[nottrustin]

TRIGGER WARNING ABOUT T Being ill and loss of T

I have have been posting a lot less here. When my long term T died everyone here was so supportive. Current T (whom have been seeing since 10 months before long term Ts death) is still alive but ill. I have been seeing her twice a week since November because of work burnout amd other life stressers. So that is the back story.

At my first appointment of this past week everything was normal until she "reminded" me she will be out all next week due to surgery. I knew nothing about surgery and said I hope it is nothing serious. Her response was "The prognosis is really good" . She apologized. Then we had to end the session. For the next 2 days I agonized over the possible surgeries that have a good prognosis but would have her missing just a week. I also didn't know how to handle the next session. She has thr right to privacy and wanted to honor that but also feared losing her. Since long term T's death the fear of losing her is very real. So I decided I was not going to ask or even bring up the suject.

The appointment started by us talking about my job. Then it became very quite as I didnt know what to say. Afterq a couple of minutes she apologized to not telling me about the surgery 2 weeks earlier when she thought she told all her clients. I told her it was fine because things happen. I didn't say it but the appointments 2 weeks ago we very intense and we were able to get to a significant core issue and making connections. Again I went quiet trying to figure out what to talk about. So she said she was going to poke a bit. She started by qsking if I was upset she hadn't told me earlier, I shook my head no. Then she asked of it was because I would not have the support next week. Again I shook my head no (that thought had never even crossed my mind). Finally, she asked if I was worried about her health and I shook my head yes.

She sait it is okay to talk about it qnd I responded by telling jer I want to respect her privacy. She asked me if I wanted to know about the surgery.. We discussed if I really did. In the end, we decided it would be better for me to know. Then she told me she has breast cancer. They caught it REALLY early thanks to very frequent mammograms. She told me the treatment plan. The doctor told her she would be fine physically to return to work this week but recommended taking a week off for mental health reasons.

Near the end of the appointment we talked about there not being a a right or wrong way to handle disclosing such information. So she asked if she made the right choice in telling me.

It feels different knowing she will be out all week than it does when she is on vacation. I keep feeling the desire to support her. I know thr best way to do so is keep her and her family in my prayers

[AliceKate]

I am very sorry this is happening. It sounds like she will be okay though. I'm glad she had the foresight to have frequent mammograms. Breast cancer is the most easily resolved type as long as it hasn't spread. And if they caught it early that means it very likely hasn't spread. Praying is the right way to go here, I think

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by AliceKate

I am very sorry this is happening. It sounds like she will be okay though. I'm glad she had the foresight to have frequent mammograms. Breast cancer is the most easily resolved type as long as it hasn't spread. And if they caught it early that means it very likely hasn't spread. Praying is the right way to go here, I think

Thank you. Due to the density of her breast tissue and her mother having breast cancer she has been having mammograms more than once a year for years now.

She said it was caught so early that she has almost a 100% survival rate and will do radiation just to make sure.

[LonesomeTonight]

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this--I understand why you're especially worried, given what happened with your former T. I'm glad your T was open and up-front with you about what's going on. (I'd want to know, too--I'm sure my mind would go to all the worst-case scenarios.) I assume it's a lumpectomy then? Did she say if she was getting radiation or chemo and if that might affect her work schedule? Though they may not know until they do the surgery, I'm guessing.


I hope her surgery goes well and that she makes a full recovery. Hugs, if wanted.

[AliceKate]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Thank you. Due to the density of her breast tissue and her mother having breast cancer she has been having mammograms more than once a year for years now.

She said it was caught so early that she has almost a 100% survival rate and will do radiation just to make sure.

That is very good. And radiation is a good call, too, and not too heavy, I think. Chemo is said to be the excruciating one. It sounds like she is making all the right decisions and you will have a very healthy T in no time and already have a very sensible one at that!

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this--I understand why you're especially worried, given what happened with your former T. I'm glad your T was open and up-front with you about what's going on. (I'd want to know, too--I'm sure my mind would go to all the worst-case scenarios.) I assume it's a lumpectomy then? Did she say if she was getting radiation or chemo and if that might affect her work schedule? Though they may not know until they do the surgery, I'm guessing.


I hope her surgery goes well and that she makes a full recovery. Hugs, if wanted.

She is having a lumpectomy followed by radiation. The doctors expect a full recovery. As a runner she asked how long she would have to refrain from her daily runs. They expect she will be back to living normally in 3-4 weeks and the radiation to be just an annoyance.. Praying they are right.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

She is having a lumpectomy followed by radiation. The doctors expect a full recovery. As a runner she asked how long she would have to refrain from her daily runs. They expect she will be back to living normally in 3-4 weeks and the radiation to be just an annoyance.. Praying they are right.

Hoping for your and her sake that they're right, too!

[downandlonely]

Cancer is always a scary word, but it's good news that they caught it early.

[East17]

I understand what you're going through with your T.
Thinking of you and hoping she makes a full recovery.

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[Quietmind 2]

Hoping she makes a full recovery.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

I can understand how triggering this must be. I am already triggered by more minor things and not having lost my previous T personally. But I do remember your story and think about it from time to time in my own life.

My T has recently had surgery as well, although a rather minor one. But he's getting older, and that that always creates stress.
I'm very hopeful that your T will successfully manage this surgery and then not have problems after. Although it is a scary diagnosis, it's one of the best treated cancers that I know of, especially if detected early.

I'll keep both of you in my thoughts, I really hope this works out for you!

[Marilyn2016]

Hold on. Sometimes it becomes the only option on your journey. Pray 🙏 ers for you too!

[ArtleyWilkins]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Thank you. Due to the density of her breast tissue and her mother having breast cancer she has been having mammograms more than once a year for years now.

She said it was caught so early that she has almost a 100% survival rate and will do radiation just to make sure.

Sounds similar to my oldest sister. The surgery was relatively minor. She did radiation also. She's beyond ten years cancer free now.