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Old Jul 02, 2023, 03:01 AM
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H wanted to go out to breakfast again today to a restaurant we haven't been in a while (before my hospital bills start rolling in) so we did, I ordered the southwest bagel that had a fried egg, cheese, and roasted green chilis. It was delicious, although I could eat only half so I brought the rest home. It should heat up well in my air fryer tomorrow. So far so good, with adding back in fiber foods gradually as I was instructed to do.

I got the pattern book of mandala-style afghans, picked out the one I'm going to make for my sister, and went to JoAnn and Michael's both but neither of them carry the yarn I want to use. So I found it on Amazon and ordered it from there; it should get here tomorrow so I'll have a couple of days to get a good start on it before I go back to work on Wednesday. I did not need to nap yesterday at all, and even managed to walk 1.24 miles.

Here's the afghan I picked out for my sis, (pic taken of the pattern book), I'm really excited to get started on it. I had to change one of the colors, the gold-looking color was out of stock so I found a muted green color that looks like it will match well.
I've always loved your knits Art.

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Old Jul 02, 2023, 04:08 AM
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Lemon - that was a strange request. Why doesnt the person they were talking to do it? U-stores are all over the place here.

Maybe your sisters thought you already knew, and wondered why you werent bringing it up? Thats what would have happened in my family. Plus when i went no contact, instead of just leaving a voicemail that someone had passed, my mother or someone else would leave a frantic message "to call, it's very important!" When i finally went to my mother's funeral, i was like, where is cousin M? Oh - it must have been THAT phone call. I think if they had respected my no-contact, they would have left a message, but they chose to remain manipulative. I couldnt take it any more.
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Old Jul 02, 2023, 07:33 AM
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Lemon - that was a strange request. Why doesnt the person they were talking to do it? U-stores are all over the place here.

Maybe your sisters thought you already knew, and wondered why you werent bringing it up? Thats what would have happened in my family. Plus when i went no contact, instead of just leaving a voicemail that someone had passed, my mother or someone else would leave a frantic message "to call, it's very important!" When i finally went to my mother's funeral, i was like, where is cousin M? Oh - it must have been THAT phone call. I think if they had respected my no-contact, they would have left a message, but they chose to remain manipulative. I couldnt take it any more.


That's a sad way to find out about your cousin.

I know they don't tell me because they don't want to upset me. They've done it twice before with other examples. I've been upset the past week & just struggling in general. Don't think it would have helped.
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Old Jul 02, 2023, 08:22 AM
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Hugs, Lemon. However you feel about your grandfather is OK. But I think you should have been told. My mom has kept stuff from me at times for not wanting to upset or worry me, and I'd rather know!
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Old Jul 02, 2023, 09:26 AM
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What is the book? That pattern is really pretty and might entice me to learn crocheting.
It's called "Mandala-Style Throws to Crochet" by Annie's Crochet. The patterns are rated Easy all the way through Challenging. The one I'm making is rated Intermediate. I've yet to attempt a challenging level pattern! The one that's rated challenging is so beautiful though and I have decided that after I finish my sister's, I'm going to attempt it, at least the center part of it. If that's all I can accomplish, it'll make a nice wall hanging anyway.

ps: there's many learn to crochet videos on youtube if you don't have anyone locally who can teach you. This one
she goes really slowly so it's easy to follow. She holds her hook like a pencil; I happen to hold mine like a steak knife (there's 2 different schools on this lol) but it's really just personal preference.

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Old Jul 02, 2023, 09:36 AM
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Hugs, Lemon. I agree with LT however you feel about your grandfather is ok. Also I hope they're able to treat him, and that he's ok.

It's hard when you're not told things; i know there's things my family doesn't tell me because I live so far away and there's nothing i could do anyway. most things they tell me, but some things, get kept from me and it used to upset me, but i suppose i've come to accept that it's just going to happen. I also get it that sometimes it ends up being a good thing when I don't know something... so there's always that.
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Old Jul 02, 2023, 09:39 AM
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I've always loved your knits Art.

thank you! my sister sent me a pic of her fiance wearing the lastest pair of slippers I made for him, while kicking back on their vacation. He calls them "Karandles" (a mix of my first name and the word sandals haha)
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 08:57 AM
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Hi couch, hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

Yesterday afternoon H & I went and saw the new Indiana Jones movie; it had been a long time since we last went to a theater! H's hearing aid is broken again and in for repair, so he was really excited to be able to hear it anyway since they're always so very loud (he misses a lot when watching TV without his hearing aid because it won't go loud enough). I have the opposite problem, my hearing is overly sensitive, so I have to wear noise-cancelling headphones when we go see movies. The headphones dial the loudness down just enough that I can tolerate it. We both enjoyed the movie overall.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 09:27 AM
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New intro meeting with the trauma T- just ended. She was 1 min late, but I can tell that I can work with her.

