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Old Mar 23, 2025, 11:17 AM
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Same for cat vomit. So I usually wear slippers in the house.

But not scuffs. I loathe scuffs. I need slippers with backs on them.
The dogs take care of the cat vomit so that is not as much of a worry. I had one dog who used to poke the cat like he was a mother bird or a broken vending machine.
I have to have a harder sole - I usually use crocs or allbirds slip ons as my house shoe. I also don't mind bras - my breasts feel unsafe without one unless going to bed and a lot of material is irritating to them - they have strong opinions.
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 11:30 AM
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They're good for my self esteem when I go in public. Gravity has taken its toll.

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Old Mar 23, 2025, 11:40 AM
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I need my bras. Mine hurt my back and having a bra supporting them helps. I sometimes even sleep in a bra. It’s nice having them in place.
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 11:43 AM
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In high school a gf told me mine would sag to my waist if i didnt wear a bra. I'm still WAITINNNNNG!!
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 12:21 PM
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I go without a bra at home but I’m not “big” in that area.
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 01:37 PM
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I have mild scoliosis or something, my shoulders do not match, and neither do my breastesses, so i am constantly pulling up a bra strap and pulling down the underband. Which i figure looked less professional than not wearing one. I looked like i had brassiere-Tourettes. And yes i got professionally fitted once - seriously?? My ribs need to MOVE! Theres lungs underneath 'em! When i was young i was barely an A cup. Now, 100+ lbs later, B/C. I take after my father's side of the family (the women on his side, not my dad per se!). My mom's side? Huge bazongas. All us girl cousins - flat. And my mother liked to point out to me what a failure of a woman i was because of my lack. So yeah sensitive / militant subject to me.
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 08:28 PM
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I’m watching a 60 minutes episode about a lady in Australia that faked having cancer. Not long ago I watched a series on Hulu about a lady in California doing the same thing. The one in California got 5 years in jail. The one in Australia didn’t get jail time but had to pay restitution. While I get that they should pay back whatever money they got from people and organizations-I’m not sure jail for the one in California was the way to go. How does jail time treat whatever underlying psychological issues caused her to go to those lengths.
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Old Mar 23, 2025, 11:42 PM
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In high school a gf told me mine would sag to my waist if i didnt wear a bra. I'm still WAITINNNNNG!!
You’re as perky as a teenager! Must be all your pec work.
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Old Mar 24, 2025, 01:48 PM
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I work at a large company in the IT dept. My team works on an application that is old and desperately needs replacing but the C-suite people won't ever prioritize replacing it. There's always something they deem more important. They're being very shortsighted. It would cost millions of dollars and several years of work to replace.

We have a ticketing system at work to report application problems and request our team's assistance. There's a guy who submitted a ticket today with the title "[App I work on] is outdated and nearly useless". Another ticket he submitted last year was "[App I work on] is unreliable and a massive waste of time".

I feel like I'm being overly sensitive, but I am really triggered by his language which feels abusive. I know my personal history is potentially skewing how I'm hearing this. I don't think anyone can argue that it's not outright rude and unprofessional. Regardless of whether it's actually abusive, I'm feeling quite triggered by it and I feel so stupid because of that. I wish I could talk to P about this. I certainly can't chat with my team about how he sounds like my abusive ex.
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Old Mar 24, 2025, 03:50 PM
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To me, what the guy said is not unprofessional or rude - he did not blame the people working on it but the program itself. He sounds frustrated more than anything. There may not be anything your team can do to fix it, but I don't see what he wrote as being out of line. My colleagues and I have certainly written/said much worse about the crappy it the university where I work uses. Plus the ticket system that my school uses is so annoying that it just pisses everyone off before getting to the content.

Perhaps that is something you could try out on the new therapist to talk about if you are going to give them another go
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Old Mar 24, 2025, 04:38 PM
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So sorry, NP.

I can see where you're coming from, as it sounds like you've invested a considerable amount of time in this project. The fact that it's something you've worked on is what makes it feel so personal.

It doesn't help that it collides with your history, that is not really history in any somatic sense.

I get it, and I hope you can find a way to soothe the part of you that's experiencing it so intensely.

Take care,

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Old Mar 26, 2025, 09:17 AM
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Tired as all heck today. Had a screaming match with my husband at 3am. He was washing a load of his work clothes and the washer kept going off balance and he wasn’t going in there to rearrange the clothes so that it would stop making that god awful banging noise. So I got up and went into the bedroom where he was on the computer and told him
He needed to go redistribute his clothes in the washer and instead of redistributing the clothes to balance the washer he just restarted the cycle. Then the washer wouldn’t spin at all. One thing lead to another and we were screaming at each other about a bunch of other stuff. So yeah. That was real fun at 3am. Then I couldn’t go back to sleep and now I have to leave for work to go take care of a 1 year old and 4 year old adhd toddler. Should be an awesome day.

