Couch 232: Not Sully!

That always catches my ear, either way, when somebody says "ED" - im like who what where?

I’m waiting for my cold medicine to kick in so I can sleep and googling consulting therapist.

She’s all about “promoting rational thought.” There’s a chance I already outgrew her.

Also, how many alphabet-soup varieties of therapy are there? I just learned a new one on her profile, REBT.

GF ED could be “gluten free eating disorder” or “girlfriend erectile dysfunction.”

Isnt REBT like RET? Albert Ellis. Its basically the Bob Newhart gif. STOP IT!

When all else fails: "Have fun kids! Don't stay up too late."

Glad it went well and that you got more IOP days approved!

Ah, how I do not miss being in need of the Bob Newhart thing. Thankfully if I ever am again, I know I can ask someone here

REBT has been around longer than CBT or DBT. Kind of the precursor to those. My therapist used aspects of all of them - he was rather eclectic. I found REBT helpful and not as dumbed down as CBT. Didn't require all of that identifying different types of thought distortions stuff that I always found a bit crazy-making by itself.

Amusing Dr. T moment (in the midst of a rather dark session): I was talking about a difficult anniversary coming up tomorrow and said how I'd tried to do little things for myself, like treat myself to some small things this week. "Not like a diamond bracelet or anything like that." Dr. T: "I don't think that buying a diamond bracelet for yourself would be helpful. Buying one for your therapist, however, that could have very positive benefits for your mental health."

I think L is going to leave me when H and I run out of money. She once said that she does pro-bono. I guess I'm not important enough for that? And she says we have decades and she'll always be my therapist. I guess that is title only and only if I can pay. I'm really depressed right now. She lead me to believe something different. I'm tempted to quit now while I'm ahead and find someone who will see me even when I'm broke. It sucks too because these past two weeks I've been feeling extremely good. I guess that's life for you: you got to ride the waves.

I'm sorry, Scarlet...Did she say something in particular that is making you think this now? I think it would be good to discuss with her.

She mentioned in an email that we would do similar to what I did when T went on maternity leave. Well, I transferred to L when T went on maternity leave, so that leads me to believe that she'll want me to find another therapist.

She has said many things that contradict that, but she was also unwilling to reduce her rates this last time. I don't know what to believe anymore.

We will be talking about this tomorrow in session. I'm not looking forward to it, but it's necessary. I need clarity, not these ambiguous answers.

Ouch, Scarlet. I am so sorry you are going through this.


I hope L can provide some certainty and support to you.

Hugs, Scarlet. I hope talking to her will help and make you feel better about things with her.

I think it is always better to ask directly.

Info learned a new word.

I’ve having trouble (again) getting an accommodations from my school (an office phone that captions) and I’ve ranted about it to her last session and then over email. She’s been responding with slight variations on “this is a macroaggression!”, which I don’t find helpful.

I wonder if it’s a microaggression to overuse the term macroaggression?

I was telling the chiropractor about how much trouble I had at the first orthopedic guys office and she seemed surprised I would not consider just taking some pill to stop anxiety. I don't want the anxiety stopped with a pill - I might need it. I am actually shocked at how that is the first thing people say to do. Just get X from the md - do mds really hand them out like candy? I don't want to be beholden to some power tripping md. And I really don't want big pharma drugs to take my me-ness away (that other people might cheer over that plan is not relevant to my decision).

And I have had hiccups about 5 times today - so annoying

I think a "macroaggression" is just aggression. That can't be a word, can it?

Microaggression was coined for a good reason...because the word "aggression" did not capture the meaning. Fine.

But to coin YET ANOTHER word to indicate the opposite of... oh, I just can't, anymore.

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The acts are wrong, but the overly pc language irks me

Googling suggests macroaggression is a word, but not as common as microaggression.

And both words...are older than me? (Coined in 1970.) I don’t remember hearing them until 5 or so years ago.

I don’t use either, but Info’s very fond of them when we discuss this topic.

Everything info does, i see as a microaggression. Or as we used to say in my day, she just rubs me the wrong way. Speaking of which, im reading patricia highsmiths Caroline. Im just in the first couple of chapters. The lilting voice and lack of technology is charming and refreshing, yet it feels very contemporary.

You just think you could do a better job as my therapist.

ETA: you hugged SD? That’s a macroaggression.

ETAA: I looked at New Therapist’s linkedin page, and she has a recommendation from Dr. Biker Chick.

This is not a recommendation to me.

Sorry to hear that, @@. I wouldn't be surprised if you wanted to run a mile at this point.

Here it's opposite. Not given meds even if it would really help. I do take Traditional Chinese Medicine too, as some of it helps me much better.

I'm depressed. Tired of it. I can still function but it's difficult. Suicidal thoughts. I'll manage, I'm keeping safe. Just tired of fighting sometimes. I exercise, eat healthy, take my meds (psych, supplements, TCM - yes nothing is interacting in bad ways), therapy blah blah.

I just want to grumble in a place where no one will panic, yet where I'm not alone with mental health issues.

Oh dear. I attended a lecture by Ellis once. You should leave any projectiles at home. Or put stopdog on retainer.