[emmaleemochizuki]

Just interested.

Would you prefer your T to push you to say something or would you prefer them to let you go at your pace and not pushing you at all? or maybe somewhere in between?

Personally sometimes it feels a bit like an interrogation rather than a therapy session when my T pushes me, it reminds me more of dealing with the police or the legal system. Even if my T means well, sometime pushing me too far might mean I will just not talk at all.

But sometimes I also need a bit of pushing. If she just let me go a pace I feel comfortable with, it might mean I will just stay within my comfort zone and never going near the things I really need to talk about.

So I would say somewhere in the middle.

[LostOnTheTrail]

Working online, I have to say I'm not especially keen to be pushed. In person, it's different. Having said that, I will push myself if I feel it's absolutely necessary to get something out in the open.

[SlumberKitty]

I would say, just a little. Maybe a 3 on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being very pushy. I don't like to be pushed too much and usually I just shut down if I am pushed. But sometimes I need to be pushed.

[RoxanneToto]

Maybe, but I feel it depends on how I’m being pushed? The last one I saw before current T (a one off, not because I didn’t like her though) said “you know why you didn’t like your ex” - I was still genuinely confused as to why I’d felt like I did when I was with him, still not entirely sure I’ve got it pinned down now either! Another when I was very young was adamant and aggressively insisted I knew why my older brother picked on me - um, nope. I’m only a child, with very little idea about how human relationships work.

[daisydid]

My current T is pretty pushy. I've avoided Ts like that in the past, but I'm appreciative of it with where I'm at currently. He's not so pushy though that I feel like a disappointment or anything if I fall below where I'm being pushed. He's supportive overall.

[Lemoncake]

I would say somewhere in the middle.

It depended on my mood. I did tell him he needed to stop at one point and he did drop it.

What does "push" mean? She challenges me about things, even though I don't make that easy for her, and I often appreciate that. If "push" means imposing her agenda whilst disregarding my comfort limits, well, she does that too and it causes big problems.

[Lostislost]

I’m not sure I would like to be pushed, but in an ideal world I would like him to really be curious about me and ‘know me’ in a way that he could point me the right direction. I don’t feel like I’ve ever had any direction at any point in my life.

my sessions do not feel anything like an interrogation. He rarely asks probing questions. I would like him to tell me the things I do not see about myself and where he feels I’m doing wrong. I’ve asked him to let me know.... he says he will as and when it happens.

[stopdog]

Absolutely not. I did not hire the woman to push me in any way. I hired the woman to explain how to do therapy to fix X. She was total crap.
The second one acknowledged that pushing me did not help at all.

i like it when she pushes me hard. I need it.

[nottrustin]

Sometimes she pushes bit, it can be painful but fruitful. Sometimes I want to ask her to push a but but chicken out. I fear it will be too much

[zoiecat]

I don't necessarily like it when my T pushes me but I also don't want to be in T forever and with DID I have so far to go. Within the first couple months with him I asked to go to 2x a week so that I could get better faster. He thought that was a good idea.

So I guess I would say yes, I want him to push me. Luckily his normal policy is to not let clients just chat about the issues of the week. He says it would be unethical if he did not push me toward steady improvement.

It has been almost 4 years now and I am finally starting to notice improvement although he says he has noticed all along. Even with his pushing, it feels like I am still going to be in therapy forever but I continue to work hard.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Through trial and error, L and I have learned when the times are to push me, and when yhe times are to go at my pace/slower. I'm okay with gentle pushing especially if they are things that she thinks I'll regret if she doesn't. She's usually right. But we also have the word "stop", and that's a signal to her that it's too much for me, and we then change topics until I'm able to calm back down.

[Mountaindewed]

I don’t mind being pushed, I get pushed all the time in groups. But I didn’t like the way my T was pushing me because it started very intensely and very suddenly. One session we just did things normally and Then the next session she seemed angry and was pushing me a lot and she has been like that ever since. It just made me feel like I did something wrong how suddenly things changed. But I think she knew after pushing me so hard one time that I got angry that she doesn’t need to push so hard every single session. One time she randomly asked me if I wanted to talk about a sensitive subject and I got very upset and said “what? No!” So she immediately backed off and said “ok” because my reaction was so severe.