Couch 247: Choose Cheese!

I have not used any of the shopping services for local groceries. I am way too picky (or if not as kind -control freaky) about fruit to leave the selection up to a stranger

Thats because your still young and frisky. Actually they dont do a bad job. Ive only had to tell them once not to pick the "going bad soon so its cheap" stuff. They were not asked back again. And this git is now on that list!

thanks una.

I was listening to this and thinking I also needed to develop a thicker skin, but we are humans with feelings.

I feel like you always minimise your feelings Art. Who is telling you that you have to rush this process in order to grow up? You’ve ended a long term relationship- it will take time to move through it and sort out all those feelings.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Ax...AwOenBiCkiHVtk

I'll give that a listen after work.

I don't think I'm so much minimizing my feelings here, as I am basically coming to the realization that there are some things that I need to do for myself, that I can't expect L or anyone else to do for me. Something like that. Like, growing up. Only I can do that for myself. Closing one book, and opening up a new one to start writing my new story. Which will start I suppose with letting go of the old one. Jumped out of my old fish tank, and into a new, bigger one. Now I'm starting to sound like una! haha you know I love ya una-lou.

In the church of una, we dont speak in tongues, we speak in metaphors!

There is a difference between having feelings and letting feelings control you regardless of fact or circumstance. It is fine to be sensitive if that is what you want, but unless one wants to stay very miserable and victimmy all the time, one does need to learn to deal with a world that frankly doesn't care nor should it- about how sensitive or insensitive someone is. It is not on anyone else to fix/dodge/pacify/shield/etc. another adult (I am talking about adults not children. This is not the same as active unkindness - I am not talking about active intentional meanness or unkindness). It is like have an itchy shirt on - sure the shirt should not be itchy maybe -but to fix it - put on a different shirt because walking around complaining that the shirt itches or the manufacturer sucks or whatever - is not going to solve the problem.

Oh good lord.

Plus there is always the question of where is the line between support and co-dependance? Or support and delusion? Or support and false/ just dead flat wrong reassurance?
(this not at anyone - just thoughts I have)

that's what i think i'm trying to say. i'm changing my shirt. oops i used an emoji well at least it wasn't a blinky one.

Short survey, I'm thinking of this because of my teaching studies:
Some people claim to not have an internal monologue online.
Is there anyone here who would say that's true for them? An example I could think of is packing, when I pack for a trip, I rehearse different words in my head related to the items I want to pack.

I'm currently mainly wondering if somebody experiences this, if it's an experience, then I think it could be related to learning difficulties...

{Also if you actually experience no internal monologue, please walk me through how you think of something like packing stuff for a trip)

my h doesn't have an internal monologue because he just says everything out loud haha

I have an internal monologue. It is often quite unkind but sometimes funny, like you know how when sometimes you say a word and it just sounds weird all of a sudden? I'll hear it over and over in my head.

I have that too, like whhhhy did you say that? I also rehears conversations at length if they are important to me.

I didn't even think about that - but I do that too, replaying conversations.

Definite internal monologue here! Sometimes replaying conversations, too.

I don't know - I often have music stuck in my head (classical, classic rock, soft pop, dixieland, marches - I have a wide variety) and I do sometimes talk to myself in my head but I wouldn't generally practice saying something ( I mean I practice arguments or questions for court things like that) or think much about what I was packing or repeat conversations in my head. I am not sure I understand what it is that people are doing or not doing. I am usually thinking about something - is the same thing?

For packing I either make a list and just put that in or I know what I going to take and just pack it

Sunset pic from the balcony of my parents' condo. Last night here. Was a nice, much-needed break, but think I'll be glad to be home.

Does having future conversations with yourself count? I do that all the time.

Prozac cut down the chatter in my head. There used to be like 3 conversations going on all the time. Lately its just like, do i have to pee? I think i have to pee...

Prozac helped the depression I had at the time (maybe 8 years ago). But it dialed up my anxiety to like 110. So it was like, I wanted to go out and do stuff, but then had a panic attack heading there and wanted to just go home.

Zoloft was somewhat helpful to me, with no noticeable side effects, as was Paxil, though that one was years ago.

That’s a nice picture.

Young and frisky should be used more.

That makes perfect sense Art.

Actually its bad form to call old people words like frisky and feisty, in the US. Its considered demeaning. I hope you appreciate my tempting the wrath of Kong to warn you.