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Dec 09, 2024, 03:40 AM
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So, I bought this cute embroidered mushroom Christmas ornament today and was thinking of giving it to T before we break for the holidays. I know she accepts small gifts as I have given her one before. My concern about this particular gift is that the reason I know she likes mushrooms is because I have seen she follows a few mycology/foraging accounts on Instagram. T knows I have found her Instagram and we have talked about it a lot but I never mentioned looking at accounts she follows. I don't know if I'm overthinking it because I too like the ornament and originally was just going to keep it for myself so if I gave it to T she might just think I thought it was cute? But also, this is therapy so everything means something!
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Dec 09, 2024, 12:29 PM
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Dec 09, 2024, 12:37 PM
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I think it depends on how she reacted to your finding her Instagram. If she seemed totally fine with it, I imagine it would be OK. If she was a bit bothered/uncomfortable, then I'd be unsure about giving her a gift related to something you saw on there. Does she by any chance have something with mushrooms in her office? If so, then I think it would be a completely safe gift. Also, have you given her a gift before? I gave my T a gift once (for 5-year anniversary of seeing him), and it felt and seemed mostly OK at the time, though it turned out the gift was not really to his taste. But later, it became a bit complicated (it's a long thing to explain). I'd also think about whether you'd want her to use it on her tree at home (do you know if she has a tree?), display it in the office in some way, or if it doesn't matter. I do think it's a nice gesture! I just know from experience now that giving gifts to a therapist can be complicated. |
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Dec 09, 2024, 03:01 PM
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Maybe a gift that came from you organically would hold more meaning rather than one that you think T will like becuse she follows those acts...
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Dec 09, 2024, 05:29 PM
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I think it's a sweet gift. But like LT said, because it's based off of something you found out about her, it would probably depend how she feels about you knowing about her instagram. If she didn't mind, then the gift will probably be okay. If it caused tension or upset, then maybe it wouldn't be a good idea.
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Dec 10, 2024, 04:01 AM
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Thanks everyone for the replies. Aside from the possible weirdness from the Instagram stuff, I do worry a Christmas ornament might be weird because she might not want a gift from a patient on a tree in her family home. I think I might just give her a card and keep the ornament for myself as per the original plan.
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Dec 19, 2024, 06:26 PM
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I like the idea of the gift. If social media accounts are public then I’d say they are fair game. Re: her not wanting client gifts in the family home, I gave my T a card I’d made once and he made a frame for it and put it on a wall in his home, so you never know.
Or you could just keep it for yourself, it sounds cute. |
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