[Taylor27]

I am really struggiling to understand after my session on Thursday, I felt relieved and proud of myself for opening up to my therapist and today I'm starting to feel guilty for sharing too much all at once and very unsure how to proceed next session. I will probably be posting more and sorry about that.

[*Beth*]

Why do you feel guilty?

[just2b]

i have felt that too.

[LonesomeTonight]

Hugs, Cheryl. I've also felt this before. I would talk to your therapist about what you're feeling. When is your next session? I'm not sure if you're allowed outside contact, but when I've felt that shame, I've tended to email my T just to ask something like, "Are you OK with all I shared?" And he'll say things like "All good on my end." Which helps.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by BethRags

Why do you feel guilty?

I feel like I shared to much detail into my childhood abuse.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs, Cheryl. I've also felt this before. I would talk to your therapist about what you're feeling. When is your next session? I'm not sure if you're allowed outside contact, but when I've felt that shame, I've tended to email my T just to ask something like, "Are you OK with all I shared?" And he'll say things like "All good on my end." Which helps.

My next session is next week. I will mention this to her and if I need to I can phone her and ask.

[nottrustin]

Do you know where the same is coming from? Is it becacuse you fear being judged by your therapist?

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Do you know where the same is coming from? Is it becacuse you fear being judged by your therapist?

I have a very big fear that I'm going to be too much for her to work with, and judge for past behaviours. I am not 100% sure where the shame is coming from. I just feel weak and insecure inside.

[RoxanneToto]

I have felt some shame in my own sessions, but I think this is part of a therapist’s job, to help you work through it.
Opening up about this stuff is hard, so maybe it was better you said more than you intended to in a session when you felt you were able to talk about it? But I agree if you’re concerned, you can check with them about that.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by Cheryl27

I have a very big fear that I'm going to be too much for her to work with, and judge for past behaviours. I am not 100% sure where the shame is coming from. I just feel weak and insecure inside.

This sounds so much like things I've felt from sharing with my T. I've even emailed him stating my fears that I'm "too much" for him. I think shame like this is programmed into us in childhood, from messages from our parents/caregivers. That we're supposed to be and/or act a certain way. And if we don't, then there's something wrong with us, and people won't accept us as we are. That's the case for me, at least.


I would tell your T exactly what you said here.

[*Beth*]

I've had the fear that I'll be too much for my T to work with.

[Gasplessy]

I am ashamed to admit my fragilities because i'm paralyzed and can't face my normal everyday duities and feel very childish since this has been going on for years
She met me in 2017, I was and still am unemployed cause I had a big crisis
She was pregnant back then and couldn't see her during 2018 but she is not to blame for anything, I was in a really messed up phase of my life anyways, it started many more years ago

Sorry for using this topic

[AliceKate]

I thought I might have overshared in our second session. I just went to the next session wondering if she would tell me to go elsewhere, but she didn't I just let her lead and 6 or so weeks late I am still sometimes wondering, but I think at anyrate at least it is obvious to her now that I'm not a psychpath or such.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by Gasplessy

I am ashamed to admit my fragilities because i'm paralyzed and can't face my normal everyday duities and feel very childish since this has been going on for years
She met me in 2017, I was and still am unemployed cause I had a big crisis
She was pregnant back then and couldn't see her during 2018 but she is not to blame for anything, I was in a really messed up phase of my life anyways, it started many more years ago

Sorry for using this topic

No need to be sorry it's okay and thank you for sharing

[nottrustin]

Shame in therapy is very common. After years back my therapist and I discussed my fear and shame. My fear if being too much stemmed from my abandonment from my father. My shame was related to fear of being judged. She explained that really my fear of judgment was because I judge myself so harshly and expect everybody else to. it was a lightbulb moment for me. It has been only recently and with my current therapist that I truly understand what she meant.