Didn't feel like I had to deal with my usual trust issues: Just decided to trust her and told her the main points. Mentioned the shame I felt about being attracted to Fin too.

She also said I sounded like a therapist. Not sure if that's a compliment lol.

Gave her a Victor Frankl quote too.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 09:29 AM
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Hi couch, hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

Yesterday afternoon H & I went and saw the new Indiana Jones movie; it had been a long time since we last went to a theater! H's hearing aid is broken again and in for repair, so he was really excited to be able to hear it anyway since they're always so very loud (he misses a lot when watching TV without his hearing aid because it won't go loud enough). I have the opposite problem, my hearing is overly sensitive, so I have to wear noise-cancelling headphones when we go see movies. The headphones dial the loudness down just enough that I can tolerate it. We both enjoyed the movie overall.
Glad you enjoyed the movie Art.

I didn't like the trailer. He's supposed to be the hero, not a side kick character.

Which headphones do you use?
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 09:53 AM
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New into meeting with the trauma T- just ended. She was 1 min late, but I can tell that I can work with her.

Didn't feel like I had to deal with my usual trust issues: Just decided to trust her and told her the main points. Mentioned the shame I felt about being attracted to Fin.

She also said I sounded like a therapist. Not sure if that's a compliment lol.

Gave her a Victor Frankl quote too.
That sounds really promising, Lemon; I'm glad you met with her and hope that she is helpful for you.

While my sister was visiting with me in the hospital recently, we had several therapy-related discussions about our childhood and as she and I have collectively had about 25 years of therapy between us, I felt like at different times in the discussions we were both sounding like a therapist!
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 09:59 AM
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Glad you enjoyed the movie Art.

I didn't like the trailer. He's supposed to be the hero, not a side kick character.

Which headphones do you use?
They're "Monoprice Active Noise-Cancelling Headphones". I got them a good few years ago, and don't remember anymore what I paid for them at the time, but I do remember that they were a lot less expensive than the Bose ones are. They use a AAA battery; but I just looked them up on Amazon and now they have ones you can charge instead and they're also bluetooth compatible now, which mine aren't. Mine are super low-tech haha but they still work very well for my needs. Unfortunately, they're not comfortable enough to use for a full 8-hour workday, but for a couple hours at a movie, they're perfect.

Oh and about the movie - yeah, I get that. But, he IS old now so... I don't want to spoil it for those who plan to see it who haven't yet, so I'll hush now.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 10:12 AM
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New into meeting with the trauma T- just ended. She was 1 min late, but I can tell that I can work with her.

Didn't feel like I had to deal with my usual trust issues: Just decided to trust her and told her the main points. Mentioned the shame I felt about being attracted to Fin.

She also said I sounded like a therapist. Not sure if that's a compliment lol.

Gave her a Victor Frankl quote too.

Glad you feel you want to work with the trauma T and didn't have the trust issues. I hope she turns out to be helpful!


Dr. T's backup, R, didn't say I sounded like a therapist so much, but has said multiple times that she thinks I'd make a good therapist.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 10:14 AM
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I've been reflecting a little this morning on how a year ago today, I was still struggling with turning 60. And now today, I feel overwhelmed with gratitude and thanksgiving that I get to turn 61 tomorrow - cuz not that long ago (6/15) it wasn't clear that I was going to get the opportunity. My how perspective can change in the blink of an eye, eh?
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 10:58 AM
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Artie, I'm glad you're about to turn 61! I hope you have a wonderful birthday!

Also, ATAT, thank you very much for your kind words.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 11:11 AM
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That sounds really promising, Lemon; I'm glad you met with her and hope that she is helpful for you.

While my sister was visiting with me in the hospital recently, we had several therapy-related discussions about our childhood and as she and I have collectively had about 25 years of therapy between us, I felt like at different times in the discussions we were both sounding like a therapist!
Thank you Art. I just feel tired and a bit down now, though it was only a 25 min talk.

