last session

I think I decided that dont want to continue therapy but don't know how/when to tell my T. Should I mention it in advance or just at the beginning of the session? or at the end? or just not schedule another one? I think I tried to make anything out of it but this therapy is not helpful at all.

It really comes down to whether you want to discuss it or not.

If you don't really want to discuss it, then don't bring it up at all and just don't return. Just understand, you may get varying responses to just not ever coming back. Are you prepared to just have it stop and be okay with the therapist perhaps never inquiring of you why you haven't returned?

If you choose to just drop the end at the very end of your session, be prepared that the therapist may ask for you to come back for a session to discuss it anyway. Are you prepared to either say "No thank you, I don't really need to discuss this decision" or to accept one more appointment to discuss it.

If you just go ahead and bring it up at the beginning of the next session, it can all be discussed and over with by the time you leave. Personally, that would be my choice.

I think we already discussed that its not working a few times and I that's why I don't want to get into yet another pointless conversation. My goal is to let them know I think they are too detached/indefferent and expecting me to just talk with their minimal involvement. I find it very frustrating because I almost find myself reharsing what to say before session not for my own benefit but to fill the silence. I tried to explain that I need a dialogue that I dont like venting but recently the conversation are more and more one sided. So I want them to know that I am not continuing because I'm unhappy with how the sessions are run. At the same time i am really worried about leaving upset or unheard. I don't want to second guess myself later. Easiest way would be not to schedule another session but that would mean I dont explain why I chose not to come back.

I've had a similar problem. I didn't know what to do, didn't want to say anything to my therapist.

I never rescheduled, just found a new doc.

Best decision ever. For me.

There's choices, to be sure.

Do the best you know

Good luck!
Remember, it's all a process, we're all in different stages.

You can simply not turn up but seeing you want them to know why then your choices are to go to session and bring it up at the beginning or email them so you don't have to go.

You have seen that by leaving or explaining, you might be too attached to the process.

Kindly, I ask if the bigger problem might be the anxiety you have.

Maybe check that out and your decision will be flow a bit easier.

The answers are not "explain or not."
There are other options.

Find a new therapist and talk about your situation.
You'll be able to work the problem better.
You may decide to go back and explain.

You could write a letter, return to your therapist and discuss the letter together. You will be heard more clearly. It will also give you an opportunity to get some therapy through writing.

There are more options. Be original and creative. Be you. Be heard.

I'm confident you will feel better about your decision and yourself.

The best to you and your recovery! 🌞

I didnt say anything. Weirdly there were urgent things happening in the meantime and I just vented and used the session for my benefit. I don't think me waiting to end therapy is an ongoing doubt that I keep postpoining. I don't what to dol