Couch 247: Choose Cheese!

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 11, 2024 at 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Did you ask her why?

I don't know if it would help, but the Heidi Priebe person I posted links to the other day - she has a lot of videos and her explanations are some of the few (only ones) that I understand explaining some dynamics between people

Nah, I didn't bother asking. Didn't see a point.

I need to watch some of those videos.

stopdog · Mar 11, 2024 at 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Nah, I didn't bother asking. Didn't see a point.

I need to watch some of those videos.

Because right now - you are guessing and making assumptions and if you asked - you would know or know that she wouldn't answer.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 11, 2024 at 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I always ask them why. Drives some of them nuts, but it’s useful.

Yeah, it drives Dr. T nuts at times for sure. Though now he usually does tell me why. Often, it's helpful. Other times, not so much.

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 11, 2024 at 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Because right now - you are guessing and making assumptions and if you asked - you would know or know that she wouldn't answer.

eh, doesn't really matter anymore either way. i just got reminded of the incident from that article, is the only reason i even mentioned it.

i watched one of the videos when you first posted them and it was interesting and forgot i'd intended to go back and watch more.

LostOnTheTrail · Mar 12, 2024 at 05:50 PM

A colleague just asked a question about my goals for therapy. I feel that's quite personal, and it dawned on me that R and I haven't discussed goals directly since 2019.

Right now R provides the space for me to process my life in the aftermath of Steve's death. We are also working on being comfortable expressing my needs and emotions.

Can that be enough?

I'm very aware that my therapy is none of my colleague's business, too.

LonesomeTonight · Mar 12, 2024 at 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

A colleague just asked a question about my goals for therapy. I feel that's quite personal, and it dawned on me that R and I haven't discussed goals directly since 2019.

Right now R provides the space for me to process my life in the aftermath of Steve's death. We are also working on being comfortable expressing my needs and emotions.

Can that be enough?

I'm very aware that my therapy is none of my colleague's business, too.

I think that's enough, Lost. It's what you need right now.

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 13, 2024 at 03:24 PM

Hugs, Lost. That sounds like good enough goals to me.

(i forgot to post when i typed this yesterday oops)

LostOnTheTrail · Mar 13, 2024 at 05:01 PM

Thanks, Artie.

East17 · Mar 13, 2024 at 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

A colleague just asked a question about my goals for therapy. I feel that's quite personal, and it dawned on me that R and I haven't discussed goals directly since 2019.

Right now R provides the space for me to process my life in the aftermath of Steve's death. We are also working on being comfortable expressing my needs and emotions.

Can that be enough?

I'm very aware that my therapy is none of my colleague's business, too.

Sometimes support and maintenance is enough of a goal in itself. It's whatever you need at this moment.

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LonesomeTonight · Mar 13, 2024 at 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by East17

Sometimes support and maintenance is enough of a goal in itself. It's whatever you need at this moment.

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Agreed. It's what I needed for the first, say, 18 months (maybe 2 years?) of the pandemic. I was struggling and just had to get through it. Wasn't in a place to really do much more than that.

stopdog · Mar 13, 2024 at 07:38 PM

I like listening to murder mysteries when I walk the dogs and I lean towards the cozy side but I find I am more and more irked at characters that get all unhinged by murder or death - like somehow their notion of justice must be inflicted on others. I am not for murder of course but I don't find myself personally affronted by the demise of someone I don't know.

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 13, 2024 at 08:43 PM

that reminds me - I haven't listened to my collection of old radio shows in a long time - I am going to go dig them out right now, so I can start listening to them while I work.

eta: no digging involved. found 'em already. old radio shows like The Whistler, and Yours truly, Johnny Dollar; Dragnet; CBS Radio Mystery Theater, the Big Show (with Tallulah Bankhead); Inner Sanctum Mysteries; all kinds of good stuff.

unaluna · Mar 13, 2024 at 10:46 PM

I think i just finalized my grocery list for the week. Its for the veg, mainly. I feel like i never get tired of eating a crisp salad. And i did indeed choose cheese - some nonfat american slices. Make myself a little meximelt. I keep waiting for taco bell to announce they are bringing it back. "It's what's for breakfast!"

