle in a haystack who could have helped, but I doubt it and a lifetime is not infinite.

Time to move on, to look elsewhere . . .

[Elio]

Do you notice any difference at all than when you started with this T?

For me, I tend to circle back to a few key events and themes in my life but each time we loop back around to it, I seem to be seeing it differently, different view point, different level of emotional investment? I'm not sure.

Right now, I could stop seeing my therapist and manage life ok. I've made big improvements in terms of emotional stability. What OK looks like today is a much different place than it was 4 yrs ago. At the same time, I still have the core goals I want to address/change/fix. Because I have made little to no progress on those goals, at times I feel that therapy is/has been not useful or that those issues/goals are ones that can't or won't ever be resolved. One of them is around disordered eating. I was in a psych meet up where the therapist in that group asked me, so what if I have disordered eating or always have a maladaptive relationship with food. It's possible that some of your 'issues' are not solvable but are manageable in a way that they don't disrupt your life. I'm not there yet by no means; however, her point that somethings are just how we are/who we are and the best we can do is be compassionate to those parts of us may be a valid point.

And like Mouse said, issues are part of the human condition. They are also part of what makes us uniquely us.

[precaryous]

My thyroid meds (or something) is making me feel irritable, anxious, hopeless and LOST. i feel so lost and overwhelmed by household, daily living issues..which makes it difficult to focus on other MH issues. I’m needing to sort, clean and pack a three bedroom home all by myself. I’m hoping to move soon. Terrified, too.

Also, my thyroid was removed and I had bad reactions to the first hormone replacement I was given. Now, I feel I’m having bad reactions to the second med...this has been going on for months...combined with household issues. I need to move. It’s been one thing after the other.

I’m trying to find a solution to the thyroid replacement hormone issue bc I feel so unstable. And i feel I won’t be able to make progress with MH issues in therapy until my medical health is stabilized, somehow.

I mean, what can she do in therapy? She’s makes me feel cared for and secure (whilst in my craziness). We have a good rapport. She’s kind and wants to help.

She’s good at listening to me vent. She’s good at helping me keep safe.

I feel so confused, depressed and lost.

Listening is a big thing!
Frustration belittles everything!
I moved last year. I had my husband and thats still stressful enough. So I hear you there!
Where I lived was awful for the last 15yrs because their son was dysfunctional and a real trigger for me.. There was nothing T could physically do, that was for me to do. And I was, I was moving. We have to do our bit. Demand treatment. Demand something we need.
But going there, talking to her about my fears around it and venting and venting was what kept me going.
No life wasn't singing birds and happy ever after from doing this. But, it kept me going. Kept me fighting for me.
Now? I moved to a wonder place. My triggers are gone. I'm at peace. And I look back and see how talking and T listening was very much the medicine that kept me alive.

[Xynesthesia2]

Sounds extremely stressful, I am sorry that you need to deal with these. Do you have good doctors to adjust your medication? If not, I personally would rather focus on getting a second opinion and maybe a different treatment provider rather than therapy in this situation, as a priority. As for the move, can you afford to hire professional movers to help you, and a cleaner afterward (or at least one of them)? Might be more constructive to spend money right now than on therapy? A therapist can't fix a medical issue, or your stressful move - of course you feel stuck "in therapy", these are not psychological problems.

[here today]

Originally Posted by precaryous

. . .
I mean, what can she do in therapy? She’s makes me feel cared for and secure (whilst in my craziness). We have a good rapport. She’s kind and wants to help.

She’s good at listening to me vent. She’s good at helping me keep safe.

. . .

That sounds like a lot!

Hope you can get the meds straightened out, that's a difficult thing for sure.

[susannahsays]

Sorry to hear about the thyroid issues. That sounds really frustrating. My thyroid hasn't been removed but is completely atrophied and useless. I do get some side effects from the replacement hormone, but thankfully, they are limited to cosmetically annoying issues (ironically, I have more hair fall out when my TSH is normal and I am taking my thyroid meds than when I haven't and my hormone levels are life threatening low). Is it at all possible that the symptoms you experienced weren't from the replacement hormone but an effect of your thyroid being removed? I get the impression you weren't on thyroid hormones before since it sounds like the meds are recent. Thyroid hormones themselves do affect mood, and having your thyroid removed could 100% affect your mood until your levels are stabilized. My psychiatrist always wants to know about thyroid levels whenever depression is reported. Unfortunately, doctors also have fixed ideas about what constitutes a normal TSH level and that may or may not be near what a person's TSH looked like before they developed thyroid issues. That means you could be prescribed a lower dosage than the one that would have you feeling normal. Just an idea.

As for therapy, I think it's ok to use it as a place just to get support and a kind ear, if that's what you need right now.

[Elio]

I run my TSH at extreme lows as well, otherwise I have no energy and I'm cold all the time.

I use armour thyroid.

Sorry about all the "life" happening right now for you, it is a lot to deal with.