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Old Apr 16, 2008, 09:55 PM
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Has anyone been in long term therapy... years.. 10, 15, 20... and then quit?

And how did that go... did you do a wean... like.. once a month for a year... or something like that??

Any thoughts... of how to quit.. after years.... so it is not.. so disrubtive???

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Old Apr 16, 2008, 10:40 PM
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I don't think there's any easy way to just quit. The first time, after 9 years, I was moving and gave 2-4 weeks notice I think (it was back in 1987 so a bit hard to remember :-) and that only messed me up for about the next 2-3 years, LOL. I saw the same therapist later, for another 9 years and we knew we were both going to retire and planned it, had a year and a half to work on it.

There's a big difference between quitting and terminating. The more you can do it together the better it is for each party I think.
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Old Apr 16, 2008, 11:22 PM
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Yes I have after 10 years then went back after a recent issue. It is one of those things that you think you can't live without in crisis mode but actually can when you are able to function relatively normally, that's the whole point of therapy I think.
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Old Apr 17, 2008, 12:50 AM
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That is a pretty tough decision to make. One that certainly shouldn't be made without talking to your therapist.

Are you thinking about ending your therapy sessions because of something that recently happened or is it more of a long-term issue?
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Honey, why are you thinking of quitting?
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Old Apr 17, 2008, 11:20 AM
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Thank you everyone....

I just feel.... like with the DID... it is always about integration.... and I just am tired of hearing that word trotted out as the fix all for my problems....
I feel I have gotten.. so very much help thru the years from my therapy.. I really have.. and am very grateful...

I have talked to my T about... things... about the "integration" thing... but he says things like "You, will feel differently the next appt"...

I realized that he is right..... mostly because it is "unacceptable" for me to express my frustration with life.. and with my eating disorder with him...

I also see a body memory massage T... for lack of a better word for what it is he does..
It is amazing work... and has made a huge difference in my life..

Yesterday.... I said: I have only so much energy - because of physical illnesses.. fibrom.. asthma.. GERD... and the eating disorder... like where "normal" healthy people might have a whole glass... I have maybe a 1/4 glass..

And he pointed out something to me... that perhaps I need to spend my 1/4 glass on finding things that make me happy... not.. on re-visiting the past...to focus all my energy on finding positive things... and the positive... would beget more positive things in my life...

and that hit me like a ton of bricks... that yes.. I expend my energy driving and getting to therapy.. 2x a week.. working on integration... and perhaps... that is not a positive use of my little energy that I have..

I am in no way "bashing" therapy.. I have found it very useful thru the years..

But.. my end goal is not the "integration"... so that when I am 100 - I can say ... yea.. I am integrated... I didn't enjoy.. what life I had left.. but I am integrated..
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