age of therapist/is your therapist younger than you?

My T is 50 and I am 36.

Mine is 67, I am 59 and 363/366ths - SHORTS??? you're giving us all nightmares!!!

I'm 23 and when I went looking for a T I wanted a younger female -opening up to a male T would be way too big of a leap. I also get along better with people 5-10 years older than me so that's where I started looking.

A few sessions ago, T made a comment (I don't remember how it came up) that another client guessed that she was in her early 30s and that was absurd ....I thought she was in her mid 30s. But after that I've bumped my guess too late 30s to early 40s.

Psych is actually her second career path so she may not have as much experience as others her age but it hasn't been a problem so far

I'm 22, so any therapist being younger than me is quite unlikely. My T is 38.

My T is 60ish (I don't actually know for sure, but I think that's pretty close.) I'm 48.

She's in her mid 30's but I was surprised when I found that out. Thought she was a bit younger.

I'm 65, my T's about twenty yrs younger. From now on, I want my professionals' professional life to exceed my physical life.

I am not te exactly sure how old he is.. My guess would be late 30s early 40s.. I am 27. I never really gave age a thought when finding a T.. Of course getting into to see Ts around here takes forever.. So, I just went with the first one who had an opening and hoped it worked out from there.

Lol...when I found out how old he was I was like OMG no way?! he was like umm what did you think?? I swear he was like late 20's. I'm pretty sure he blushed.

Hi Pink!!!!! you are missed!

>> I am wondering how important is a therapist's age to you, particularly when choosing a therapist?
T1 was 12 yrs older than me, which worked fine;
T2 is maybe 7-10 yrs younger, but with almost 30 yrs experience it’s not an issue. If she had been half my age, it would have posed quite a problem, I suppose, but as Treehouse says, wisdom has a lot to do with it.
When looking for a T2, I did disqualify one young one, not so much for being young, but really for being inexperienced.

>> And for anyone who has a therapist who is younger than you are-- what is that like for you?
I’ve only seen T2 a few times so far but she is sharp as a tack and extremely wise.
She recently mentioned a grown child, & I was happy to hear it. Reassuring for me that besides her training & experience, she also knows what it is to raise a child to maturity & they are still on good terms.

In my initial interview T. asked where I went to college and when I told him he said he went to a college very close and that he had friends that went to same college as mine so we compared years we graduated. He is about 2 years younger. I don't mind him being male or around the same ages. Our lives are very much in the same place and I think he gets alot of what I say.

Personally, I would have a problem with someone a lot younger than me because they dont have much real life experience. I wouldn't have an issue with someone a lot older than me. Although I think I would have a problem with a female T. no matter what the age..

I'm 28 my T is 48. I wanted a guy, older but not too old.

I once spoke with a T really close to my age and I kept thinking that maybe we went to school together- didn't ask, but felt awkward.

Plus I cannot imagine talking about sex with a T my age...

I wanted someone older. It would feel too weird for me to have someone close to my age (30ish). My T will be turning 60 soon...

I had mine down as late 20's. I think she was quite pleased I saw her as younger then she was. She did tell me she had another client who thought she was in her mid 40's to 50's, which kinda shocked me. I guess how old someone looks varies from person to person.

I'm 26 and my T turned 39 not too long ago...I wanted a male T and i do like him being older than me! I wouldn't want a T the same age as me...how would the daddy transference work then?! ; ) lol

My T is in her mid-50's.

The one I see is about 15 years older. The first one I saw was my mother's age, the second one probably 10 years or so older and now this one. At this point it is getting to be a reality that the one I see could die or retire, but such is the risk for my requirement they be older than me.

I'm in my 40s and my T is probably in his 60s.

My t is a little older than me. When he retires I'm not going to see anyone else. I don't want to have someone younger than me.

My pdoc was younger than me and I had a hard time with that one. Now I have a pdoc that is the same age as I am.

My T is older than me but I have no idea how much and I'd be scared to ask. I guess it's nice having someone a bit older who has probably gone through things I've yet to experience

We are both in the helping professions so I had hoped to learn from my T's experiences and wisdom. I have just discovered is younger - a good 8-10 years younger, with 13 years' experience under his belt.. I could be his older (oldest!) sister.
I guess chronological age is a poor marker - you never know what experiences people have had or what age they actually function at. You also have to consider at what stage of life the participants are in. In my case he's about 45-6 and I am 53. It's a good fit for me as I have always gravitated to younger men as I am actually an older sister with a younger brother. I won't deny sexual issues will be difficult to disclose initially, but at the same time his input will be quite valuable to me. I just may have to stare at my shoes or put a bag over my head till the anxiety and blush subside!! eek!

I'm 37 and I think my T is around my age. Maybe a few years younger. I don't have a problem with it. Some of my experiences are so unique that it would be foolish to look for someone with a similar background and some of my experiences are so common that- even if a t hasn't had the exact ones- they are certainly in every beginning t textbook.

For me, it was more important to find someone with a personality and values that merge well than with mine than a specific age or experience. Although I did want a woman.

My therapist is in her late 20s or early 30s. This is great, considering I'm 17. She's married and young enough to have children, and I'll admit I worry about this That would mean that things would change, and I would do anything for that not to happen.

My T is 54 and I am 24. I hadn't known that she was a lot older than me before I started seeing her, or I probably would have tried to pick someone younger.
However, now I love that she is older than me because she is like a mother figure to me, and also I internet stalked her and found out she doesn't have any kids, which is great because I feel like her kid (I mean, I know I'm not but I think she likes that I am a lot younger than her b/c she doesn't have any kids of her own, or maybe that is just my transference talking, haha). Sometimes it is funny when I talk about things like going out, because I'll say that I got home early, like around midnight, and she'll say "That's early?" or something like that becuase I think she goes to sleep around 9, based on when she answers my emails. Or when I talk about things like Facebook I have to explain it to her, but I think it's cute. Sometimes I also think she will try and use the type of language and words I use to get me to open up more which is also funny/cute. Like she will say "Oh are you scared of me getting all pissy again?" or "That really sucks." Things like that, and I could never seeing her saying things like that in her normal day to day convos, so I think it's kind of endearing that she tries to swear and use my "lingo" to be able to relate to me.

I am 38. My t is about 50. This is a good age difference. Old enough to be a little wiser, young enough to know about the things i am intteresyed in culturally.