Need the PC Wisdom Regarding Erotic Transference Discussions

I love my T truly, he has gotten much better in these discussions but last session, we had a breakdown in the talks.

He has always said, I should and can, tell him everything. So, we discussed the erotic part of my feelings toward him. A major step for me since I find this at times a humiliating experience. It needs to be talked about though.

So after I told him some of my fantasies and feelings, that was met with "so if you did do such and such, and I didn't reciprocate in the way you want me to, I would become another rejecting male in your life".

I said well of course, I am not going to do such and such, that is why I wanted to talk about it.

His response was "I think you put me in a position sometimes where I'll reject you". I asked him what he meant or was it the dreaded word "boundaries" again?

He said yes boundaries and ways I will end up rejecting you.

Hello McFly!! You just did reject me. He has said these discussions were fine, he's been great overall but now an apparent meltdown.

This means, we'll be talking about it again next week because the responses do not make sense to me. How is talking about this subject setting up for rejection?

Another time before, he read one of my fantasies because he said it was okay. Later on he asked me "what did you want me to get from that"...

Again McFly, you said fantasies of all types we needed to talk through.

I know some on here are in my shoes with this sort of discussion and I'm interested to know some of the responses you have gotten if you don't mind sharing.

You can PM me if you would prefer...

well im a male with a female therapist (before termination).....after several discussions about my feelings towards her it became apparent she was " troubled" by my presence.......

I made a strong sexual comment about her during one session, and after about a year she brought it up during the therapists weekly meeting/sessions.....I guess another therapist told her she should terminate me because of my feelings towards her

I cant comment on female client/male therapist relationships although there is much more info on that type versus male client/female therapist

all I know is it ended without a warning ....

the whole experience has made me hesitant to even go back even with a male therapist

I remember reading that from you Brian. That is one of my big problems with this whole thing...

Another therapist told her to terminate and didn't even know you, what issues you were working on or the context of the discussion.

Over-regulation in this area = major negative impact for clients.