My T is also my marriage T

I am wondering if this okay? It has been fine up until now. During my session I explained that I recently have become very discouraged with the marriage and my T is explaining where my H is and why. I know she wants to help us work it out but I felt like she was sticking up for him and I felt a little disappointed. Of course I did not say anything. I have a very difficult opening up and I think this may have made it worse.

We usually alternate weeks, one week individual and the next couples, but last week my H quit couples so are only going to our individual sessions every week. Either way I have become very discouraged.

Thanks!
Xtree

i know a lot of people see the same T for individual and couples sessions. i guess it is up to you to decide whether this is a good combination for you. i would suggest talking to your T about it, and if you can't resolve the matter, then maybe looking elsewhere?

idk, but deli makes a good point about the t. the other thing is there were times i'd get "mad" at my T but realized later he was trying to help me see something i was missing.

I had the same T for individual and couples therapy. It worked fine for us, but my T has training in Family Systems therapy, in which the therapist works with different groupings of the same family. So he knew how to handle these situations and potential conflicting loyalties. It is very important for both you and your H to have very good communication with the T so that you can resolve potential issues such as your feeling the T was sticking up for your H (playing favorites?). You need to be able to speak those things and hear what the T has to say--hopefully get reassurance and clarification. If you need more support in the couples format, your T can make sure to give it if you let her know.

Do you know why your H quit couples therapy? If he did it because he didn't like to do couples work with the same therapist you see for individual therapy, then that could be a problem. And you have to ask whether it would be better to work through that with the current therapist or get a new couples therapist so your H doesn't feel that way.

Hope you guys can get back on track.

My T saw my H once, then refused to go again. I continued alone, but the fallout from that session affected me a lot. At this point I COULD NOT handle doing couples T with her.