[Gasplessy]

(Please excuse me in advance for any mistake with the language)

I feel guilty with the psychotherapist because I know it's not okay to dig in the past, but i'm in a moment of my life when I need to do it, after years when i was so uncaring
I say to myself: she's human, what am i doing? I don't want to put her down

I don't know, i've been like that for quite a while now :/

[*Beth*]

I think I understand, because I also feel guilty about sharing past life events with my therapist. My childhood happened so long ago I feel like I should be over it, by now. Yet I wouldn't feel that way if it were someone else...I would tell them they should talk with their T about anything.

[Rive.]

Nothing wrong with that. The past has its repercussions in the present.

More so, talking about the past in the present may help, not necessarily in terms of closure but in being able to 'move on' or at least, to move forward to some degree.

[Taylor27]

I think talking about the past can be very theraputic if it's still interfering in your day to day life. I also think it can be a issue too if you only focus on the past. My therapist is helping me find a balance and hopefully one day I wont need to revisit the past. Please don't feel guilty therapist are trained to help in that area.

[Gasplessy]

Thank you for the replies
So...
It is very frustrating, because i've been in trouble for almost ten years
I literally started to open up about what i've been only with her, this year after losing my father

I met her (current therapist) in 2017 -i was already very much in trouble because i had been unemployed for long- but she left me shortly after because she was pregnant
I was addressed to another psychoterapist (didn't click with her, she was kinda rude and I was in a cry mode panicking turning 30)
I re-contact the first therapist in 2019 after a bad climax and initially found it hard to open up sincerely about my life

I'm currently paralyzed and I refuse to accept what i've been, it's a nightmare
She's getting all the "i wish i did this/that", "i don't accept this" etc...

She is the only good (for me) therapist i've ever met in my life
In 2014 i had an experience but wasn't good...
Oh my

[Mountaindewed]

I wish I had told my old therapist about some of the cool nostalgic places I went to as a kid that were right around the office. These places closed years ago. I think it would have been a fun conversation. We were always just so focused on the right now we didn’t have any nostalgic conversations.

[divine1966]

Many people specifically go to therapists talk about childhood so there is nothing wrong with that.