[MINIME]

I have been having such horriable dreams about my t's. In some they are in their office and I am unable to find them or call them and people are blocking me. In others they are different and turn really mean and I cant understand why.
I had one when i started therapy that was very bad. However now this last week I have been having them every night, Its not fun.

[Sannah]

Are you afraid that you are going to lose this wonderful thing that you have with them?

I have had dreams about my T - both bad and good. I ALWAYS bring them in and tell him about them...and I ALWAYS write them down right when I wake up.

I think dreams about T mean a lot about how therapy is going, how I am feeling, how I am perceiving T. I have actually had dreams about T that have sort of changed the course of therapy.

I'm sorry you're having bad dreams, though ((((((((((((((((((minime)))))))))))))))))))))))

[phoenix7]

Hey MINIME, I would definately discuss your dreams with your T's - it sounds like you are afraid of losing them or them turning into the bad T you had - sometimes I think when things are going a bit better for us mwe start to look for what could go wrong and maybe thats what your dreams are about - take care

If you count dreaming of your T exercising in white boxer shorts as a nightmare, then sure, I've had one.

Share the dreams with your T. I always share mine.

[SpottedOwl]

(((MINIME)))

I would definitely share the dreams with T. I had not a nightmare, but a disconcerting dream with my T in it, and talking about it led to some good progress.

In the meantime, so maybe your subconscious doesn't have to keep plaguing you with these dreams night after night, try to write them down. Put as much detail as you can remember, and include any feelings you had while in the dream.

I'm sorry this is not fun..and I'm hoping you can get a good night's sleep very, very soon.

[NOMOR]

I am sure glad to hear this happens to others. I have bad dreams about my t, I write them down just out of habit of keeping track of my dreams, but I have never told her about them.

[MINIME]

when i first started therapy I had a horriable nightmere and it made it hard to go back to therapy and I still feel the feelings it brought up. My T was painting her office and she was being mean and thn she turned into a baby and I went in and played baby stuff with her then she turned into a grownup and became mean and I hid by the side of the couch and started sufficating and she just watched me. It was a horriable dream.
I know that my first dream I had on sunday about my emdr T turning mean has to do with what w did emdr on last thursday. I think the snow storm and the holiday has added to the feeling of being unable to "find" my t's. My reg T has bn good about this she called me for therapy on monday when the office was closed and then I talked to her again wensday and then she eleft a messag for me on friday (today). I have been unable to talk to my emdr t because she went on vacation tuesday, and on monday the office was closed due to the snow and on Tuesday when she called me I was on the city bus and couldnt talk.
So I am pretty sure that I know where they are coming from and will talk to them next week.
Pink lol I have not had that kinda dream. However it was funny lol. and u made me laugh. Thanks for the replies guys.
Thanks for all the ideas and all the thoughtful responses.

[Luce]

Hi Minime. Your description of your week and how you keep missing that contact with your T's ties in nicely with your dreams, don't you think? So many things have been blocking you this week, and maybe that is bringing up some old feelings of past relationships (was there someone you needed in childhood that was sometimes mean?) At any rate, I think your dreams of your T's are definitely worthy of further exploration.

I used to share dreams about my old T with her. She used to share her dreams about me, too! I think lots of subconscious messages / conflicts can be brought into awareness through dreams.

[MINIME]

I dont think the dreams came last night. I left a message with my emdr T and I think that helped.
My reg T once shared a dream she had about me dont remember what it was about shoes and some kind of animal lol but she is silly anyways so I just laughed.

[lizardlady]

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I am an abuse survivor who lived with an abusive spouse for 26 years. I used to have nightmares that my husband and T (who was male) would take turns holding me down and r*ping me. I would wake up screaming. I never told T about them. Looking back it probably would have helped me to tell him.

I agree with the others who suggested writing the dreams down and telling your T.

