My T just gets me

I have had therapy with 2 men very experienced T's (probably 65 yrs between them for 4 years) but yet my new T of just a few months have had more insight and just understands how a survivor of trauma is and what they need to heal. I have studied and read a lot of psychology therapies and theories and realize it is very hard to be your own therapist. lol My T's specialty is trauma recovery, so maybe that is it, but yet again my other T's were also trauma specialists.

I was feeling really bad for something I did, thought I was becoming an evil person like my mom. But my T saw it in a different light, that I was acting out of defense, out of trying to stay safe, and protect myself from someone who has hurt me before. I KNOW this is common of someone who has gone through torture treatments and abuse, but I didn't see it within MYSELF. She saw things more logically, I was too hard on myself.

Her thoughts completely changed my negative thinking of myself and now I am at ease. She calms me, her words, her presence. She asked me in session what calmed me down and I looked at her and said "your email", she paused and I started to worry because I was showing vulnerability, but she said "good". I still wonder about the pause though, I might ask her next.

Sounds like you have found a keeper!

Yay!!! ((((((((((((((Flower))))))))))))))

That's awesome

My psychologist is like that as well

Thanks,
I truly believe she is a keeper. It is weird because so many people thought I would have "women issues" even my T because my abuser was my mom, but I have to say that issue hasn't come into play at all.
I like that she keeps contact with email as well, if I ever need her, it is okay to email her. Most of the time she answers right away. It kinda keeps me in check. She believes that clients need to work on their issues all week, not just during the hour, so if we are willing to work all week, she will be there for us. I really like that.

It's awesome you found someone that you can work with so well!

I never thought I could work with a woman, but after a year with my (male) T, I found another (female) T who I see occasionally for spiritual teaching/mentoring. She is also very available by e-mail, which really does help in those moments when I am getting ready to spiral into a bad place in my head.

It is so healing to be accepted and understood....I'm glad you found someone who provides that to you