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Apr 24, 2009, 08:52 PM
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Some of you know that I had mentioned how my therapist started giving me hugs after session. Well the past two sessions she didn't offer, and I was left wondering if I did something wrong ect.
Well after session last night. Which by the way was pretty good. I was feeling kind of sad about the hug thing. So I decided to just go for it, thought whats the worst that could happen right.....I ended up sending her an email about how she had asked before if I liked hugs and I said yes but would never ask for one; and how she said some people like them that they are kind of reassuring. Then I said that you hadn't offered the last two sessions and I was wondering if there was something I said or did that made you not want to offer, or made you think I didn't want the hugs. That I actually liked the hugs and they were very reassuring. They kind of gave me something to hold on to for the week. So she emails me back today, thanking me for telling her that. Then she said I'm sending you a virtual hug. I thought that was really nice of her. Not that I am not really nervous about going to see her next week after sending that email..lol Just thought I would share. Sometimes its so hard to take that risk. Yet, you never know how it will turn out. I am sure she is going to want to talk about it  yikes...
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Apr 24, 2009, 09:35 PM
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Apr 24, 2009, 09:43 PM
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I admire you for going ahead and e-mailing her about the hugs. I have never hugged my T but there have been issues that have come up over the last year and a half that I would have loved to have been able to just step up and say something, but I never did. I think it's fantastic that you did and I like the "virtual hug" that your T offered you. That's awesome! I'm sure she will want to discuss this with you at your next session but that's okay. It sounds like she was okay with you asking about it. Take care and thanks for posting!
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Apr 24, 2009, 09:46 PM
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I'm So glad you took the risk!!!!!!!!!! TC
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Apr 24, 2009, 11:06 PM
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you took the risk - you were/are very brave and it payed off - congrats!!!
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Apr 25, 2009, 12:20 AM
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My therapist has hugged me a few times and i think its important to talk about hugs.
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Apr 25, 2009, 09:48 AM
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MUE,
Maybe if you get the nerve you should try extending your hand again. Perhaps no one has done that with him in therapy in a long time and thats why the stare, but then again maybe you were interpreting it as a what the heck are you doing stare, when it may not have been that. It can be really interesting how we interpret things. It would be worth a shot, you never know gravvy, Have you and your T ever had talks about hugs or touch ect in therapy? Sometimes therapist won't offer because some clients absolutely hate it. Others want the client to ask for what they need. While I know that all therapists don't offer touch, there are many who do; if that is something you are needing, it may be a good idea to talk about it with her. If you don't have the nerve to do it face to face, perhaps writing her a letter or sending her and email would help. Just some thoughts.. Soliree, Thanks, I am happy I did too, although I still sometimes worry about the fact that I asked her about it. Now that its out so to speak, it may not feel as real when she gives them. Before she would offer them on her own after session, this time I asked about them. I don't know, see how silly the brain is, or at least my brain. Now I am wondering if I should have refrained from telling her, but I do like that hugs and the change in not getting them did make me feel like I did or said something that made her change what she was doing. Phoenix, Thank you as well. I hope it did, I thought the email was nice of her. Guess an in session conversation may be due. Crystalrose, Yeah, mine started offering hugs after session on her own after I saw her for about two months. Of course she asked me first if I like them and if she could hug me. So when she didn't the past two sessions I thought maybe I did something wrong. Probably silly thinking on my part but its hard for my mind not to wander there when things change. Ok so am I making the hug thing more confusing than it really is, or perhaps it is that confusing.......
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Apr 25, 2009, 02:39 PM
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Good Work! You identified a need that you had and you spoke out to get it met!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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