[hangingon]

I had a dream about my last T when I was seeing her. In my dream, she was involved with a few people in stealing my purse. I remember looking all over my parents house for it but could not find it. I even went up to my T and asked her if she had seen it but she said no, I knew she was lying.

Kind of a silly dream. My T said it was because a purse holds many of my personal items/things about me and in a sense I felt that she was stealing them from me....ie...referred it to sessions.

Hangingon

[Kiya]

Last night I dreamt that I was having session in her house (which has never happened) and that at one point she left the door open and there were family members passing by. I wanted to close the door, but couldn't. Then a guy came in and she talked with him - i had a lot of conflicting emotions about this. I finally went and stared out the window... then played with her kids' dog. Then T said "What a cute picture" and took my picture with the dog.... @_@

[lifelesstraveled]

Originally Posted by MINIME

I have been having such horriable dreams about my t's. In some they are in their office and I am unable to find them or call them and people are blocking me. In others they are different and turn really mean and I cant understand why.
I had one when i started therapy that was very bad. However now this last week I have been having them every night, Its not fun.

Phew...How did I miss this! I had a dream I was in my T's office and there was someone else in the room with us and I couldnt talk to T. I was distraught and really needing to talk to T and T just didnt seem to care that this other person was in room. I felt like this person was invading my space and my time and T was sitting there laughing and joking around all the while I was sitting in the corner of the couch on the verge of tears...I woke up very mad at T just briefly though LOL....

[sunrise]

I had a dream about a year ago that I was in my T's office with 2 other guys and we were all supposed to do therapy at one time. I didn't like it at all. It was not therapeutic for me. I didn't know if I should pretend not to listen when the other guys talked so as to preserve their privacy, or if I was expected to chime in and offer my own insights into their problems, or what. Basically, I was not interested in their problems and felt constrained to open up with T in front of them. Looking back, that does seem kind of nightmarish.... I thought and thought who these guys in my dream might be and it was a couple of months later I finally figured it out. Those two guys were my divorce! This dream had come at a time when I was getting really tired of talking about my divorce in therapy, and it seemed like this was all T wanted to talk about. And he seemed to brush over other topics I would raise and instead talk about the divorce. It was very frustrating. I love how in my dream the divorce was personified as these two guys. Very clever. In the dream I tried to tell T that I would like to go back to having separate sessions with him without those 2 guys and he refused to do that. I was so mad at him. I thought maybe he was doubling up with clients in therapy because he had too many clients and I suggested that to him, and he got really pissed off. He showed me his appointment calendar, which was completely empty, and said he had plenty of slots open to see clients, but I would still have to see him with those two guys. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. In retrospect, the dream seems funny to me, but it was not at the time.

I also dreamt that T was handicapped and used a wheelchair. He asked me to help him once get out of his wheelchair and he leaned on me to go down a few steps to his office. And I carried the wheelchair down the steps and helped him get back into it. I hated, hated, hated that. I wanted to look away and not watch him trying to get down the steps. I hated seeing him like that. That was not a good moment. So again, kind of nightmarish...

[Kiya]

Oh, i forgot - a couple of years ago i had a recurring dream/mare of therapy at t's house (old t) and I couldn't get out! T actually did have sessions at house in this tiny room upstairs. But in the dream, it was a rambling ranch house and each time i tried, it would have more rooms, more halls... a bigger yard, then acres of land. When i finally got to the edge of the property, there were wire fences that were barbed on top. Then a parade of children went past with dogs and wagons, balloons... I finally got out only to find i was trapped in the caregiver's house... or by snow when I finally got to my car. Very strange. I told t and she kept saying, I'm sorry! Then the last one with her (old t) in it, it was a very different house, but as I got further, halls started twisting... a bunch of men went past singing YMCA.... the door wouldn't open... when I finally pried it open, the floor beneath me twisted away leaving a gaping hole and i was hanging on with one hand to the door knob.... trying to mountain climb my way out. What was that all about?!