Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch

Jersey Lovely to see you on the Couch.

Sorry to hear about your dad.

Jerz, it is still awful. Maybe talk to hospice care? After the time my dad spent after his organs started failing, its like hospitals will extend life without considering quality of life. But my dad just plain did not want to die. He wanted everything done to save him, no matter what. I dont think i will go that route.

Couch update...my weekend was amazing. The bicycle is not as dusty or cobwebby as I thought it might be. We spent a lot of time, erm, bicycling. Heh. And cooking together and watching a movie and talking and talking and I don't think I've slept so deeply for years. So. Whew.

Wait, is bicycling the new SIM card shopping?

Also, I told you so.

I'm sorry about your dad Jersey

Happy for you, WFS!

So yesterday after work I had to run a couple errands and while I was driving home I had a flat tire. Limped the car along to a gas station and of course the air thingie was out of order. Isn't that always the way? ha. As I was sitting there calling AAA because after the last time it happened, I still hadn't bought the specific tool needed to remove my hubcaps (the only thing fancy about my old beat-up car haha they were on it when i bought it used a few years back) so I still can't change the tire myself, then AAA guy didn't have the proper tool either (they did the last time) so he had to tow the car to the shop we go to. H was on a long-distance job so couldn't pick me up, so the tow truck driver brought me home which was nice of him. To cap off the fun times, when I was climbing down out of the tow truck in front of my house last night, I fell! I'm such a klutz. He was all worried I'm like I'm good, I'm good.

While I was waiting for the tow truck, I was doing that progressive muscle relaxation thing to calm down because it was getting dark and then I realized that was a good time to make a gratitude list. I thought to myself I live in the desert, so it's not cold outside; I made it into the parking lot of an open, well-lit gas station, so I'm not standing on the side of a busy road in the dark; there's nothing else I can be doing right now anyway so I can just stand here and look up at the stars. That was very helpful and by the time the tow truck got there I was still calm. The way I've been feeling the past month or so I'm rather amazed that I didn't totally lose my ****!

Happy Tuesday couch. Hugs and head nods all around as appropriate.

Hugs, Artie. It sounds like you handled all that really well!

Thanks LT, I kinda surprised myself truth be told! It's so good when the tools work like they should (the progressive relaxation, etc).

And quite amazingly - they offered VTO at work about an hour ago (I'm in chat this week and it's very slow) so I took them up on it, and am now off for the rest of the day, so I can go deal with my car.

Glad to hear you had a great weekend!

Still waiting on a letter from my pdoc's office. More irritated every day. It's been 11 days. Good grief.

that does seem a bit excessive for a letter. somebody there must have dropped the ball. I'm sorry, Kit.

I'm flopping onto the couch, please excuse my mood. I'm giving myself the rest of today to wallow in feeling sorry for myself and kicking my own butt. Tomorrow I have to go to an oral surgeon, after going to my dentist today. There's only so much panic one can hold.

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Slumber, usually i have an appointment to physically pick up the letter, on the drs letterhead, or like a prescription.

I had surgery yesterday, a panniculectomy to remove skin and a belly roll. Insurance paid because I was getting recurrent yeast infections underneath the excess skin. I'm in pain but it is bearable. I feel much better than the last surgery I had, which was the gastric bypass.

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Jersey, I'm sorry that sharing here did not provide the lifting of weight that you had hoped. Your dad is in a tough position. It's got to be his decision whether to keep fighting or to decide it's his time. I know it's difficult to think about him passing, but I'm a big believer that people should be able to make that decision on their own terms. His questions about after the surgery seem mostly reasonable and might be a sign that he is hopeful, that he is envisioning life after the surgery.

Online support groups can be a mixed blessing. No, the surgery doesn't work for everyone, but you can decide to focus on how to give yourself the best chances for it to be successful. I do wish you and your family all the best.

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I just wanted to update the peoples here about my situation with L. I'm not making another thread because I feel that one was getting too messy and I don't want to make a big deal out of everything.

L and I are on the mends. She explained to me why she denied her H being there, and it makes sense. We also talked about my reaction and how that made sense too. We will be okay. We're finally understanding what happened.

The couch seems to be undergoing a group dental crisis. good luck to all those facing the dentist chair.

Luckily I just had my 6 month checkup at the dentist and everything was ok.

I'm horribly behind on seeing a dentist, but my H just called to make a checkup appointment for himself today. He's had some dental issues in the past (a couple root canals), but nothing recently (though he's having his second hip surgery in a year next month).

I'm glad to hear that, Scarlet. Hugs to you.

I hope you have an easy recovery! And glad insurance covered it.

Eek, I'm sorry. I hope everything turns out okay.
I'm glad the pain feels bearable. That sounds like a very uncomfortable surgery. Not that any surgery is comfortable.
I'm glad you guys are doing better and you understand what happened. You have such great resilience
I know. It must suck a little to be a dentist, because probably nobody wants to be there.

I blame Laurence Olivier's performance in "Marathon Man."

So, I got a call from my dr yesterday she is sending me in for another thyroid ultrasound, surprised it's already been a year since the last one. I am going on Friday afternoon, another thing to worry about but I'm trying not to think about it. Thursday evening drum circle was cancelled again this week, darn it, i so needed that right now. I talk to cbt coach today after work (doing a 2nd 8 weeks, but she was on vacation last week), dentist tomorrow after work, pdoc fri morning and now thyroid ultrasound friday afternoon. Haven't heard yet how much it's gonna cost to fix my car which is still in the shop. I'm guessing there's something else wrong besides the tire but i don't know yet. I don't feel as hopeless as I had been for a little bit anymore, but i'm still stressed out with all of that and some other stuff that's going on. I can't wait to hit the road Saturday morning.