Couch 224: 2day, 2morrow, 4evah!

Oh, that's probably why my cardio listened to mine then, to check circulation.

My T says if I can’t talk about this with him he can’t work with me anymore. I think I’m done.

Wow, he seriously said that? What a jerk!

They work differently somehow. I am on a beta blocker, not for blood pressure, but for irregular heartbeat (palpitations). I have my cardiologist's permission to take sort of as needed (once a day but I don't have to take it every day). The nature of my palpitations is that they come and go in phases (a week or so and then stop, or a few months and then stop). He gives me the flexibility to know when I need to take them. I never have any side effects even when I don't take them. I just know they work when the palpitations kick in.

Yeah, that would be a no-go for me. While there were a few topics my therapist would have liked me to discuss, he always respected my decision to limit topics or wait until I was ready and willing. So sorry.

If you want a therapist, I hope you find someone less controlling than this guy

Wow. I'm sorry he's doubled down on this topic. Does he give any explanation about why you need to talk about this?

Whatt??!!

Unless there's a history of safety issues around your sexual life (or anything), what right does he have to demand you talk about it. And even if there is a history of safety issues around any behavior, what/how you talk about something does not have to be any more specific than what you feel comfortable sharing and reassurance to the safety level of your behavior.

This sounds manipulative and is very red flag for me. Makes me think exploitive. Even if he had a valid therapeutic reason for wanting to discuss elements of your relationship with your BF; packaging it terms of a termination ultimatum removes any thoughts that it is to help you -- logic says that if he's willing for you to walk out the door and never be seen again, he's not trying to help you with his demand.

Ugh, I'm so sorry... What is his problem?

Is "won't give details about sex life" even an ethical reason to terminate with a client?

That's an excellent question...

Just, wow. That seems so odd to me that he would be that way. I don't blame you at all for feeling done with him at this point. I wonder, is he trying to do what my t always accuses me of - but the opposite, trying to quit you before you can quit him?

Are we sure he’s not the one with BPD?

I dumped psychiatrist Smaug over an ultimatum. It hurt and I was angry for a long time, but it was the right thing to do, especially after an abusive relationship.

I dunno, I usually think the simplest solution tends to be the right one. After all, how many times has this guy shown himself to be a controlling asshole? For him it's SOP.

Just took myself on a 1.25 mile walk. Go me. I miss walking, not sure exactly when or why I stopped. I am hereby committing myself to walking no less than a mile every day for the next 9 days. Baby steps, right? Here's a pic I took of the sunset from the top of the hill near my house:

eta maybe walking every day will clear my head out some!!

Omfg. It's not you, hugs. He's such a controlling person.

I remember you guys were telling me since august that R wasn't the right T for me,but I only really stopped therapy three weeks ago and before that we did have around a 6 week gap in before and after Christmas.

In the words of Addison Grey "I had to come back to see that it was right to leave".

I know I could have left ages before but sometimes it's the smaller steps too

I'm happy. Makes it more real now.

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That is a lovely view. I think you stopped when you hurt yourself.

Did you also buy better shoes?

Gorgeous photo! And I need to get back into walking, too.

The dogs pretty much ensure a daily long walk for me. We had two days last week where I could not walk them due to ice (I kept explaining that their lives would be harder if I broke a hip - they were unmoved) and you would have thought I had them sealed in a box rather than a house with a large back yard with all the whining when it got to walk time and none was forthcoming.

Clearly humans should be more like dogs about walking.

Last night i read on the Nextdoor website that a lady fell in her driveway, breaking her hip, and neighbor dogs kept her company and raised a ruckus until someone came.

I take it you saw the nytimes Barry Britt cartoon, ted cruzs dog dishes? I almost had to search out a fire hydrant myself.

If we did it doggy-style maybe we wouldnt fall as much.

I saw a similar story on insta. A lady had fallen, but couldn't move in her hallway. A dog she used to be scared of wouldn't move from outside her front door and told his owner that something was wrong.