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#841
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I think S. the group leader was trying to get me to see that I am empathetic by saying that I'm here or that I'm listening or by giving a hug even if I am baffled by the person's emotions, or their lack of emotions as it is sometimes. I just have such trouble recognizing of someone is upset because they are mad, or upset because they are sad, or upset because of some other reason. Like I get that they are upset....but that's about it. So much to learn in IOP. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#842
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#843
I am at the yurt. In some ways it is lovely, but I have this feeling that I am waiting for myself to arrive. I had a longing to be here, to unfurl, to create, and to become aware, but instead I feel absent and stuck. I wonder if my heart has died. I don't belong and I yearn for connection. Or maybe I just need to get a grip and get over myself. How do you know when you are pointlessly navel gazing? It can go on forever.
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#844
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Maybe don't force it. You'll get there and be able to do the things you want to do. But if you stuck right now don't force trying to be there and be creative and be aware. And you did connect with us here on the couch. That's a connection. HUGS Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#845
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#846
And as if by magic, the woman who owns the land where the yurt is built has just delivered some homemade apple crumble, made from the apples on their trees! Maybe I have finally found my mother after all!!
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#847
That IS magical! And delightful! And it looks yummy! Enjoy comrade!
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#848
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#849
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That sounds really nice! And the yurt looks lovely and peaceful. Maybe the apple crisp will help get you in the mindset you want to be in. But I agree with Kit that you shouldn't force it or feel like you have to do anything in particular. |
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#850
I have an appointment with the IOP pdoc in about an hour. I hope he doesn't try to change my medications or anything. I hope it's just a "we want to make sure you are seen by a provider" type of thing. I hope he's not one of these "let's change everything you are on" sorts of people (although I have prescriptions for three months from my other doctor so I suppose I could just not take his advice.) I think it's a him. We'll find out. I'm weirdly nervous.
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#851
I hope it goes well, Kit. If he/she tries to change things and you aren't comfortable with it, you can always decline. I've done that with my p-doc before. I'd just see what they say though.
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#852
I'm not good at being assertive but we'll see how this goes. My case manager R says that it usually just takes 15 to 20 minutes so I don't think he/she is going to do an assessment or anything. I think it's more of a make sure you have a pdoc type thing.
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#853
And the shame we feel in childhood is often someone else's shame which is unloaded onto us and we carry the weight of it into adulthood.
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#854
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#855
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#856
comrade, you improved my vocabulary today. I had to look up ubiquitous.
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#857
I tried looking up the Pdoc on Google. But no luck. I'll just have to wait another 20 minutes or so to find out more about him/her.
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#858
Your question is shorter than kits answer, but yeah! I recently (well, before covid) didnt recognize an apartment neighbor young woman who i looooove when i saw her at the grocery store. But this happened all my adult life. Most often with women i like / admire and work adjacent to, but then see "out of context".
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#859
They should make a commercial: "Applecrisp - its whats for dinner." I used to make it for my mom when i lived with her. It was pretty horrible - my low fat no sugar cooking! But i do love when other people make it.
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#860
Why are the Americans amongst us saying "applecrisp"? Is that what you (mistakenly, of course) call apple crumble?
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