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Jan 14, 2009, 09:18 PM
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Hi everyone,
Does anyone else ever feel apprehensive about going into T and just saying, "My week sucked?" and just laying it all out there? I am suspecting it is probably totally normal to do this, but I never have - too concerned about what the guy would think of me I guess. I am having a hard time handling things, feel like I am about to drown if just one more thing comes along type of thing. I'm back to that place where I can't eat, I can't concentrate, sleep is hard to come by. Yes this probably has to do with some of what is being talked about in therapy. Some of it is probably just the normal day to day stuff that if I were in a better frame of mind wouldn't faze me. How do you do it? How do you deal with the mountain of crap that comes up in therapy and keep chugging along? I have no idea. It's is overwhelming to me right now. I love how my T slows the session down with about 10 min left to go so I'm in one piece when I leave, but geez, I have yet to figure out how to apply that skill on my own in my day to day life, and it's really starting to feel like too much. vienna |
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Jan 14, 2009, 09:29 PM
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Jan 14, 2009, 09:30 PM
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((((((((((((((((vienna)))))))))))))))
Wow, you stated REALLY clearly in your post what is going on for you....and I have SO been there. Overwhelmed by stuff coming up in therapy, overwhelmed by day to day life. I know the feeling of "I'm about to drown" - in fact I've told that to T. This is why T is there. Can you just go and tell him what you said in this post? That you are overwhelmed? I was in a bad place I never could imagine getting out of last fall, and I finally just laid it on the line with T - made him understand how bad things really were - and he helped me find my way out. It wasn't an instant fix, but letting him know right where I was at the moment gave us a starting point, and together, we were able to get me safely back to shore. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((vienna)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry things are so hard right now. It is MORE than okay to go and tell T "my week sucked"....that's why he is there. Sending many 
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Jan 14, 2009, 11:04 PM
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((((((((((vienna))))))))))
It probably seems really cliche to go in and talk about how your week sucked. However, this is a collaborative effort between your T and you. Those things that overwhelm you in your everyday life are just as relevant to your therapy and healing as the other things you are talking about and/or are coming up...It is all part of it. You are not alone. I too have said "I am DROWNING!"
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Jan 14, 2009, 11:14 PM
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yep its hard to say my week sucked - but if it did please say so - T's are good at letting the light in and sorting things out - its hard work Therapy, and you T is there to help you get through it - take care and Im sorry you had a bad week - I hope your next week is better P7
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Jan 15, 2009, 01:41 AM
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I am a very negative person and T would be shocked if I came in and said I'd been good since we last met.
Going more often than once a week helps me a lot with the overwhelming feelings that come up. When I could only go once a week during the 2 recent holiday weeks, it was too long between sessions and I didn't hold up well at all. T wants to know everything and anything. Everything in your post is important to your therapy so I hope you'll share it with him
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Jan 15, 2009, 03:01 AM
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no... for me it is hard to say "therapy TOTALLY sucked". because i don't want to offend t. but even when i say my week sucked... i laugh while i say it.
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Jan 15, 2009, 03:13 AM
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yep the old say what you really feel whilst hiding it in humour trick!  I use that at work all the time! I hope your T sees through it
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Jan 15, 2009, 07:32 AM
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in a word, yes. What I really feel apprehensive about is going in there and saying it so very often. I see T every 2-3 wks, and if I can't present a positive over that long a period, I mean really. 
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Jan 15, 2009, 11:19 AM
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Vienna, beside therapy you need deep relaxation. I earnestly advice you to go for yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, meditation, massages (if it's your thing) or anything as relaxing as these.
When a person is deeply relax, many miracles can happen. Apprehensiveness I believe is felt when one feels vulnerable. Once you get to know your therapist, you will very likely feel less and less apprehensive. Some people are easiler to open up to others and some are not, we are all different. We need to accept ourselves just the way we are and keep working to be better. I wish you well.// Quote:
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Jan 15, 2009, 11:23 AM
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Ya, I agree with you Earthmama.
That's a good thing to do - feel what you feel inside and voice it out to T. T is always there to help you and know how to make you feel safe little by little. Quote:
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Jan 15, 2009, 11:26 AM
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I love this quote of yours Kiya! Thanks
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:00 PM
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Does anyone else ever feel apprehensive about going into T and just saying, "My week sucked?" and just laying it all out there? I am suspecting it is probably totally normal to do this, but I never have - too concerned about what the guy would think of me I guess. I have been there, and I do wonder what my T will think of me but he once said that I'm not taking time out of my life to do this "fun and ever so simple" work b/c things are going well.
I am having a hard time handling things, feel like I am about to drown if just one more thing comes along type of thing. I'm back to that place where I can't eat, I can't concentrate, sleep is hard to come by. Yes this probably has to do with some of what is being talked about in therapy. Some of it is probably just the normal day to day stuff that if I were in a better frame of mind wouldn't faze me. Again, I can really relate to that but another thing that my T told me was that he is not a mind reader and does not know when I am overwhelmed and what happens when I leave. My recent experience with discovering this is that unless I let him know he can't help. There are so many ways T's can help which is why they are in this field. Let your T know and I'm sure you guys can find some solutions so you don't have to be drowning. How do you do it? How do you deal with the mountain of crap that comes up in therapy and keep chugging along? I have no idea. It's is overwhelming to me right now. I love how my T slows the session down with about 10 min left to go so I'm in one piece when I leave, but geez, I have yet to figure out how to apply that skill on my own in my day to day life, and it's really starting to feel like too much. There is something that I just started doing and both my T and I can relate to it. We both love working out and being active. There are so many times when I am on some machine or in a class or even blading that I feel I can't do it anymore and I play a game called 1-5 minutes depending on where I am at. Usually it works and I finish the work out or activity. Life is kinda like that for me right now and in my T's office we have started to use that method. It really has helped and the other day I found myself easing up and being in the moment which in turn helped not feeling so overwhelmed there or at home. |
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Jan 16, 2009, 11:29 AM
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Thank you for all of your comments. I will probably talk to T about this next week when I see him. I guess if everything were going well and I could deal with everything independently in some stellar way, I wouldn't be talking with him in the first place, so might as well be honest with the man. I would want him to be honest with me.
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Jan 16, 2009, 06:11 PM
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My T said to me:
1. I want you to feel like you can be yourself in here. I want this to be a place for you to be yourself. 2. I care for unconditionally. If I weren't able to do that, I wouldn’t be doing this kind of work 3. I never want you to feel like you have to please me. Recently, I've been feeling like the next time I see him, he is going to say he just has to refer me to someone else, because I am just not improving. I just don't think I could handle that kind of rejection atm! So, last session I just told him that! I was so glad I was honest with him!! He said NO WAY! I'm in this for the long haul! Be as honest as you can with your T!! I've found that works the best. And don't be afraid to ask your T, to slow down on the heavy stuff. If you just want to vent about your week--go for it!!!! You are there for YOU and you know best what pace to go at! Good luck at your next appointment!! Let us know how it went, OK? |
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