[MissCharlotte]

HOLY MILKSHAKES BATMAN,

I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT I SAID TO T TODAY.

Today's session was about repair and needing to feel safe and held by T. It was the last session before his vacation next week and I knew that what I needed was to feel good when I left. I read him a poem I wrote about the rupture and we laughed together. It was very connected. I gave him the poem and told him it was his Christmas present. It was easy--the connection felt so genuine...and as I was about to tell him something I hear a word come out of my mouth that I use when I am addressing H. OMG I CANNOT BELIEVE I SAID THAT. SOOOOOOO, I quickly covered up and kept talking as if NOTHING totally embarrassing just came out of my mouth. T didn't say anything but I know he hears EVERYTHING because he totally has bloody dog hearing!

In case you are wondering what I said, it wasn't sexual but in the category of honey.......

LOL

I sometimes do that sort of thing with various people.

At least you gave T something to ponder over his vacation

[pachyderm]

Honeypot? Honeydew?

Babycakes? Sweetiepie?

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

In case you are wondering what I said, [...] in the category of honey.......

LOL!!
whatever it was, he may just make a note about feminist chauvinism.

LOL. I love how you just carried on and you both ignored it I would probably have done the exact same thing!

One of my old co-workers accidently did this in email form. She was writing an email to the sternest, least warm, and most intimidating of our bosses, and at the end, instead of just signing her name, she accidently signed it "Love, Diana". Oops! He never commented on it and neither did she.

I've called my therapist "Dear" or "Darling". Hehe.
My previous T has had an "oops" on the phone with someone after talking to them for several minutes she was getting ready to hang up and said "Ok, love you, bye bye" hung up and was like OOOOH! She talked to her daughter the call before that and did it automatically.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by notme9

One of my old co-workers accidently did this in email form.

one of my co-workers referred to a certain Gloria Schmidt and accidentally left the "m" out of her name.

I wonder what my T would make of that, haha

[coconut64]

MC...ooops

My T and I work on intimacy, he once told me something like we need to work on me getting comfy with intimacy like a husband and wife....So now I call him husband. Sometimes I'll say "go get a beer and watch some football husband".

((((((((MissC)))))))),
Those Freudian slips cause anxiety every time! Let's see, was it honey, make sure you end your trip in time for my next session? lol

I'm sorry you're a victim of T vacation. You should be compensated for that somehow. I'm here for you if you need me.

[Wreck]

What about Ts using terms of endearment? Mine sometimes calls me dear, and last night she called me honey. I always wonder if she's doing it on purpose, to lure me into the heavy transference. Not that she has to -- my heart does a little thumpity-thump whenever she does it.

[sunrise]

I have never used a term of endearment with my T, but sometimes I directly address him with his name, and to me, that is a bit of a term of endearment.

He calls me "my dear" sometimes, and I really like that.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

HOLY MILKSHAKES BATMAN,

I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT I SAID TO T TODAY.

Today's session was about repair and needing to feel safe and held by T. It was the last session before his vacation next week and I knew that what I needed was to feel good when I left. I read him a poem I wrote about the rupture and we laughed together. It was very connected. I gave him the poem and told him it was his Christmas present. It was easy--the connection felt so genuine...and as I was about to tell him something I hear a word come out of my mouth that I use when I am addressing H. OMG I CANNOT BELIEVE I SAID THAT. SOOOOOOO, I quickly covered up and kept talking as if NOTHING totally embarrassing just came out of my mouth. T didn't say anything but I know he hears EVERYTHING because he totally has bloody dog hearing!

In case you are wondering what I said, it wasn't sexual but in the category of honey.......

Haha...

I've totally done similar things. I was like... damn it, now I have to TALK about what I didn't want to talk about. Shoot myself in the foot sometimes. My T LOVES it when I do that because I'm so closed up.

[Simcha]

Originally Posted by sunrise

I have never used a term of endearment with my T, but sometimes I directly address him with his name, and to me, that is a bit of a term of endearment.

He calls me "my dear" sometimes, and I really like that.

Sorta like... "Frankly my dear..." lol.

I use my T's first name sometimes with the same meaning that you do. Thought I was the only one.

[deliquesce]

my pdoc told me i was a 'pretty young girl' once, and that made me feel good. other than that, he calls me 'girlfriend' a lot, which i find hilarious because it's so *wrong* coming from him.

[phoenix7]

hmmm i was walking withsomeone from work - not someone I know well and my sisters husband came around the corner and said hi - as we was walking towards us I turned to my Co-worker and said oh great here comes Sh**Head eek!