[sarahxxkristine]

i didnt wanan title it that because i know people would misinterpret it...its my mom who wants this to be my last session. i head off to college soon...the 20th or so...and my mom was the one who pushed these sessions and now all of the sudden shes asking if this is my last one...i really dont want it to be...i like going...i wanna keep going until i HAVE to stop going...but idk...i have my lisence so its really not working iinto her schedule at all...and i have no problem payin the 15 dollars for the session...idk i dont like talking about my sessions with anyone so i can give my mom a straight answer about it. i wanna tell her i liike to go, but i jsut cant...its embarressing for me

[missboots]

I would say that T is helping you see things in a different light and you would like to keep going because you are working on something to better yourself.

[SpottedOwl]

What is worse -- a possible moment of embarrassment, or not speaking up for yourself?

If you need some help, maybe try writing down what you want to say to your mom, and then rehearsing it or bringing notes.

I would also discuss this issue with your T, and let them know how you feel.

(((sarahxxkristine)) I believe you can do it!!!
I wish you strength!

[Christina86]

((((((Sarah))))))))))

Is there a counsellor at your college you could see? Sometimes they have free sessions through school.

I'd say you want to continue to develop and you're not sure how college is going to affect you emotionally and want the support. Hey, if you're willing to pay - it's not really her decision about whether you go or not!

[imapatient]

That's good, b/c it means you're getting something out of your therapy so far.

Once you're 18, you're an adult and your parents have no claim to controlling your life. Whatever role they do play is with your consent.

Parents sometimes have issues with a child's therapy because they see their child developing some independence that they feel threatened by. They also can feel threatened since so many therapy issues relate back to upbringing and relationship with parents.

As for the present, can't you go see the T without parent involvement--if you're 18, you can. Maybe the T would see you based merely on what you personally can pay, and not going thru parent's insurance?

Since you'll be at school in a few weeks the whole game changes.

If a big issue that you have relates to feeling like your parents are trying to run everything in your life, as I had, it can be therapeutic to establish a therapy treatment on your own accord--leave them out of it--as a move of independence.

Even if it gets paid via their insurance, they have no right of access to the records or to communicate with your therapist about you at all. You're protected by the confidentiality agreement regardless if they are your parents or paying the bills.

Aside from all of this, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with the degree of autonomy you'll have in your life in a matter of weeks.