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Old Mar 26, 2025, 11:41 AM
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Oh Jersey,

That sucks.
I have a lot of thoughts, but none of them are helpful.

I hope your day improves.

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Old Mar 27, 2025, 09:13 PM
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Irony of ironies, my university is considering me for an award for faculty member who best reflects their mission of inclusivity.
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Old Mar 28, 2025, 04:11 AM
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Wow, @@.

That is mad.
Institutions have a weird view on these kind of things.
I say that as a reluctant recipient of an award for Endeavour Under Difficult Circumstances.

I know it wasn't the intention, but it read to me as 'Well done for being disabled.'

Today included a weird grief trigger that I could never have anticipated.
I created Facebook pages for a couple of projects that were sort of connected to the catfishing situation I ended up being embroiled in.

As soon as I discovered what had happened, I de-activated them.

Now Facebook tells me I have less than two weeks before they will be deleted.

I don't want to reactivate them, but it's kind of comforting to know that they still exist.

I'm not sure what to do.

This coming up just days before the April edition of Hell Week feels especially cruel.

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Old Mar 28, 2025, 06:15 AM
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Irony of ironies, my university is considering me for an award for faculty member who best reflects their mission of inclusivity.
Maybe its a way to award money for an interpreter?
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Old Mar 28, 2025, 08:23 AM
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Irony of ironies, my university is considering me for an award for faculty member who best reflects their mission of inclusivity.

Wow, I don't even know what to say to that.... Hm, perhaps their "mission of inclusivity" is to suck at providing it?
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Old Mar 28, 2025, 04:23 PM
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You'd be surprised how many places have a similar stance.

Still baffles me that there was no legal protection for PWD (people with disabilities) in the UK for the first three years of my life.

The US led the way in that regard.
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Old Mar 29, 2025, 12:09 AM
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Wow, I don't even know what to say to that.... Hm, perhaps their "mission of inclusivity" is to suck at providing it?
Just to clarify—it would be for things I’ve done to promote their mission of inclusivity. Which does indeed suck.

And as part of it, you propose a new university initiative toward inclusivity that they will fund (modestly).

So not quite just inspiration porn.
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Old Mar 29, 2025, 06:42 AM
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Just to clarify—it would be for things I’ve done to promote their mission of inclusivity. Which does indeed suck.

And as part of it, you propose a new university initiative toward inclusivity that they will fund (modestly).

So not quite just inspiration porn.

Ah, I see. Well, that's good about the proposal that they'll fund. Assuming they actually fund it.
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Old Mar 29, 2025, 06:45 AM
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You'd be surprised how many places have a similar stance.

Still baffles me that there was no legal protection for PWD (people with disabilities) in the UK for the first three years of my life.

The US led the way in that regard.

It's baffling to me, too. And I fear this protection going away under our current administration (which worries me in particular for D, but also so, so many other people). As it's part of DEI, which they seem to see as evil.
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Old Mar 29, 2025, 06:47 AM
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I can understand that, LT.

I've never understood the mindset of certain people around that...
But then, similar discussions are happening around disability benefits for those with mental health conditions here.

Taking people's security away will not help them look for work...quite the opposite.
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Old Mar 30, 2025, 11:44 PM
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It's baffling to me, too. And I fear this protection going away under our current administration (which worries me in particular for D, but also so, so many other people). As it's part of DEI, which they seem to see as evil.
The thing is, disability was never really part of DEI. That was all about race and ethnicity for most people.

But now that DEI is going away, disability’s part of it. Ironic.
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I’m watching a 60 minutes episode about a lady in Australia that faked having cancer. Not long ago I watched a series on Hulu about a lady in California doing the same thing. The one in California got 5 years in jail. The one in Australia didn’t get jail time but had to pay restitution. While I get that they should pay back whatever money they got from people and organizations-I’m not sure jail for the one in California was the way to go. How does jail time treat whatever underlying psychological issues caused her to go to those lengths.
Belle Gibson- (AUSTRALIA) I watched the Netflix version about her, thought it was okay.
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I have mild scoliosis or something, my shoulders do not match, and neither do my breastesses, so i am constantly pulling up a bra strap and pulling down the underband. Which i figure looked less professional than not wearing one. I looked like i had brassiere-Tourettes. And yes i got professionally fitted once - seriously?? My ribs need to MOVE! Theres lungs underneath 'em! When i was young i was barely an A cup. Now, 100+ lbs later, B/C. I take after my father's side of the family (the women on his side, not my dad per se!). My mom's side? Huge bazongas. All us girl cousins - flat. And my mother liked to point out to me what a failure of a woman i was because of my lack. So yeah sensitive / militant subject to me.
Sorry you had to go through that una.

Perhaps you could do back for a refitting now too?
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