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 14, 2024 at 10:02 AM

i got a surprise day off today woohoo! yesterday afternoon just before i logged off, my sup sent out an email offering VTO for today (unpaid time off, for which we can use our vacation time to get paid for it) so I was like um yeah i'll take 8 of the hours being offered!

LostOnTheTrail · Mar 14, 2024 at 10:44 AM

Hi Couch,

First session back today after a two week break.

I feel utterly wiped out.

I'm grateful for the opportunity to discuss the two most recent triggering events with someone who has the full picture.

I feel like my support system's shrunk a bit in the last couple of weeks, so I'm hoping to feel a sense of building it back up.

stopdog · Mar 14, 2024 at 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I think i just finalized my grocery list for the week. Its for the veg, mainly. I feel like i never get tired of eating a crisp salad. And i did indeed choose cheese - some nonfat american slices.

I have been having salad with trader joe's falafel in it for breakfast - I like it. I sometimes make falafel but the tj frozen ones are very convenient

unaluna · Mar 14, 2024 at 02:58 PM

Salad for breakfast seems so - idk. Bizarre? But that's what Chef AJ and others of her ilk reccommend.

stopdog · Mar 14, 2024 at 03:50 PM

I like it - I try to add a meatless protein like an over easy egg, some chick peas, cottage cheese, hard boiled egg, falafel. Or when wanting to be more omnivorous I will add some left over meat or tuna fish. I probably would not have hated breakfast as much as a kid if we had salad. I always despised cold cereal and was not a huge fan of bacon and eggs or most other things that are common american breakfast items (can't stand pancakes either). I mean it would not have made much difference in early morning eating because I am not hungry until around 9 or 10 but at that time - totally up for regular food that isn't sugar or fried.

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 14, 2024 at 07:08 PM

I've become slightly addicted to writing Golden Shovel poems lately (where you pick a line from a favorite poem and then write a new poem, using each word in the chosen line as the last word in each of your lines, and of course you credit the original poet). Fun!

ArtieTheSequal · Mar 15, 2024 at 09:10 AM

Hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,368 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,830 hugs given	Mar 13, 2024 at 03:24 PM #527 Hugs, Lost. That sounds like good enough goals to me. (i forgot to post when i typed this yesterday oops)

LostOnTheTrail Tweaky Dog Member Since Aug 2011 Location: England Posts: 4,867 12 3,174 hugs given	Mar 13, 2024 at 05:01 PM #528 Thanks, Artie. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light Just hold on tight, that's all you gotta do...' Steve Earle - Fort Worth Blues 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,130 (SuperPoster!) 13 67k hugs given	Mar 13, 2024 at 10:46 PM #533 I think i just finalized my grocery list for the week. Its for the veg, mainly. I feel like i never get tired of eating a crisp salad. And i did indeed choose cheese - some nonfat american slices. Make myself a little meximelt. I keep waiting for taco bell to announce they are bringing it back. "It's what's for breakfast!"

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,368 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,830 hugs given	Mar 14, 2024 at 10:02 AM #534 i got a surprise day off today woohoo! yesterday afternoon just before i logged off, my sup sent out an email offering VTO for today (unpaid time off, for which we can use our vacation time to get paid for it) so I was like um yeah i'll take 8 of the hours being offered!

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,130 (SuperPoster!) 13 67k hugs given	Mar 14, 2024 at 02:58 PM #537 Salad for breakfast seems so - idk. Bizarre? But that's what Chef AJ and others of her ilk reccommend.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,368 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,830 hugs given	Mar 14, 2024 at 07:08 PM #539 I've become slightly addicted to writing Golden Shovel poems lately (where you pick a line from a favorite poem and then write a new poem, using each word in the chosen line as the last word in each of your lines, and of course you credit the original poet). Fun!

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,368 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,830 hugs given	Mar 15, 2024 at 09:10 AM #540 Hugs and head nods all around as wanted/needed/appropriate.