[vienna]

Wow, a couple of months into therapy, and I've turned into a total doubter. I of course thought this was just the thing I needed a couple of months ago, when I started, but now I find myself worried about it and wondering if I should continue.

Part of it is, I'm sure, never having talked about this stuff with anyone before. Part of it is feeling like I really shouldn't talk about it after all. Part of it is thinking he probably won't believe me anyway - I've always been afraid no one would, which is why I've never talked about it.

Is this the kind of thing I should tell T I'm thinking about? Or is this the kind of thing you either walk away from or just bite the bullet and push through? I'm new to this and so ridiculously concerned with doing it "right" that I drive myself nuts.

vienna.

[searchingmysoul]

(((((vienna)))))

Take your time. Do what makes the most sense to you. Maybe bring up that you feel doubtful of the process and of T and of opening things up. You are allowed to need and want to take your time. This stuff is hard. Many hugs.

(((((((((((((((((vienna)))))))))))))))))))))

There is no "right" way to do therapy, so I hope you can try to let that part go. Sometimes just showing up is the most "right" thing you can do.

I got really uncomfortable a couple of months into therapy, for just the reasons you are talking about. I'd never talked about this stuff before, I didn't know if I SHOULD talk about it, I didn't know what his reaction would be. Talk about scary.

I still get the urge to "run"...especially when something new comes up that we haven't talked about before. But there is some part of me that has known, since the beginning of therapy, that if I "run", I'll just end up back at some other therapist's office eventually. Everything was finally making me physically sick, and it just had to be dealt with.

I would ABSOLUTELY talk to your T about your doubts about therapy. For sure. He will be able to help you work through what you are thinking/feeling, and just talking out loud about it will probably help clarify it for you too.

Take your time.

[gimmeice]

((((((((( vienna ))))))))))))))

My T has had to reassure me several times just lately that there is no wrong or right way to do therapy. It might be something to explore with your T but remember that you don't have to conquer all of this at once, take your time. I have been in therapy for just over two years and I have gone through a lot of these doubting moments, it's okay to doubt the process.

[sunrise]

I think all your doubts are very understandable and not uncommon. You are doing good to be in therapy and be sticking with it. As the others said, there is no one right way to do therapy. Your way can be right for you. You don't have to talk about everything right away. You could even just say, "sometime I want to talk to you about some things, not now, but sometime in the future. I'm worried though that you might not believe me." Then you could talk about that worry and doubt and I bet it would be a really good conversation.

[ECHOES]

"Anything and everything" is what you tell T.
If this feels new and unfamiliar to you, it's understandable you are having doubts. And rest assured, many of us have been where you are.
Resistance is common and your T will know just how to help you with it.

[chaotic13]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

"Anything and everything" is what you tell T.

Vienna, I haven't made it this far yet, but I can honestly say...the places I have ventured the last 2 months were totally in the "thing you should NEVER EVER talk about" category. My T spent a long time trying to help me understand that there is no topic that is off limits in her office. Only just recently have I attempted to take advantage of this. I've been incredibly uncomfortable and still tend to be in the reach and retreat pattern, but I am slowing working my way through my issues.

Be patient with yourself.