Wow 25 years is a long time. My youngest sister has also been seeing someone too. One perk of all of these hours would be stopping generational trauma.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 11:14 AM
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thank you! my sister sent me a pic of her fiance wearing the lastest pair of slippers I made for him, while kicking back on their vacation. He calls them "Karandles" (a mix of my first name and the word sandals haha)
You need to trademark that asap! You could also make Christmas themed ones or socks, in the run up to the holidays.
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Oh. Emm. GEE.
I applied for a home loan through my bank last week.

I have gotten 20+ calls from folks offering me a mortgage loan in the last hour. Ten were between 8-8:15. GAH.
My head is exploding. Three more while I was typing this post.

So. Anyway, hi Couch!
Bicycle guy and I are still bicycling. I'm pretty squooshy about him.
The ex is still ex-ish.
The barbarians are still tall and think they might not want to live with their mother forever, which is dumb most days except when they don't do their dishes or pick up their giant shoes.
That's about it.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 11:25 AM
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Oh. Emm. GEE.
I applied for a home loan through my bank last week.

I have gotten 20+ calls from folks offering me a mortgage loan in the last hour. Ten were between 8-8:15. GAH.
My head is exploding. Three more while I was typing this post.

So. Anyway, hi Couch!
Bicycle guy and I are still bicycling. I'm pretty squooshy about him.
The ex is still ex-ish.
The barbarians are still tall and think they might not want to live with their mother forever, which is dumb most days except when they don't do their dishes or pick up their giant shoes.
That's about it.
Can you block the number? Or just put your phone on silent incase they call you again.

Squooshy is a cute word. Hope you guys can enjoy it.

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Old Jul 03, 2023, 11:29 AM
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They're "Monoprice Active Noise-Cancelling Headphones". I got them a good few years ago, and don't remember anymore what I paid for them at the time, but I do remember that they were a lot less expensive than the Bose ones are. They use a AAA battery; but I just looked them up on Amazon and now they have ones you can charge instead and they're also bluetooth compatible now, which mine aren't. Mine are super low-tech haha but they still work very well for my needs. Unfortunately, they're not comfortable enough to use for a full 8-hour workday, but for a couple hours at a movie, they're perfect.

Oh and about the movie - yeah, I get that. But, he IS old now so... I don't want to spoil it for those who plan to see it who haven't yet, so I'll hush now.
Thanks for info- I'll have a look. I bought a cheap pair of earphones, for the gym but couldn't manage to connect them to my iphone ( they do connect to my laptop though) which is the main reason I wanted them. Keeping mine for now but lusting after another pair.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 11:32 AM
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Glad you feel you want to work with the trauma T and didn't have the trust issues. I hope she turns out to be helpful!

Dr. T's backup, R, didn't say I sounded like a therapist so much, but has said multiple times that she thinks I'd make a good therapist.
I feel like this does show how I have changed, even if it's in small ways. The old me would have needed more time, and I always had more trouble trusting women as easily as I did with men.

Will you be seeing R, when Dr T goes away on holiday again?
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Hi Couch,

Ridiculous day today...an incredibly important and intense work meeting.
Left me feeling incredibly drained.

Lesson planning with a colleague in the morning, but other than that, I am not doing anything tomorrow.
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Old Jul 03, 2023, 12:41 PM
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I feel like this does show how I have changed, even if it's in small ways. The old me would have needed more time, and I always had more trouble trusting women as easily as I did with men.

Will you be seeing R, when Dr T goes away on holiday again?

It's good that you can see the change in you.

I just found out today that R will be available the last week of this month, when Dr. T is away. Well, M-W, which is fine with me.
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Hi Couch,

Ridiculous day today...an incredibly important and intense work meeting.
Left me feeling incredibly drained.

Lesson planning with a colleague in the morning, but other than that, I am not doing anything tomorrow.

Hugs, Lost. It's good you got through it and that you're going to rest tomorrow.
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Oh. Emm. GEE.
I applied for a home loan through my bank last week.

I have gotten 20+ calls from folks offering me a mortgage loan in the last hour. Ten were between 8-8:15. GAH.
My head is exploding. Three more while I was typing this post.

So. Anyway, hi Couch!
Bicycle guy and I are still bicycling. I'm pretty squooshy about him.
The ex is still ex-ish.
The barbarians are still tall and think they might not want to live with their mother forever, which is dumb most days except when they don't do their dishes or pick up their giant shoes.
That's about it.
WFS, is bicycle guy involved in the reason for getting a loan? *waggles eyebrows*

Just make sure there’s room for a tandem in the garage!
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